Guys only: How can I tell this guy I have feelings for that I'm crazy about him? I've asked this question before, but still haven't found a way that doesn't entail giving him oral sex beforehand (which, by the way, I will not be doing!). Please, guys, I need your help! How can I tell him how I feel? Only serious answers pls.
2007-01-02 16:41:07 · 14 answers · asked by jemm4president 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him how you feel naked
2007-01-02 16:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by john k 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
see darlin that's the problem, you're asking men, and they're telling you, they don't really want to hear it.
My philosophy and I've dealt with way more men than any of the men you want answers from...DONT TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL, all you do when you tell him, is make him feel cornered like a dear in the headlights. Wait. let him tell you, or at least drive him crazy wondering what kind of spell you have him under that HE feels so crazy about you, and you're not like all the other girls out there that want to tell him they love him and then start putting all these demands on him. Do you see what I'm saying...less is more! Keep your feelings mysterious. anyways actions speak louder than words, show affection, just don't go blabbering...he'll either run and hide, ignore your phone calls, or suggest oral sex. lol Good luck.
2007-01-03 00:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one way to do this. You have to pick a time and place where you feel most comfortable with this guy and sit him down and talk about your feelings so he knows exactly how you feel about him and the relationship. Some guys do not have to receive favors from their girlfriends before a heart to heart talk can take place about the state of the relationship. Simply be yourself,and bring up your feelings with him, and you will see that if your guy is any kind of a person,he enjoys being with you for your company, because of your intelligence, and because you enjoy doing things together (things which are mostly done away from the bedroom).
2007-01-03 00:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by Albertan 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you dating him? Then just sit him down someplace quiet, take his hand, look into his eye and tell him in a concise (don't ramble) way.
If you're not dating him then ask him out for coffee or a movie. Get to know him and see what happens. Don't spill the beans about your feelings early on, that will scare him away. That's all you can really do.
Another thought: Unless you're dating him or are close friends with him, you really don't know him and your feelings aren't exactly true. Our hearts tend to fill in the blanks about those we don't really know.
2007-01-03 00:45:58 · answer #4 · answered by lupin_1375 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would really dig a nice meal and a glass of wine. Just be frank with him, I for one don't like to guess on everything, yes I know women love to keep us guessing but sometimes we really would like it just spelled out. In the past I have been pretty sure that a girl was feeling me but was afraid of jumping the gun on account of some friendly flirting. I usually go for a lot of eye contact and a nice smile. You can deal with all the aforementioned suggestions once you have been dating for a couple months, otherwise he may be inclined to put you into his hook-up column.
I kinda resent the above message too. I treat women really well and so do both of my roommates. I'd be willing to bet we know just as much as you. The difference is we don't "feel" inclined to babble about it constantly. Granted less is more, flirting is good, but I'm equally turned off by too many games as I am fast women. Chances are the guys that seem to be "caught in the headlights" aren't the good guys anyways. I have dated girls at both ends of the spectrum and they all had their way of showing their attraction. Good Luck
2007-01-03 00:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by Jesse19rap 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm only 11 but i have the same problem toward a girl(except the whole oral sex thing!!)...i have found getting their trust and giving them comfort helps get them to like you...good luck!!
2007-01-03 00:49:01 · answer #6 · answered by Joefon11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the easy thing, tell him. Ask to talk to him, or write a note, call him and say I want to get to know you better, or what you would want a guy to say to you. DONT play games, just say it. Guy are real simply, If like it says up there, tell him you don't want to jump in bed or anything like that you want to get to know him, and then ask what he thinks. If you let him know where you stand, and what you wont stand for up front there is no point in him lying to you, and take it from there.
2007-01-03 00:50:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to go to a movie or hang out and then in a romantic way tell him that you are really into him. If he's interested he'll take the opportunity
2007-01-03 00:47:32 · answer #8 · answered by f00tball77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all dont let him know that your crazy about him, that will send any guy running for the hills. second give him subtle gestures to give him clues, but make them more obvious than traditional ways, give him big hugs, rub his back touch his arm give him the sexy eyes and all and see if that works.
2007-01-03 00:45:09 · answer #9 · answered by Dre 5000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guy, how long you have been going out, ...
If you have a good relationship, just tell him. If you can't just tell him, it's probably not a good relationship anyway.
2007-01-03 00:43:36 · answer #10 · answered by cell-hell 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can go up to him (depends how close you two are though) and say "we have been through highs and lows together, and over the time that iv known you, im starting to develop feelings for you, and im crazy about you, would you want to go out?"
2007-01-03 00:45:29 · answer #11 · answered by Mr_wall2005 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋