For whatever reason why I don't know I was in a good mood today & decided that since it's the New Year I wanted to start fresh so I called my former husband & his new wife & told them that I was very sorry for all the bitchy things that I'd ever done to them & I'd like to start over for my daughters sake. It felt great. They were shocked & must have thought I'd lost my mind because I'm usually very vengeful. Has anyone else done that & if so did it feel like a ton of weight was lifted off your shoulders like it did with me?
2007-01-02 16:40:01 · 14 answers · asked by gitsliveon24 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is a known fact that when you treat people with kindness, it makes you feel good. I don't know you, but I'm so proud of you. You did a very selfless act by putting aside your hurt and anger for the sake of your daughters. Try doing some more kind things, such as inviting their father and his wife over for a special event (like a birthday party). Believe me, your girls will be better people, kinder people, more loving people because they had such a good role model for a mother. Don't slide backward on this one. You might get the feeling to once in awhile, but don't let it happen. I'M SO PROUD OF YOU!
2007-01-02 16:50:20 · answer #1 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I did the same thing only it was a 5page letter to my ex and her new husband about how I treated my ex while we were married for 10 years. I also apologized for several bad phone conversations to her but, in my defense I felt I was pushed into rage over child visitatation. I did feel like the world had been lifted off my shoulders when I confessed that I would always have love for her to him because of our children and our past but, that I give my blessings to them. It was a big shock to her that I wasn't still trying to get her back after all these years. Confession means you are accepting what you cannot change and that you are growing spritually. Now if you can just make amends with other people you know you have hurt then you can truly feel more freedom and serenity. Good luck!
2007-01-03 00:52:48 · answer #2 · answered by saturn man 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be proud of yourself for finally growing up. Putting your daughter first instead of feeding your own emotional needs is a sign of maturity and wisdom. Whenever you feel yourself lapsing into those emotional kneejerk reactions, just ask yourself if it's better to be right or to be happy. (or for your daughter to be happy). Having a peaceful childhood and a community of loved ones for your daughter should trump your instinct every time. Again, kudos to you for your growth. 2007 will be very bright for you!
2007-01-03 00:47:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anathema 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm very glad you were able to do that.
I am not at that point in my life just yet. He is still doing things that threaten me and it seems that every time I feel that I am moving on, he pulls the rug out from under me.
I hope one day, I can be forgiving.
2007-01-03 00:43:10 · answer #4 · answered by Carol B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wish you were my ex. Mine recently took all my kids things and gave them away or sold em and moved 500 miles away all because my kid told her that she wanted to spend more time with me. Talk about vengeful
2007-01-03 00:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for you! As with any resolution it may be hard to keep up, but as long as you work at the relationship and keep your daughter in mind you'll be fine!
2007-01-03 00:43:19 · answer #6 · answered by blonde1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations, you the man. It'll also be better for you to let go of all the hatred. Your daughters should be proud of you.
2007-01-03 00:42:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It feels good to apologize when you are wrong.
It was very brave of you to do that. Have a happy New Years.
2007-01-03 00:41:50 · answer #8 · answered by Laughing Libra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm maybe its just me but if ur as vengeful as me it was a good mood and a bad modd will come soon and the b*tch will be mine.
2007-01-03 00:44:42 · answer #9 · answered by leslie0754 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have. I've apologized for being nasty and vengeful.
I came from a place of love and shared this with him.
It helped me alot.
2007-01-03 00:43:15 · answer #10 · answered by BRENDA 1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋