can a true christian help me please?

Question

I have almost gone back into a lesbian lifestyle after 15 months of celibacy. I have read in the bible that jesus leads to true life and the sin brings only death. I am a bit afraid that I will be alone for the rest of my days if I don't go back to being lesbian, and I doubt the belief....I lose myself in sex talk and stuff....can you give me words of encouragement please I am on the fringe.

I just need to stay strong. I think the ten points go to the woman who showed me the records of hell.
I can overcome it, I have to think further than just my nose, I have to think about my life in heaven, and I have to see the positive things I have instead of lesbians: a christian friend, a christian mother, and I have god and jesus. Sometimes it's hard, but I think we will always have temptations....A lesbian more than heterosexuals....but I can do it, I just have to.

Answer 1

Psalm 91 is the best medicine for fighting sin. We are all sinners. I'm no better than you.

Answer 2

There are two keys things to remember. "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." He will give you the strength to overcome any obstacle including including lesbianism. The second thing is that He loves you. In these politically correct times, encouraging someone to leave the gay lifestyle is seen as gay bashing. God does not like the lifestyle but you are NOT the lifestyle. He loves you with a perfect love, you are His creation, no matter what has happened before in your life.

It's always easy to throw out Scriptures and say I'll pray for you but I suspect you need something more concrete. You do not have an easy road but there are steps you can take that will make the journey easier. It says "Finally, beloved, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is pleasing, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence and if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things." You have to find a way to disconnect from your old lifestyle because the pull to return will be ever-present and almost unbearable if you maintain ties to it. What the scripture above means is you need to set your focus on good things, it may mean finding new friends or disassociating from old activities. If internet pornography tempts you there are filtering services such as http://www.cnonline.net/default.asp. Some churches even have an accountability ministry, something like a 12 step program that partners you with mature believers that can help guide you.

The first thing you need to do is find a healthy, well-balanced church in your area. You'll know when you have found the right one because you will learn and feel like you have come home. Surrounding yourself with believers who care will add strength to your fight. You are going to run into people that judge, ignore them, they aren't worth the dust on your feet. You are God's creation and He wants only the best for you. Many blessings to you.

Answer 3

First, God bless you and welcome home.

Jesus knows you're trying. He's there with you every step of the way. Go to Him in prayer, study the bible, and go to Him in church on Sunday. He's waiting with open arms.

I would also encourage you to focus on those things that are healthy for you and keep you busy. It's like you're in a healing stage right now, still vulnerable to the things you're trying to get away from. Stay strong, stay close to Jesus. You'll be fine.

Myself... I'm 32 years old and have never been married. I wonder too, if I won't be alone for the rest of my days sometimes. It's like no matter how hard I try I can't make a connection. I lose my center, I get upset, depressed, the most hopeless wreck you ever saw, but come Sunday, it's the most amazing thing how Christ puts me back on my center in church. As stupid as I get sometimes, I thank Him for that... don't know what I'd do without Him.

Again, God bless you, and welcome home. Write anytime.

Answer 4

First you need to keep praying and reading the Bible. Get family and friends that are Christian, people in your church to pray for a personal problem you have. You have to be aware of the fact that you are never alone. God is always there and I pray that if you don't have a good friend now, that God will provide someone there for you. Life is not just about sex. God can provide you with companionship that you can have until death in other ways. You need to believe that and ask Him for it. If for some reason you make a mistake you just need to repent just like any other sin. The sin of homosexuality is just like any other sin that most people in the world fall into. You are no worse than any other person. God loves you no matter what and you will still go to Heaven if you truly believe in Jesus regardless of what you would do. Good luck to you. I will pray for you right now. God bless.

Answer 5

At 1 Corinthians 6:9, 10 Paul provides a list of those who will not inherit God's kingdom. Included in that list are homosexuals. But at 1 Corinthians 6:11 he says: "And yet that is what some of you were. But you have been washed clean." Isn't a clean standing before God worth more than sex? I see that you mention you lose yourself in sex talk, etc. Just as an alcoholic will have to keep himself from situations where he knows the temptation will be strong to drink (ie, a bar, a friends house who drinks, a party where alcohol is served and everyone will be drinking), someone in your situation will need to avoid circumstances that may pull you back into that lifestyle. It isn't easy, but it isn't impossible either.

Philippeans 4:13 is encouraging: "For all things I have the strength by virtue of him who imparts power to me." Prayer is very important in general, but to you it will be vital if you want to succeed in your efforts.

You're doing great to have 15 months of celibacy. Don't give up now.

Here is a paragraph from an article on homosexuality that may be helpful to you:

A person who is making progress in his desire to please God should not get discouraged if he cannot at once clear his mind and feelings from all wrong thoughts and emotions. He must keep on fighting, however, taking encouragement from the fact that even the apostle Paul confessed to not being able to do fully what he wanted to do. But he did not give up the fight. He did not yield to the flesh, but he ‘pummeled his body and led it as a slave,’ so that he could say: “For all things I have the strength by virtue of him who imparts power to me.”—1 Cor. 9:27; Phil. 4:13; Rom. 7:13-25.

As for being alone for the rest of your days, are you interested in men at all? If so, don't worry about being alone. Take your time and find someone suitable for you. It isn't wise to focus on the sexual aspect of a relationship anyway. The newness of a relationship...any relationship...wears off soon enough and you'd do well to have chosen someone you have a great friendship with. The most successful marriages are made of people who consider their spouse to be their best friend. If you really aren't interested in men at all, perhaps you could focus your life on something other than a sexual relationship.

I'm not a lesbian, so I can't say I know what you're going through. But you definitely have my sympathy and I wish I knew better advice to give you. I hope this offers you at least some encouragement. If you want to talk, feel free to e-mail me.

Answer 6

This is a big issue. I think speaking with a professional Christian counselor would be very helpful. You are making the right decision to stay away from homosexuality. It is a sin. I'm sure lots of people will say otherwise, but you need to know what God says about it. Read the Bible for encouragement. The book of Romans might be helpful. Stay strong. God wants to bless you!

Answer 7

The best thing is to avoid "putting yourself on slippery slopes". Watch where you walk and hang out, otherwise you'll "lose yourself" in the things you mentioned. Dont worry about being alone....remember Genesis?
When God said "it is not good for man to be alone", he wasnt! He was with God! Because there are only things the opposite sex can only fill in for us. Why would nature give us desires for the same sex but make the body otherwise??

Finally, speaking as someone who had the pleasures of this world, believe it when i say
"Emptyness does not come from being weary of Pain,
Emptyness comes from being weary of Pleasure"

Answer 8

For every right hearted person on earth right now, Satan has aimed his arrows and it sounds very much like you are wanting to do what is right and good in God's eyes. Do not lose hope. Soon, Satan and all the influence he has on us and our lives will be done away with and you will begin to see the benefits of remaining faithful. Fill your heart and head with good, positive things. Read the Bible--even Bible stories to the little ones. Your heart is like a drinking glass full of dirty water--the more good clean things you pour in it, the purer it becomes. The more bad, the dirtier it gets. You decide what fills your heart and your head and you control the outcome for your heart and ultimately your life and the lives of your children. May God bless all your efforts.

Answer 9

This can be a challenging situation to be in but you need alot of support, encouragement and help to do what is right. There are so many people who have been in this situation and they did not remain alone for the rest of their days. It's so hard but don't lose hope and don't give up. You need to get with a ministry where they can support you and help. It's not easy and you're definitely not alone.

Answer 10

Dear Liz,
I am a 54 year old Christian. I accepted Jesus when I was 18. I have had much frustration with my sexuality over the years. I came close to being married a couple of times. I have kept myself, by the grace of God, from living in fornication. Sexual sin never involves just you, it involves any partners you have, and if you indulge your fleshly desires in a disregard for the welfare of another, then you are using people selfishly and trifling with their immortal souls. Jesus Christ knows the stuff we are made of. He was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin. I feel I have failed God in many ways, but He has never failed me. I can testify today that I live pretty much in a continuing awareness of His presence. He is more than able to make up for the lack of a mate in my life. He is closer to me than any person. He said if anyone loves any earthly person more than Him, including their self, they were not worthy of Him. I for one am in complete agreement with His assessment. He really did die for you, and He really is the only one who gives eternal life. The one who seeks to save his life will lose it - the one who says no to himself and yes to Jesus, that is the one who has overcome the world, and is worthy of eternal life.
Please seek a Christian friend you can confide with. If you can't find anyone like that, seek out a reputable on line ministry. There are others who know where you are coming from, who are more than willing to help. I hope this helps a little. Peace to you - I'm praying for you.
a brother

Answer 11

First of all, if you have accept Christ as your Savior, you will never really be alone, but I know what you are talking about. You want someone to share your life with. I commend you for your 15 months of celibacy. God has helped you these 15 months. He will continue to draw you closer to Him. Do not allow Satan to make you think that you will be alone if you do not return to the lesbian lifestyle. He will bless you. I will pray that God keeps you strong, and that He will send you someone to love. You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. God bless you- by the way, we all struggle with something, no person is immune to something that Satan is not trying to use to draw us away from the Lord and ruining our testimony. God loves you!!