My boyfriend and I just broke up. The problem is, I am good friends with his family. In fact, his dad is the pastor of my family's church. This will be the 5th time we've broken up in 4 years. It is just so awkward to see them. I think that they believe that I'm just playing with him and that I don't care for him and it's all my fault. But he actually broke up with me this time.
2007-01-02 16:36:24 · 20 answers · asked by Rach1234 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yry to remain friends with them. If they aren't interested, then it is their loss, but remain civil with them... especially at church. Good Luck!
2007-01-02 16:39:55 · answer #1 · answered by jasam4ever08 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Church is seperate from social lives and as a man of God he should be able to be professional in his field. As for you, if you are sure it is over ths time then you need to get on with your life and move out of this rut. If you are still friends with your ex-boyfriend, great...as long as you both know where you stand. Be friendly and sociable to all his family, after all they are just bystanders in you life...they have no control over the choices you and your ex make so it may be hard for them to accept the break up and reconcilliations of this relationship.
Good Luck
2007-01-02 16:42:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help what your ex family thinks. If his father is the pastor, I am sure he understands. If you feel that you need to explain to them that he broke up with, do that, but you really need to explain anything. This is between you and your ex. Stay friends with his family. They probably like you for who you are and not because who you were dating.
2007-01-02 16:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by Dyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would treat them well because there is a good chance the two of you will be back togther. If his father is your pastor, you might want to sit down with him and your ex for some relationship advice/counciling.
But, if it looks like the two of you are done for good, I would be polite to his family, but I would slowly dissolve the relationship with them. This will make it easier to move on.
When I was 17 I met my high school sweetie and we dated for 5 years. I loved her family like they were my own. Especially her father. He became my father too. When we broke up I never cried, but when her father helped me move out and into my own apartment, I cried. I remained close to the family for awhile, but soon realized that they were comparing my ex's current boyfriend to me and this caused alot of friction. So, I stepped out of the picture.
2007-01-02 16:46:37 · answer #4 · answered by Mr Mojo Risin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Treat them the same way you would if you were still together with your ex. You probably will get back together at some point. They might feel awkward too even though you are all the same people you were before the break up.
2007-01-02 16:40:24 · answer #5 · answered by LO! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about a thing. Every little thing's gonna be all right. You might have to put up with some scowl's from his family, but that will not kill ya. If it gets too bad, explain the situation and tell them that he broke up with you.
2007-01-02 16:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't assume what other people think. They probably realize that you both are young and that it is difficult to make decisions when you don't have a lot of experience with relationships. Keep and open mind and remember that everything happens in God's time and for reasons we don't always know. Good luck.
2007-01-02 16:38:54 · answer #7 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy. That is a tough one. Be friendly? Ignore any comments they make unless they get really rude. Make sure you show up to church tho'. If you didn't it'd just make things worse imo.
2007-01-02 16:39:17 · answer #8 · answered by anecdoteman1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 09:44:12 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to fk off.
well my sister and her boyfriend brokeup, they were together for 17 years. she speaks with him and she still gets to see his side of the family
2007-01-02 16:38:10 · answer #10 · answered by k9k8k7k6k5k4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋