DOes an indian mother have the right to beat her 16 year old daughter?

Question

my mum hit me 2day,she slapped me on my face too. what do i do? can i tell the cops?what will they do about it?

she does do it once in a while. this time her reason was that i back answered. but i couldnt satnd being told how wrong i was when i knew tht i wasnt wrong. i have holidays now. and for 1 month i havent gone out iwth my friends. i asked her if i can and she said no. i asked her why n she said there r many reasons but i dont see the need 2 explain it to u. then i said(in a louder tone) tht u cant xpct me 2 sit at home all day and do chores around the house.so she yelled at me and said"u r supposed 2. its ur house too"...and the arguement went on 4rm there. she hit, lyk i fell on my bed. i tried 2 stop her and pointed my finger at her and she said" im ur mum. i deserve some respect, dont point fingers at me" n then she slapped me. i got pissed n i said"dont treat me like a dog...." n then it went on. i really love her. but im jus soooooo sad now. i dont know wot 2 do. she told me not 2 call her mum again cus i dont deserve 2 call her that! and tht really hurt me,,,,

she does do it once in a while. this time her reason was that i back answered. but i couldnt satnd being told how wrong i was when i knew tht i wasnt wrong. i have holidays now. and for 1 month i havent gone out iwth my friends. i asked her if i can and she said no. i asked her why n she said there r many reasons but i dont see the need 2 explain it to u. then i said(in a louder tone) tht u cant xpct me 2 sit at home all day and do chores around the house.so she yelled at me and said"u r supposed 2. its ur house too"...and the arguement went on 4rm there. she hit, lyk i fell on my bed. i tried 2 stop her and pointed my finger at her and she said" im ur mum. i deserve some respect, dont point fingers at me" n then she slapped me. i got pissed n i said"dont treat me like a dog...." n then it went on. i really love her. but im jus soooooo sad now. i dont know wot 2 do. she told me not 2 call her mum again cus i dont deserve 2 call her that! and tht really hurt me,,,,

she does do it once in a while. this time her reason was that i back answered. but i couldnt satnd being told how wrong i was when i knew tht i wasnt wrong. i have holidays now. and for 1 month i havent gone out iwth my friends. i asked her if i can and she said no. i asked her why n she said there r many reasons but i dont see the need 2 explain it to u. then i said(in a louder tone) tht u cant xpct me 2 sit at home all day and do chores around the house.so she yelled at me and said"u r supposed 2. its ur house too"...and the arguement went on 4rm there. she hit, lyk i fell on my bed. i tried 2 stop her and pointed my finger at her and she said" im ur mum. i deserve some respect, dont point fingers at me" n then she slapped me. i got pissed n i said"dont treat me like a dog...." n then it went on. i really love her. but im jus soooooo sad now. i dont know wot 2 do. she told me not 2 call her mum again cus i dont deserve 2 call her that! and tht really hurt me,,,,

she does do it once in a while. this time her reason was that i back answered. but i couldnt satnd being told how wrong i was when i knew tht i wasnt wrong. i have holidays now. and for 1 month i havent gone out iwth my friends. i asked her if i can and she said no. i asked her why n she said there r many reasons but i dont see the need 2 explain it to u. then i said(in a louder tone) tht u cant xpct me 2 sit at home all day and do chores around the house.so she yelled at me and said"u r supposed 2. its ur house too"...and the arguement went on 4rm there. she hit, lyk i fell on my bed. i tried 2 stop her and pointed my finger at her and she said" im ur mum. i deserve some respect, dont point fingers at me" n then she slapped me. i got pissed n i said"dont treat me like a dog...." n then it went on. i really love her. but im jus soooooo sad now. i dont know wot 2 do. she told me not 2 call her mum again cus i dont deserve 2 call her that! and tht really hurt me,,,,

she does do it once in a while. this time her reason was that i back answered. but i couldnt satnd being told how wrong i was when i knew tht i wasnt wrong. i have holidays now. and for 1 month i havent gone out iwth my friends. i asked her if i can and she said no. i asked her why n she said there r many reasons but i dont see the need 2 explain it to u. then i said(in a louder tone) tht u cant xpct me 2 sit at home all day and do chores around the house.so she yelled at me and said"u r supposed 2. its ur house too"...and the arguement went on 4rm there. she hit, lyk i fell on my bed. i tried 2 stop her and pointed my finger at her and she said" im ur mum. i deserve some respect, dont point fingers at me" n then she slapped me. i got pissed n i said"dont treat me like a dog...." n then it went on. i really love her. but im jus soooooo sad now. i dont know wot 2 do. she told me not 2 call her mum again cus i dont deserve 2 call her that! and tht really hurt me,,,,

she does do it once in a while. this time her reason was that i back answered. but i couldnt satnd being told how wrong i was when i knew tht i wasnt wrong. i have holidays now. and for 1 month i havent gone out iwth my friends. i asked her if i can and she said no. i asked her why n she said there r many reasons but i dont see the need 2 explain it to u. then i said(in a louder tone) tht u cant xpct me 2 sit at home all day and do chores around the house.so she yelled at me and said"u r supposed 2. its ur house too"...and the arguement went on 4rm there. she hit, lyk i fell on my bed. i tried 2 stop her and pointed my finger at her and she said" im ur mum. i deserve some respect, dont point fingers at me" n then she slapped me. i got pissed n i said"dont treat me like a dog...." n then it went on. i really love her. but im jus soooooo sad now. i dont know wot 2 do. she told me not 2 call her mum again cus i dont deserve 2 call her that! and tht really hurt me,,,,

Answer 1

No she doesn't have the right. She should respect you more than that. What happened?
My mom beat me for years and I'm not able to forget that.
I never called the cops or anything---too much crap can get stirred up with that.

Answer 2

I've been slapped by my mom before. It sure wasn't pretty and it was never done at a moment I was expecting it. With that said, I guess it really all depends on the situation at hand, what has led up to it and what makes your mom lose her cool, these are the things that are important for you to maybe try to learn and understand. This does not mean that you must understand why she's right in doing it, but let's be honest no one is perfect and if you feel like crap because of what your mom did then she is wrong because it isn't fair to abuse someone you you're supposed to love to try and win an argument. You'll get older and realize how strong you are having gone through this with your head high. Also talk to some good friends about it maybe they'll best be able to cheer you up >: P

Answer 3

My daughter has Indian friends, many of them get slapped and biten by their parents (mostly moms) all the time! This is really upsetting. I mean, this is America, but they still don't care. When my daughter was in second grade, her Indian friend told her that her mom hit her jaw with a fist for not doing the homework fast enough. Of course, my daughter told me, and I went and told to their teacher in school. I think, after that the teacher had a conversation with that girl's parents. Maybe that is what you should do. Do you have a teacher you can trust? Ask your teacher to talk to your parents, and explain them that even though Indian traditions are well respected ones, however, beating a child is considered to be an abuse and is not acceptible. And if they continue to do so, the teacher will have no choice, but to notify the authorities. I really don't know what will happen if they notify the authorities.
Or you can keep standing up for yourself and keep resisting! How many times she can hit you? Just stay your ground. Be firm, and make it clear to her that you will not allow any violence against you anymore. She will eventually give up.

Answer 4

There is no right for any parent to beat any child. The police can help you they can take you out of the home and put you some ware safe. They will do an investigation. If you have any marks from where she hit you then it proves your case even better. I would go to some one right away about that. They way you described it it sounds like if she does it all the time it could possibly be emotional and phrysical abuse. I would tell some one right away how you feel. Teachers at school are great for that. If not then maybe the police station.

Answer 5

I think if more children were beat by their parents, the world would be a better place. So I say yea she has a right to beat you.

If you call the cops social services will come and probably put you in foster care. But your mom probably won't go to jail. At 16 you should be able to tell the difference between discipline and abuse. If you are being abused you should call the police. If you are being disciplined, you should stop doing the wrong thing.

Answer 6

a slap in the face is not a beating. When you say hit what do you mean.?

Does she slap you everyday.? Are you afraid of her .?

I am not sure what they will do if you call the cops. Social service may get in volved and if they think you are in an unsafe enviroment then they will take you out of it.

Think about it all before you call. I know smacking you in the face is not a good thing for your mother to do. Maybe she is really sorry and wont do it again.

Answer 7

Honestly, You should be thankful you have a mom who loves you. I got slapped when i was a kid for playing (usually cricket or flying kites) when i should have been studying and it hurt me. Today i have 2 master's degrees and a Phd and make a million dollars a year. I look back and thank my mom for slapping me. If you are in the US look around and u will be thankful that you have a working family and a mom who still cares for you.

No mom loves to hit her kid, she has to do it , so that the time does not come when someone else can hit them. Trust me, you will thank her later, when you have ur kids.

Answer 8

Calm down. Desi parents will do that. Maybe at 16 is a bit off, but it was probably a reaction to something you did. You're not desi if you haven't been beat.
You can be an "abcd" and tell the cops. Or you can be desi and just talk to ur mom about how that hurt you.

Answer 9

no don't call the cops on your mom you'll regret it later and your mom will go to jail, pay fines, and have child abuse on her record. maby you should straighten up,and listen to your mom. at least shes trying to discipline you some parents don't give a darn about their kids.as long as shes not doing it every day sometimes teen agers need a slap every now and then .i got a few in my teens too,and I'm glad i did because i turned out pretty good i have a clean record, ind I'm drug free.plus i love my parents for not letting me screw up or talk back ,it taught me respect. i know it sucks now, but you'll thank her later.

Answer 10

well sometimes yo mom coud be going thru some stuff that she doesnt want u to kno about bcuz she's suppose to be tha strong one and be tough for u..... well i really i think u and your moms shoud sit down and have a heart-to-heart with each other before something else happens btwn yall....if u call tha cops most likely they'll either ask u if u want to go somewhere else and have her arrested or if u want to work this out on your own.... there's nothin worse than to have your own mother disown u i kno but plz yall need each otha for support and guidance so try and wor it out without the police.....1ne luv