I feel guilty not reporting.. but I don't want them to cause problems for me.. and besides.. the kids might go to foster care.. and that is terrible...
They scream every single day at their kids, sometimes for hours, and sometimes all day! They stomp around chasing their kids and yelling and sometimes swearing at them (even to the 4 year old). I know one time the mother was yelling at the boy and he was quiet and suddenly he started screaming in pain! I was like WTF? They have a teenage girl and a 4 year old boy. They slam doors and yell everyday. They rarely laugh together, but when they do, they end up fighting. They fight for hours everyday with their kids. But I don't think there is sexual abuse and i have never seen bruisess. I don't want to be that person that reports them.. and what if they do something terrbile in revenge to me (they will know it's me because I am trying to get them evicted). They live right over top of me...
2007-01-02 16:42:15 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
they swear a their kids and I often hear what they are saying word for word and they are mean to their kids verbally
2007-01-02 16:47:48 · update #1
If you have any suspicions at all, definitely report it. I am a teacher and required by law to report even the slightest suspicions that I see. What they tell me is that it is the job of social services to decide if it's worth investigating further. But if they don't know, then they can never make that decision, right? Better to be safe than sorry.
As for the family knowing it's you. They might have an idea that you reported them, but social services won't confirm that. You will remain anonymous. Who knows, if they are as horrible as you say they are, I'm sure you are not the only one they have p***ed off.
Report it! Then feel good about yourself, even if nothing ever comes of it.
2007-01-02 16:49:21 · answer #1 · answered by MountainChick 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do think you should report this to child protective services. Just so that it can be on the record. Child Protective Services don't take children from the home at the first call. It takes alot of incidents and calls before that happens. What you are describing sounds like mental abuse. Children don't need to have bruises in order to be abused. I would definitely call social services for the kids sake.
2007-01-02 17:20:24 · answer #2 · answered by liliana 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say report them. This is no condition for those poor children to live. And you never know what kind of bruises they may or may not have, so they should be investigated. Yelling isn't good for them at all, it sounds like terrible parenting. I wouldn't get involved with them at all, but yes, report them and remain anonymous. There were times as a kid I wished my mom would have been reported. She back handed me with her ring on her finger (in the face), she smacked me a lot, pushed me, yelled way too much all for no reason at all. She just wasn't always good to me. Anyways, I feel for these kids. I really do. I have a 15 month old son, and yes it can be rough at times, but patience helps, and the love I have for him is so great, I would never want to yell or hurt him as my mom did to me. Yelling and hitting won't get you anywhere with kids.
Goodluck on this.
2007-01-02 17:18:02 · answer #3 · answered by m930 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for these people. Teenagers and toddlers (preschoolers) are a difficult mix. I remember as a teenager there were some arguments worth questioning.
Perhaps you could befriend these people. Ask if they need help. Talk to the teenager, ask how life is treating them. I'm sure they just want someone to listen.
If there is no suspicion for physical abuse I'd suggest staying out of it. Perhaps call CPS to see if there is any intervention (not putting these kids in foster care) with services they can provide.
Either way you really need to look at the whole situation. Not your convenience. Sure, it's easy to pick up the phone. Sure, you can get them evicted but really are you helping anyone other then yourself? Most likely, they have a high stress home and really need help rather then a boot out the door.
2007-01-02 16:51:43 · answer #4 · answered by .vato. 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Sounds like the entire family needs assistance. How do you know there is no sexual abuse, and bruises are easy to hide. You may feel guilty because you are trying to have them evicted, but do them a favor and make the call. It's not about you.
2007-01-02 16:52:24 · answer #5 · answered by summersailing 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I wouldn't know whether or not to report them. But remember, yelling, cursing, and stuff like that at kids sticks with them. They may do it to their own kids one day and maybe the cycle will never end. It IS emotional abuse. What if your parents did that to you? Would you have wanted someone to finally make it end? Just try to think what it is like for the kids. Goodluck.
2007-01-02 16:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The US Department of Child and Family Services has deemed emotional abuse just as illegal as physical abuse and CPS can intervene in this situation. The children- if removed- will most likely be placed with another, suitable family member before foster families are considered. I would make the call were I in your situation. (Also, when you report abuse, they never inform the parents they are investigating who informed them! You would not be in danger in that instance.)
2007-01-02 17:05:31 · answer #7 · answered by medicpaige 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'd be wise to call CPS just so they get a warning and change their behavior, maybe this will give them a scare, children under no circumstances deserve this life style, or any kind of abuse, it is just pure wrong!!
They will grow up very traumatized and history will repeat itself, why sit there and do nothing, whoever said you have too much time on your hands is wrong, even if you did, just do the right thing, for the children's sake!
2007-01-02 16:54:27 · answer #8 · answered by You are loved 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself-Would I want to be a child in that family? You will be doing the children a great service to make that call. Who knows it may wake the parents up(doubtful but remotely possible). Do a lot of praying then call. The call will be kept confidential. They can suspect it is you all they want, but if they cause you grief or harm you can get a restraining order.
2007-01-02 17:07:08 · answer #9 · answered by jnjsnana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would report it regardless and tell them that you believe you might be threatened by them because of your report.
Also if they pulled that ******** if i lived below them, i would be calling the cops on their asses 24/7 for the noise all the time. When you have neighbors, you have to respectful. If you dont like other people in your business and like to yell and be loud, go live in a house with just you and your family. You make it other peoples business when you live below, above, across from them pulling that crap
2007-01-02 22:18:26 · answer #10 · answered by feel_n_learn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋