then came back after some time had passed to be with you for the long run? Are you still with him? I was the one who was ready, so I walked away from it to give him space or to maybe get over it. Hope time will tell. I'm in my 30s.
2007-01-02 16:38:49 · 9 answers · asked by confusedsoulonearth 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been hesitant before. I've backed out of relationships only to jump back in them again. The only reason for someone to do that is insecurity, and that has little to do with love (except for love for ones-self or well being). If he is not in it to win it, so to speak, he is not worth your time. Wait for love, it'll be worth it.
2007-01-02 17:11:28 · answer #1 · answered by BRAINS! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience that whole "I'm not ready for a commitment" speech is your easy let down without him hurting your feelings. Usually if a man then comes running back after saying that is looking for the hook up because he hasn't come across anything else better, you're a convenience. So many women make the mistake of holding on to something that never worked in the first place, then end up getting really hurt in the long run. Never move backwards in a relationship. There is a reason why it didn't work out so why try harder at something that didn't work the first, second or third time!
2007-01-02 17:05:57 · answer #2 · answered by perkadittle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...this has happened to me twice and I'm only 24. Actually, they both came back and then left again and then came back (one of them promptly got married to another girl after I told him to get lost finally)...
Anyway, in my experience, that's what the guys who aren't ready for commitment generally do...they put you on a rollercoaster ride until they figure out what they want.
My advice is that you need to move on with your own life. I have seen this happen time after time with both myself and my girlfriends. If he comes back and is SERIOUSLY ready for you, then go for it. But don't get caught in the cycle, because the further you get into that, the worse you will feel if things don't work out.
On a bright note, I do know a couple where the guy wasn't ready, and nearly a year later, he came back and now they are happily married.
2007-01-02 16:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. I passed them up and found someone better. Don't waste your time in your 30s with guys who don't know what they want. There are others out there who are looking for what you've been searching for - you should focus your energy on being available for these types :) It worked for me!
2007-01-02 16:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by kakolikapiha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has happened, but be weary. My ex told me he had to "figure things out" between him and an ex. A week later he told me that he wanted to be with me and he told her. A month later she called me at work to tell me that he had been seeing us both at the the same time. The point.... If he has to think about being with you, it probably isn't worth it. Good Luck!
2007-01-02 16:42:29 · answer #5 · answered by jasam4ever08 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
strange, your question sounds like my current situation, i gave mine some space for that exact same reason.
2007-01-02 16:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by just_me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. i dumped him i couldn't be with someone who didn't want to be with me. i believe that if they do that they don't like u at all. best of like.
Shelly
2007-01-02 16:42:18 · answer #7 · answered by Yemiko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok
2007-01-02 16:44:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok
2007-01-02 16:40:37 · answer #9 · answered by TBONE 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋