it only happens like once a month and i make sure my son is taken care of when i'm there. i don't drink, smoke, or do drugs when i'm there. all we do is play board games and drink coffee.
2007-01-02 16:16:26 · 27 answers · asked by kathrinataofik@sbcglobal.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like you feel very guilty for doing this, and I don't think you should feel that way. Have you considred the 2 of you staying the night at your family member's house? Make it a fun family sleep-over, that way your son can be put to bed while you stay up late to visit with your family.
2007-01-02 16:20:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said you do not drink, smoke or do drugs while you are there. I can only assume that means that you do when you are not there. Sounds to me like the son is safer there that one time a month until midnight, than he is with you the rest of the time. If this is so, your not a responsible mother, you drink , smoke and do drugs everyday except one day of the month. Get into rehab, or you will end up having the child taken away from you.
2007-01-03 00:24:12 · answer #2 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am a mother too and I don't see anything wrong with it. As long as your son has stuff to keep him busy. It depends on his age but if he is little make sure he is tucked in to bed somewhere in a quieter part of the house and be sure to check on him once in a while. When I visit my relatives or go anywhere overnight or late at night I take along my daughters baby monitor and plug it in to keep tabs on her. May sound silly but she is ten months old and used to only me, her mother being there 24/7 and only I have the magic power to get her to sleep. Have fun and your son will also enjoy it too.
2007-01-03 00:24:13 · answer #3 · answered by Mom_of_two 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with that. As long as you are safe and your son is taken care of, it's perfectly acceptable to play board games and drink coffee. In the 60's and 70's, it was what parents did (according to my grandparents). You may even want to bring his pj's with him, so that, if he falls asleep he's comfortable. Keep having fun in this safe manner! I give you credit for being such a responsible parent.
2007-01-03 00:22:27 · answer #4 · answered by Lilly Jones-Fair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all! I think that your son watching his family have fun together and drink coffee is actually quite a nice thing! If your son is very young, make sure he has pj's and a place to rest if he needs it. If he is school age, just do it on Friday or Saturday nights only so he isn't too sleepy for school.
2007-01-03 00:20:30 · answer #5 · answered by desertsunnygirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're taking fine care of things, as long as your son has suffiecient sleep and nothing really going on early the next morning. It's a treat for him to see family. Family time is often overlooked these days and I think it's great to teach kids the importance of time with our loved ones.
2007-01-03 00:29:15 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt exactly say that it is "irresponsible". if your interested in being a "good" mother you should always take into consideration the needs of your child as well. he is well cared for while you are there, but he is being disturbed from his sleep, taken out into the cold, and toted around at a time when he should be having sweet dreams in his own bed safe, sound and warm. if you late nights visiting with family are only once in a while, i wouldnt be too concerned. but any more than that, the guilt would begin to eat away at me.
2007-01-03 02:52:39 · answer #7 · answered by gg55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a mom, but i was once a child! My folks would take us to relative's homes and occasionally stay late chatting over coffee. For my brother and I , It was a positive experience, a small "treat" to get to stay up late occasionally, not to mention spending time with other family members we didn't see too often. And guess what...he and I turned out just fine, I think my mom did great.
2007-01-03 00:20:57 · answer #8 · answered by karen p 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No....I can remember when I was a kid, families would get together every weekend to sit around play cards and drink coffee...Us kids would play till we passed out while the adults sat around the kitchen table, or outside if it was warm, and they would play cards.....That was in the early 70's. Nice to hear some families still do that!!!
2007-01-03 00:33:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It sounds as if you are really responsible and showing your son good quality family time. More parents should do this. Plus, if it's on a weekend, you can sleep in the next morning anyway!
2007-01-03 00:21:25 · answer #10 · answered by REBECCA 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋