He's a really awsome guy, and I think i love him. But things aren't just what they used to be. It's not like there is something about him that absolutly drives me insane or anything, I really can't find anything I hate about him. I love his family and enjoy spending time with them. Their like my second family. I know that if I break up with him, I'll probley loose that. He also just spent quite a bit of money on me for christmas. I really don't want him to think I hate him or something. Help me!
2007-01-02 16:20:16 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give it some more time. If the spark was there once, maybe it will come back. Think back to what first attracted you to him.
Sometimes after the spark dies down a the relationship develops into a more subsstantial lasting one. If you stick it out you may find that love will grow into a more mature deeper kind.
Did this happen in all your previous relationships?
If after you give it some time and you're sure your feelings are gone...then it's time to move on. I don't know how old you are but there's nothing wrong with experimenting with new relationships to find out who is really right for you. You also learn lots about yourself this way. You seem really caring and don't want to hurt him or lose his family. Try for a little longer and see what happens. In the end you will have to be true to your feelings and if that means moving on that's what you'll have to do..
2007-01-02 16:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by BRENDA 1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is chemical. There is a decent body of research about this. Six months is about the limit for how long that really giddy feeling lasts. You will not feel that "spark" for anyone your whole life. Actually that is not precisely true, it depends on what you mean by "spark" I guess. But you may find that the spark transforms into a rock-like certitude. What you are certain about will be binary-yes or no. Either he is or he isn't. Unfortunately there is a lag time between the slacking of the giddyness and forming of the certitude so you can either kick him to the curb now or try to weather the uncertainty. If you have not intentions of getting married to this guy anyway you may as drop him instead of continuing to string him along.
2007-01-03 01:14:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The spark that you are referring to isn't supposed to last forever...it grows into something more. Comfortability. Care. If you love him, there is nothing wrong except your attitude. You are used to him, that's all.
People always want that new and exciting feeling, but as soon as you are with someone else for a while, it will wear off with them too.
Don't throw away a good relationship because the "spark" has gone out. Spend more time together, do fun, silly things for each other, and you will have something stronger.
2007-01-03 00:30:35 · answer #3 · answered by hopewriter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just got out of a 4 year relationship where I thought that the spark was gone... and now we are not together anymore... and i cannot tell you how happy i am now. You have to look at the whole situation and figure out why you're not happy. Are you happy with yourself, are you happy with him, is he happy with himself, and are you happy with each other? Most likely, one of those answers is no, and you should move on. It was the hardest thing ever, but once I was not in the situation I realized how much happier I was. Good luck!
2007-01-03 00:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by smurfette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused on your question. Do want to stay with him or are you just feeling guilty because he spent money on you and you know his family.
Relationships always enter into that comfortable zone. That's when you are so comfortable with each other that its know big deal to dress up anymore. Give it some time the new year just started if you still want to stay with him. It sounds like to me your in love with the relationship.Don't stay if your not sure. You will be wasting both your time.
2007-01-03 00:34:00 · answer #5 · answered by fabulosity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre just passed that "honeymoon phase." the relationship tends to settle down after a while, you just need to make sure you try new things with him and mix it up!
2007-01-03 00:27:22 · answer #6 · answered by puffenstuffsrevenge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if the spark is gone, it's gone. Go now, before you are asking this same question a year from now. Been there, done that, and I AM THERE NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Once the spark is gone, it's gone. Hell, I don't know what happens to it, I wish to God I did.
2007-01-03 00:27:10 · answer #7 · answered by Mystery Girl 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Fuvk his best friend - he will get the hint.
2007-01-03 00:23:44 · answer #8 · answered by ericwoo1972 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋