My boyfriend of 3 yrs is 32 - we have a long distance relationship and see each other once a month or so. After all this while - he hasn't spoken about a future for us together.
On one occasion I caught him claiming to be single, sending his pics and chatting to a strange woman online.
More recently, he has been replying to a strange woman's messages on Orkut, on and off - apologizing for not logging into Orkut often enough, claiming to be single again and promising to meet up with her and explore a modelling contract.
I feel extremely hurt at his behaviour - am I making a big deal out of nothing? Would appreciate your opinion greatly.
2007-01-02 16:13:31 · 29 answers · asked by Exotic_beauty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would have to wonder how many other "girlfriends" he has, that he is doing the same thing to. My advice? Get rid of him, he's no good.
2007-01-02 16:17:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is basically cheating on you. The whole modeling conctract thing is one of the oldest scams out there to trick girls into hooking up. If he hasn't spoken about a future with you, don't hold your breath because it probably won't happen. The facts are in your face so don't waste another sleepness night over this.
Fact: He has hurt your feelings.
Fact: Long distant relationships don't have a great reputation to last.
Resolve: End things and move on.
Since he's been doing whatever he wants I would definitely recommend getting checked out by a physician. You can never be too careful.
2007-01-02 16:25:15 · answer #2 · answered by zumi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not making a big deal out of nothing. Sounds like this guy has several women on " the string " here and there. There is no telling, he may or may not be single. Some guys get a charge out of juggling several women at the same time. Don't depend on this fellow, if you are looking for something for the future, look somewhere else, especially closer to home. Good Luck.
2007-01-02 16:18:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships usually don't work, ask Monica when she & Corey Miller were dating he ended up marrying someone else & got divorced after 2 or 3 years. Ok let's be real he's 32 he's a grown man acting like a teenager if he's not serious let him go u need a true unconditionally loving soulmate & he doesn't fit the committment profile .
2007-01-02 16:25:37 · answer #4 · answered by pammybear1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, im sorry that you have such a jerkface boyfriend. secondly, you ARE not making a big deal out of this. My advice: confront him if you havent already done so. this relationship is obviously on the rocks, and he seems to not care. If you don't at least confront him, he will end up cheating on you if he hasnt already done so. If i were you, i'd confront him, see his reaction, and if he's obviously coming up with excuses or telling you that you are making a big deal about it, dump that loser! although you most definately dont need to wait to see his reaction to dump him, he's got enough charges to just do it. This guy is not respecting you. Respect yourself by letting him go!
2007-01-02 16:23:56 · answer #5 · answered by ursNonlyUrs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO i dont think ur making a big deal out of this. If u have a feeling that he's behaving shady ur prbly right, i recommend for u to tell him ur doubts, i mean cmon he's 32 for Gods sake, he should know if he wants a serious relationship with u or mess around. Good luck
2007-01-02 16:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by Bored Latina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about this. If he tells you whats up, tell him that you don't like him doing this and that if he really loves you, he'll stop. If he lies to you and tells you that he's stopped going to Orkut or if he doesn't stop, you should really get rid of him. He's not worth your time. Look for a guy that will appreciate you and love you truly.
2007-01-02 16:23:51 · answer #7 · answered by lulumagoogoo@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the online cheating. If he hasn't talked about long term plans and he's 32 and it's a long distance relationship, that's the reason to dump him.
2007-01-02 16:20:44 · answer #8 · answered by tjk1701 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's doing that to you now, what will keep him from doing that in the future? How did you find this out anyhow? Regardless, you should confront him. Let him know how you feel and ask him about his intentions and if he is even happy with the relationship that he is in currently. If I were in that situation, I would probably dump him though.
2007-01-02 16:20:32 · answer #9 · answered by TalkingTomato 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your long distance relationship is not enough for him. His is obviously bored with the relationship you have with him. And he is curious about other options. Be honest with yourself. Amor De Lejes es Amor De Pendejos as they say. Long distance relationships rarely work and especially if you only see each other once a month. Its evident that you either need to see each other more often and see if anything changes or forget about it.
2007-01-02 16:19:25 · answer #10 · answered by Maria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is a so called boyfriend of 3 years and is acting like he is single...then make him single. if this is a long distance relationship....he has probably been doing this the entire 3 years. dont waste any more time of him. he is not worth it. make him single. you you live your life single. you will find mr right who will want to be you and love you for who you are. get rid of him fast.
2007-01-02 16:22:29 · answer #11 · answered by dana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋