Who has the right to say...?

Question

Who has the right to say that a 12 year old isn't in real love? I recently saw a question about somebody trying to get her 12 year old sister to believe that she wasn't in real love. Does anybody think this is wrong? Let the girl have her fun, and maybe even open your mind a little! I'm 12 and I think that true love can happen at any age. Age is pretty much a meaningless number when it comes to things like this. Who's with me?

I'm not sure I know what people mean when they say at 12 you don't even know who you are. I know exactly who I am and what appeals to me. I'm mature for my age, so I guess I'm just different. Don't you think by 12 years old, I've pretty much always known who I am?

Answer 1

I believe that at 12 years old you can truly know what love is. if 12 year olds didn't know what love felt like, they wouldn't get their hearts broken, and I've really seen that happen. and a broken heart hurts at any age. so, I'm with you girl!
Take Care! and I'm proud of you for standing up for what you think is right!

Answer 2

imagine this: The president of the united states is 12, the police in your town are 12,your teachers are 12, and your minister is 12. How protected would you feel? How educated would you feel, how sure would you feel?

I said all that to say, your elders including big sister are not perfect, but they definitly know alot more than you. Whether you know it or not they have been in the same position as you before and felt what you feel before and now they know better. Listen. Don't try to grow too fast. The facts are, you are only 12, you can't know what true llove is yet because you haven't been in love long enough to experience all the good and bad. If you don't listen, you will ruin your chances of experiencing love to it's fullest because you will have sabotaged your childhood and teenage years that you begin to develop and blossom into someone who can truly be loved and truly love. God Bless you and I hope you understand this.

As far as mature for your age, what does that mean to you? Does that mean that at twelve you have already graduated from high school and are in college? Does that mean you pay bills around the house? does that mean your parents and teachers never have to remind you to clean up, do laundry, go grocery shopping? Or does that simply mean that you are doing things that you should not be doing at 12? If the latter is the case then you are immature for your age or you would know that discipline and following rules are apart of maturity and responsibility and you would be on point.

Answer 3

You are right, as far as you've gone in your life. But True Love is relative to time. It could last and last forever. Or, as you live through each year (and let's hope you have many of them), your experiences and all of the millions of decisions you will make as you go, which continue to define who you are, will also redefine who you love. You may find that the True Love of your early years may become that crush you had as a kid.

It might be true love or it might not. You have no way of knowing right now. You WILL change as you go. The object of your love WILL ALSO change at the same time. The relationship WILL change, too. It might continue, as knew things come along, but it will have to adapt. You cannot know right now how it will work out.

So, calling it true love now is kind of making it hard on yourself. Just live with whatever the feeling is right now and leave the heavy definitions for later. Pushing the term True Love onto a relationship so early in life might actually kill the whole thing by itself by the sheer weight of the idea. It might actually ruin a relationship that was meant to last. Let life be lived, don't try nailing it down so soon.

Fate has its way, and it only tells us later, when we look back on it.

Answer 4

I'm not with you. At 12 years old, you don't even really know who you are yet. You are still learning about who you are. You haven't had enough experiences in order to know what qualities are appealing to you. It's a big world out there. You've got a lot of learning to do before you will ever truly even know what love is. Sorry kiddo.

Answer 5

I can't say that i am with you, i have seen people ruined by false love. even at a young age it can be devistating, i have been in true love before and can tell the difference now, but until real love has been experienced it is nearly impossible to tell the difference. So i do have to say that i disagree with you, but i do disagree with the telling someone who thinks that is in love that they're not. Infatuation is powerful enough to be mistaken and it can really hurt a person when a strong feeling they have is told by someone they love and respect that it is false and they are stupid for having it.
These are just my thoughts though, don't hate me for them.

Answer 6

I'm sorry I can't agree with you partly because I have a 12 year old and she isn't interested in boys yet and yes I do know this because I', with her most of the time and we have good communication and a good relationship.

Answer 7

Remember this and in about 15 years, look back..you will laugh.

**In response to your additional details...again, remember this and reflect back in 10-15 years and you will laugh. You have no idea what you are or what you will become..you are a typical adolescent who thinks they know it all...your frontal lobe isn't even done developing yet, and won't be done until you are about 23 years old, and when this happens, your whole perspective on everything will change.

Answer 8

i think u should really think about it and only then u can fall in love

but 12 is pretty young

i don't think u can truly be in love untill 16

Answer 9

i am sister! everybody has the right to love! if two peopl feel they love each other, who has the right to stop them, at any age! you should follow your heart, true love can happen to anyone!