Concerning divorce in the bible?

Question

I am divorced, also a Catholic/Christian

My marrigae was a marrigae of abuse and I had 2 small children.
I left the marriage because he had an affair with a 13 year old girl (he was 32) and he divorced me. I have never remarried. I prayed to God to help me and he did.

My Church knows and I was still welcomed and received the sacraments

Some say I am a adulterer what do you think. Am I?

Because I am divorced

Gorgeoust I do not need a comment like that and I am not against gays that is their choice and I am happy with my Church

Answer 1

Susan, your story is heartbreaking. Since you have not remarried (and presumably not having sex with anyone else) you are NOT committing adultery! God bless.

Answer 2

What I think does not really matter just like it doesn't matter what others think this situation that you find yourself in it is between you and God, so do not worry about anything that anyone else thinks the only one that should matter is God, I fail to see how some can say the things that they have said to you they do not know your situation at all, and should not be judging, from what you say all I can say is that I think you survived well, and that I hope for you to keep on surviving, live your life for you God and your kids and I don't think you are an Adulterer, it wasn't you who had the afair but I think you already know this!
When difficulties arise, Christians who Honor their marriage do not hastily separate or divorce. (Malachi 2:16; 1 Corinthians 7:10, 11) Jesus stated: "Everyone divorcing his wife, except on account of fornication, makes her a subject for adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery." (Matthew 5:32) So if you know for certain that your husband had an affair if he admitted it to you so that you know then you have been freed from him in God's eyes, but you must be absolutely sure otherwise your divorce may not be scriptural. God holds marriage as sacred and he wants it to be permanent therefore he has made this strict Law, for marriage, and so if you are certain that this has been the case in your marriage then you can have a clean conscience before God, I am not saying this to you on the basis of not believing you, I am just trying to establish in your mind how seriously God views a divorce, in fact the Bible says that God hates a divorcing(Malachi2:16) May God bless you with his Peace! Please take care I am sorry for the things that you have had to bear, and I hope that your challenges have not sapped you of your spirit of hope and dreaming! Warm Christian Love to you I send

Answer 3

I can understand where you are coming from - my parents are recently divorced after a marriage of 20 some years. My father was abusive. He has accused her of committing adultery for divorcing him.

Matthew 5:31-32 is often used to accuse some one who is divorced of adultery. But the reader must understand why Jesus said this. In His day, a man could divorce his wife simply because he did not like the way she cooked. Divorce was not wrong, rather the reason for some of the divorces were wrong.

If you and your children were being abused, and your husband committed adultery, you are in no way an adulterer for getting a divorce. The reason is what matters. And if God helped you, who is man to say you are wrong?

Answer 4

Well, he had the affair and with a minor so it now becomes statutory rape. I too was in an abusive relationship, and I divorced and remarried. This was before I was saved. I am now saved and have repented my sins to God. No, I do not consider you an adulterer, just that you had some bad luck. However, the Bible says differently. If you repent your sins to God alone (without a middleman or priest), you will be forgiven.

Answer 5

- There's alot of good tid bits people already left you, alot of crud though. Some really good scriptures, for what its worth, I have some flavorment for you, Hopefully you can glean form every body's input. Ummmmm, here's this : If he divorced you, like you said, then he left the marriage, not you. The sin is all his, not yours there. With the abuse, the affair, & him divorcing you, you need to remember that God is a Rightous judge, God is sure to call it according to his written word, true & faithfull. God is "Holy". He made "Holy Matrimony" I encourage you to do some Biblical studies in the "Holy Bible on the matters heavy on your heart, I'm sure there's many. Now, for the Adultry part, God has it set up where in order for an adultry sin to be on you you must "commit adultry" some one's sin can not smear over on you, when you had no part in it, God is a Rightous Judge. I would highly recommed that in the husbandless free time that you now have, that you would meet Jesus Christ in the Holy Scriptures, I'm confident He's waiting for you there. Have Him Show you what His plan for you & your children is. Most of all, take this time to Mature in Gods Written Word, God will see to it Persionally that you will not be ashamed, Your friends & family & children are depending on your leadership to Christ . . .

GOD BLESSINGS

- MICROW -

Answer 6

Jesus statement was definative. I can say no more without trying to take his place and be a modern prophet.

Your priest should have moved in and stayed until your husband changed his ways. IF that takes forever, so be it. And you should have gone with the priest and taken your kids every time he left the house.

Why did you marry Satan.

That's what you really have to ask, as he's OBVIOUSLY neither a Catholic nor a Christians, so WHAT possessed you to marry this "thing."

The whole mistake was yours. You should have seen it coming, you should have tested him.

Every psychiatrist and psychologist should agree with me. He would have exhibited symptoms LONG before the marriage. You can't hide an abusive nature. The warning signs always existed. You just turned a blind eye and THAT is what you have to anyalize before you DO IT AGAIN.

Good Girl, Bad Guy is the topic of at least 100 different books that affect theists as well as atheists.

Answer 7

The bible says there is grounds to divorse, and that is if one or the other committed adultery in which your ex did. So you have reasonable grounds. The people who call you am adulterer are very disrescpectful. How would they feel if it happend to them, they would do the same I bet, so they have no right to Judge. The are hypocrites and I hop you will tell them so, if not tell them from me, as I cannot stand hyporcites. Tell them it is none of their business and to mind it. Mate, I am telling you if I had of been there when they called you that, I would not have been very nice. Stand up for yourself, and do not let yourself be walked over.

Answer 8

Don't even ask the question. It allows people to judge you. We only have ONE Judge. ..... and He put it this way to a woman who actually committed adultery.


John 8:4-11
"Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. 5 In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?" 6 They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him.

But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger. 7 When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, "If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her." 8 Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground.

9 At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there. 10 Jesus straightened up and asked her, "Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?"

11 "No one, sir," she said.

"Then neither do I condemn you," Jesus declared. "Go now and leave your life of sin."
(from New International Version)

The past is the past and it is better left there. I'm sure you , who have experienced it, know why God hates divorce.

Answer 9

Umm no sorry, you are NOT an adulteress. The bible allows divorce on the grounds of adultery, which your exhusband committed.

I'm sorry, but it's not what the Catholic church says, it's what God Almighty says in the bible in

Matt 5:31-32 It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce. 'But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.

Do you choose to believe the Catholic church's opinion of you or God's?

Answer 10

An adulterer is the person who cheated . I don't know what the bible says but you were a victim of abuse and I don't care what any religion says about divorce no one should be abused. who cares what some people say you love your church and they accept you so don't worry about some other losers.

Answer 11

What i understand in the bible is that if the spouse commits adultery you are free to divorce & no
you are not an adulterer!!!
Who tells you that is wrong