*First off, my girlfriend and I are both of age, and I believe in proper treatment of ladies and did not pressure her into anything.*
We have been going out for two months, and have kissed/held hands. Tonight, we made out, it was her first time, and my first time with her. As we were making out, she paused for a bit, because she was nervous. After a while, she stopped and asked, "What do we do next?" then she told me to make a move. We started making out again, and I put my hand up her shirt and undid her bra and started feeling up her breasts. About 4-5 minutes later she said, "We should stop." When we talked about it later, she said what we were doing was natural, it was just our first time. Three questions:
1. Was feeling her up innappropriate?
2. What do we do next, everything short of sex?
3. What should I do with my hands while making out?
Also, please include any other information/advice that you think would be helpful in my situation.
2007-01-02 18:07:49 · 11 answers · asked by mike_gaerheart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well considering that you've only known her for two months...it's a little rushy..but i dunno..she told u to make a move didn't she? so i'm confused too..mayb she wanted to do something more..but in the end..she felt as if things are being rushed..so altogether...mayb she changed her mind.
tip on kissing her...for now...just hold her close..or gently rest ur hand on the side of her neck...
feeling her was a little inappropriate for two months of knowing..but i dunno that's just me..i'm conservative..so i dunno
i think u should just kiss for now...nothign leading to sex is good for two months relationship..
i hope i helped
2007-01-02 18:15:28 · answer #1 · answered by 2Quinn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mike, you sort of answered the question yourself. What to do "next" and what to do with your hands...all this comes naturally. I'm taking you at your word that you're "of age". So, sex is natural. It's been around for thousands of years. Adam and Eve had sex, so did my parents...and everybody in between. There are some who believe that sex and marriage go together and do not belong apart. There are some who believe that if it feels good, go for it. You, and your friend have to make your own decision "how far" you want to go. Trouble is, once you get started it's pretty hard to stop. Use protection. Remember stds. If you want to go up to a point but don't want to have "sex", then masturbate each other. This is safe, a bit messy, but ultimately satisfying. Also, much depends on how much time you have and what space is available. The front or back seat of a car gets pretty uncomfortable. Mostly, you will find that you will do whatever comes naturally whenever you both are ready.
2007-01-03 02:16:11 · answer #2 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your question you say it was your first time making out with her. You probably know what to do. You are either 18 or 21. Ok well anyways a guy always undoes the bra first. Then test the waters with the below the belt area. Just slide your hand inbetween her legs right on top of her crotch fast and see if she pauses while kissing you. My guess is she will because she was scared about the breast thing. If she lets you do it three times undue her pants and pull them and her underwear off. Now, I know your smart enough to know what comes next. Go down on her etc... best of luck.
2007-01-03 02:13:01 · answer #3 · answered by coolchick 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't sound like your gf is ready for much of that. I was like that a couple years ago, and the relationship left me feeling very confused. If you are going to make out, your hands should touch her face, hair, or side. Save the feeling up for later.
2007-01-03 02:13:09 · answer #4 · answered by micha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you read the book.....Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Sex But Was Afraid To Ask. ( it is a REAL book no joke)...I hope I got the title right.
2007-01-03 02:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww...maybe she was scared completely normal...lets see first you should caress her hair, then her body (not necessarily her boobs and behind) then you can start touching the places you like and playing, then maybe you'll go all the way, but be gentle not pushy if she doesn't want to then just keep caressing :)
2007-01-03 02:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1 if she had a problem with it then try something different. but it sounded sexy so i think u should if ur ready!
2 ummm not sure
3 look at answer 1 other wise......
2007-01-03 02:20:28 · answer #7 · answered by O 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
next time let your hands wander all over her body, maybe a bit of a local massage.
2007-01-03 02:52:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
theres should handbooks about this, a good exotic one is the cama sutra,.
2007-01-03 02:09:57 · answer #9 · answered by ihateacaf0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no idea never had a kiss :(
2007-01-03 02:21:27 · answer #10 · answered by Pie Girl 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋