Do you think it is true that attractive or cute kids get treated better by their parents than not?

Question

so attractive kids? By treated better I mean the parents are more willing to shell out money for nicer clothes, cooler toys and give them more attention? Do you think this is true?

Answer 1

yes that very true i seen that before in other families. i know its sad to say but its true and just dont understand why. ;( xj

Answer 2

I think this all depends on the parents. I think I was a very cute baby seeing my baby pictures... my son resembles both me and my husband's younger brother... he's absolutely beautiful! Anyways, my mom didn't go out and buy me lot's, but she does favor my younger brothers a lot more buying them a ton more than she ever did for me... not that I care because money can't buy love. anyways, my son is so handsome even the doctors said he was the most beautiful baby they've delivered.... however, I do not go and buy him too many things- only the essentials he needs- I don't have all the money in the world. So I buy him cute clothes yes, but only what he needs. As far as toys, I've only bought a few toys- again, only learning toys I think he'll enjoy... everyone else has bought him so many toys we don't have enough room for them all! lol So no, I do not spoil my beautiful son! If I had more money, I'd put it into his college fund, I wouldn't buy him more and more.

Answer 3

Absolutely not ... and absolutely true. Confusing? Possibly. I'll explain quickly.

To a parent, their child is the most gorgeous thing on the planet. It doesn't matter if they have one child, or if they have ten ... then they believe ALL of their children are the most gorgeous things on the planet. There is nothing more blind or biased to their own children as their parents.

So, parents see all their children as gorgeous little creatures, with all honesty and full belief. That's not why they spoil them, it's just how they see them.

How do I know? I have five kids. They're the most gorgeous things on the planet, of course. :D

Edit: Oh I just love when people think they know how the world works and want to appear more intelligent .. assuming no one will call them on it. For Freshbliss down there, citing stats saying it's proven, a source please? I'd love to see a reliable source confirming what you're claiming. Because not once in my years of psychology, not once in all my practical experience, not once in all my years of working with children have I ever seen a study that comes anywhere close to what you're attempting to claim as fact. Give it a rest.

If a parent is going to favor one child over another, it has nothing to do with that childs appearance .. more so what the parent sees when they look at the child in terms that are relative to themselves. Example ... a parent living vicariously through one of their children will tend to overdo the attention on that one particular child.

And as someone else stated, beautiful children are just as often neglected. It's unfortunate that favoritism does take place within families with more than one child, but when it is practiced, it's not based upon the childs appearance, and the biggest reasons being that parents don't judge their children as others would .. we don't see them the same way. We have an idealized version of what our children are, what they look like and what they act like. (in most cases).

Rant over. *sigh*

Answer 4

I think that parents who treat their kids poorly - can make a cute child look ugly by the attitudes and poor self esteem that they instill. There are not alot of unattractive kids out there. Even a beautiful child can look unattractive if they are neglected. Parents who treat their kids well - not spoling them - but loving them - helping them develop healthy habits and strong character and such create cute kids regardless of their actual looks - they will be cute kids. A parent who neglects one child or shows favoritism makes one of the kids feel less unattractive and eventually they believe that they are and begin to behave in ways that make them seem less attractive even when in reality that's not true - it's like Cinderella. Now, she wasn't ugly - but people tried to make her feel that way so she needed a fairy godmother to get her the dress and shoes to give her the confidence to go to that ball. Personally, I have a hard time with this question because I believe all my kids are equally super cute - how could I show favorites when they are all beyond beautiful to me?

Answer 5

Everyone wants to think that every child is precious - but people are a little more sinister than they can admit. Every social psychology experiment ever run will demonstrate that better looking kids get better stuff in life: things, treatment, etc.

Answer 6

Of course its true,im the better looking sibling and my mum and dad are always complimenting me on the way i dress,or how well i raise my kids.also i know a lady who treats her cute little son with blonde hair and fine features better than her larger daughter,so it can be true with alot of parents,all parents have a favourite although they will never admit to it.

Answer 7

If it is true, I'd like to believe this preferential treatment happens subconsciously and due to chemical reactions in our brains. But if the parents do this consciously, then I think there may be deeper issues at hand.

Answer 8

i think the world treats the cuter kids better then the not so cute ones.. and i think the parents do as well even if they dont want to say that they do..

Answer 9

By their own parents? I hope not. But by other people, I think it's certainly true. This is how our society works.

Answer 10

Yes. I'm more attractive than most of my siblings (and I have a lot of them). I'm usually the favorite.