Me and my bf have been together for for a year and 4 months. We have been living together for almost a year of that time. We also have a wonderful new baby girl. Since about 2 months after he moved in he started talking about getting married (this would be his 3rd time I KNOW WHAT U R THINKING...lol) anyways he says things like "when are we getting married" and right before Chirstmas he said he was going to buy a ring and have our baby (like she could) hold the ring and a note asking me to marry her daddy but that didnt happen. I asked him why he never follows through and all he would say is "i dont know". It has me very confused. I can't figure out if he wants to get married or if he doesnt. Or if maybe he is just scared that it will be like the last 2. He says he loves me and doesnt want to live without me. And if we have a disagreement he will make the first move to make things right? So does he want to or not? what do you think? (no smartass remarks use someone else for points)
2007-01-02 17:32:50 · 11 answers · asked by mojosbaby41472 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK for those who may think im trying to rush it im really not. I also understand the whole "could be another mistake" part but why ask then not follow through thats what gets me
2007-01-02 17:43:09 · update #1
I think he is full of a lot of hot air. Talk without action is just talk. I think he loves you but doesn't really have a reason to cross that line in his mind or his fears are greater than the reason.
2007-01-02 17:40:01 · answer #1 · answered by Bella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can I just ask what the big rush to get married is? You have only been living together for a year now so why not give it time to see if it really is going to work out or not. If this marriage would be his third, you also have to understand that maybe he doesn't want to make yet another mistake. No matter what the circumstances were of his previous divorces, it does take it's toll on you. If he is truly showing you the love that you need without the piece of paper then just ride it out. Putting the extra pressure on him will only make him wait longer and longer and possibly not even happen. If you love each other then there is nothing wrong with you two waiting. Just because you dont have a ring and that piece of paper doesn't mean he loves you any less. As far as the disagreement part, it's not always the man's job to make the first move to make things right. Are you speaking of marriage by making things right because you have a child with him?
2007-01-03 01:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by perkadittle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, how do you feel about him? Do you love him? One, he could be wanting to marry you because its the honorable thing to do since you two have a kid together, or he jumps too fast into relationships and your both scared whether it will work or not. Either way. Are you together for convenience or are you together because you want to be together. If there is any doubt in your mind about him truly in your heart. Then he is not the guy for you. Sounds like if there's a disagreement between you too and he will make the first move to make things right. He's truly honestly in love with you. A guy won't do that if he doesn't care anything about you for real. It shows you mean something to him.
2007-01-03 01:42:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL! That's about the 'smart ***' warning. You turned a little evil real quickly, huh? I know what you are dealing with because I live it ...DAILY! I believe that your boyfriend cares for you but maybe not the way you seem to WANT him too. It's not his fault or yours it just may be that you two are in a relationship that lacks evaluation. To him he may feel his level of love is enough because you are not raising the bar and accepting his level of care. His promises are not kept (nullifying his word) and yet he continues to tell you what he knows will keep you...lil sweet nothings. Believe it or not you daughter has now two examples to mimic. You, through experience, already know what your boyfriend will do from his past so now are you looking for enough people to support you in continuing to take the treatment that you don't appear to be happy with? You are asking for trouble if you don't get professional counselling in helping you make a decision on YOUR OWN. I warn you if you don't do something -nothing will change and/or you will suffer along with your daughter. Children do learn what they live and I have very seldon heard of a husband go out his way to find new and better ways to please their spouse without being 'encouraged'. I hope that you find that encouragement, sweetie. I changed things in my life and am now enjoying my life if you'd like to know how email me.
2007-01-03 02:10:35 · answer #4 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He loves you, that I am certain of.
He might be scared.
Marriage is a big step and can be intimidating.
Give it some time, he will come around.
I want to get married, but forever is a long time.
I only want to get married once too.
Your boyfriend might feel the same way I do.
Hope that helps.
2007-01-03 01:36:44 · answer #5 · answered by Guess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-03 01:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband did the same thing to me----it took 4 yrs for us to get married----we needed the wait. Sometimes people still need to grow and get stronger before they marry.
Be patient and don't push it. It's obvious that he is thinking about it.
2007-01-03 01:36:48 · answer #7 · answered by MamaCat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
C'mon hun, you two have a child together! Sit your boyfriend down and just set the date, period! He's tippy toeing around it and that time is long passed for you guys. Just get 'er done!
Congratulations by the way!
2007-01-03 01:38:33 · answer #8 · answered by AK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he feels that even tho you know about it he still might get rejected and maybe he thinks he isnt good enough for you and needs to know that he is, so tell him how special he is to you
2007-01-03 01:37:35 · answer #9 · answered by Alysa H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him! It can be scary if you have failed before. You'll have an answer at any rate.
2007-01-03 01:37:11 · answer #10 · answered by troys_wifey2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋