It really upsets me and makes me feel inferior. I should be enough for him. He is lucky to even have me because he is not that good-looking and kind of a jerk sometimes. but he says it is a biological need and that every guy looks at porn. but i told him what about blind people? and he said they read porn braile. I still think maybe there's at least one guy out there who doesn't look at porn... am i wrong to set my expectations so high?
2007-01-02 17:34:11 · 7 answers · asked by Jae Lynn 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he's looking at porn, it suggests that he isn't being satisfied in some way. Look at the specific kind of porn he's interested in, and take cues from it next time you're in the sack together.
You shouldn't feel upset or inferior; he's probably just insecure about his desires, or has been hurt by unaccepting women in the past.
If you find that the kind of porn he's looking at is too racy or controversial for your taste, you may have to compromise with him, possibly by limiting when he can look at those adult sites. (i.e. when you're not home)
Also, if he's using your computer to view the porn, run a weekly (preferably nightly or daily) scan for spyware and viruses. Adult web sites are riddled with malicious software.
2007-01-02 17:51:22 · answer #1 · answered by Alicia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually that is a stretch. I don't know if its biological but i've tried to stop when i got a g/f and its tough. Luckily, my women puts out a lot so I don't need it as much, lol. Good Luck with that agenda. P.S. I treat my girl like gold and she comes 1st, so i get the sense that the porn issue is jus one of many issues with the two of you. Good Luck
Oh and on 2nd thought, i'm not sure my girl has even found my porn on the comp. If she wanted me to stop I prob would.
2007-01-03 01:47:05 · answer #2 · answered by Jesse19rap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have asked and he still does it, it is best for you to accept that he does it. If you make a demand that he can't hold up to, resentment will build up between you. Men do get stimulated visually, much like a woman who reads romance novels get stimulated that way. Do not consider that you are inferior- heck, we are ALL inferior to the women in magazines who are mostly anorexic and digitally touched up anyway. Maybe you should tell him that in order for you to be ok with this type of visual stimulus you need to be constantly re-assured of your beauty and how much he loves you. In then end, it's about building a situation between the two of you that you can both live with- otherwise someone has to make a huge sacrifice, that usually ends unhappily. good luck beautiful!
2007-01-03 01:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by jewlz 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course he's being a jerk. If he's watching porn then it must mean that he's not satisfied with you-- or more, that he only cares about girls sexually. That's totallly stupid, and he doesn't seem like a trusty boyfriend. You should decide soon- whether or not your priority lies with a guy who has such a mentality that he needs different girls to satisfy his sexual needs.
2007-01-03 01:45:19 · answer #4 · answered by Star 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are wrong. Nothing wrong to show **** if you are going to get married with him and live the life together.
2007-01-03 02:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by aramaiya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get off his back. You sound like you have an ego problem.
2007-01-03 01:52:12 · answer #6 · answered by m. b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes
2007-01-03 01:38:37 · answer #7 · answered by romelo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋