I'm 19 and because I prefer to stay home and read rather than go out and party my parents are constantly trying to convince me that something's wrong with me.They're so incredibly controlling to the point where they won't let me make my own decisions regarding what to major in college.How do I get them to back off and respect the fact that at 19 I have the right to make my own decisions?
2007-01-02 16:51:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You're really lucky that your parents are encouraging you to go out. During my teen years, my parents never allowed me to go out at all, and when I did, I had to be back before 7pm or else they'll be shouting their heads off at me, and I was never allowed to go out at night. Maybe your parents are worried that you are not going through the norms of adolescense since msot people your age hang out with friends and go to parties. I'm not trying to suggest that you are not sociable, because reading books at home is a very healthy hobby and that's what I do most of the time too. But they should really allow you to decide what to major in college. I think there's really no way to get them off your back because you can't change a person's way of thinking about things, especially parents. Best is to save up from now on and move out. I'm doing just that right now.
2007-01-02 22:42:53 · answer #1 · answered by xander 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, college is meant for those who have a goal or for those in search of a goal. When I went to college, I had a goal to become a fire fighter and guess what I carry an AS Degree in Fire Tech. But I had friends who didn't have goals and weren't sure what they'll become in life. Don't worry, just do what you must do and get by all the basic general classes first, after that then start pursuing different careers. Talk it over with a college advisor or counselor and try to find what you may enjoy or might even like. Don't worry about your parents, just worry about becoming successful first. College may seem easy at first, but then it becomes even more challenging and it'll get difficult. Remember, they have tutors in every subject... Take advantage of them and try to learn as much as you can. You may enjoy Liberal Arts, Engineering, Music, Agriculture, Astronomy, and many more career fields. Take heed to my advice... pass general ed classes first, and the see a career advisor. Good Luck and be patient with mom and dad.
2007-01-03 02:55:15 · answer #2 · answered by Mindscrambler 30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are parents. If you were parting every night they would gripe about that too. You can either tell them you would rather focus on your education and getting a good job and will party later in life when you can afford the really high class places or you could lie and say you are parting and hang out with someone else who would rather read. Or Move out and live your own life
2007-01-03 00:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by littledevilinyourcup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start being an adult and make your own decisions.
Maybe your parents would like to be alone for a while. Go to the library and read for a while. Go to the movies.
Get a job, and move out, then they cant control you any more!!!!
2007-01-03 00:58:53 · answer #4 · answered by tequilagold_32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that they want you go find someone to marry. You might have to force yourself to go out and join some kind of a social group. This group has to have meaning to you. You could do some kind of a course part time. It might give you an exiting direction in life that you were to miss if you stayed at home. It will get your parents off you back. As for what you do at college, that is your business.
2007-01-03 00:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by kicking_back 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried sitting down with them and disscussing how it makes you feel.?
Do you have a friend that could talk with them to help them understand that your old enough to make your own choice's.
Plus I would say there's nothing wrong with you. Your a smart person for not wanting to go out and party!
2007-01-03 01:00:00 · answer #6 · answered by lana1meyer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must say that when you live under your parents roof, then they have alot of say in your life. Move out ? I'd try talking to them and try to make them understand that you are your own person and they need to let go a little and let you make your own mistakes.
2007-01-03 01:02:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Roll over, just a stupid joke. Try talking to them in a calm manner.If that does not work and your 19 move out ,get a job and start being independent.
2007-01-03 00:58:23 · answer #8 · answered by lovedarkpassion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋