says that they usually go downhill and she doesnt want any ill feelings or to be uncomfortable for either party.we have worked side by side for three years and she does alot of things that I also do-for me she is a real turn on as she works hard and is VERY independent. A unique woman for sure....Please help with any ideas or thoughts
...tx
2007-01-02 16:12:19 · 17 answers · asked by robert g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Enjoy your friendship as coworkers until one of you quits/is fired/gets transfered... that's your cue to move in and ask her out on a date!
2007-01-02 16:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm in a similar situation, only the feelings are mutual between me and a co-worker. Dating a co-worker is dangerous territory, and, depending on the work climate, can be highly looked down upon by those in charge. Perhaps you can start small, just get her to go out with you and some other co-workers for drinks. Then move onto some more one-on-one time as the two of you get closer together. Whatever you do, you may have to take it very slowly for things to turn out right. I've been at my present situation since last June, and, 6 months later, after taking it very slowly am getting closer and closer to the goal.
2007-01-03 00:19:07 · answer #2 · answered by Lilly Jones-Fair 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave her alone and don't become a stalker. Saying I don't date co workers is an excuse that means she is not interested. If she truly thought you were the right guy for her she would know by now and would date you regardless. It is hard sometimes for a man to accept a womans no answer and they will make excuses, but stop perpetuating your own unrealistic fantasy that she would want a relationship with you if the situation were right.
2007-01-03 00:19:44 · answer #3 · answered by bestfriendthemom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating a co-worker isn't a good idea. If things don't work out, then there you are, still having to sit side by side every day.
2007-01-03 00:15:18 · answer #4 · answered by singleagain062005 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be a friend first, don't think about boy friend or girl friend. Can have lunch together, go slow. A lot of people date with co-worker. If she willing to have lunch with you at least she comfortable with you of she's not going with you then you know the answer.
2007-01-03 00:20:52 · answer #5 · answered by Dragon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You gotta respect that she doesn't date co-workers. If you're really serious about this person, then quit your job and find another. That's only realistic if you're already in a relationship with this person. In that case, focus your energy on someone else who will give you the time of day.
2007-01-03 00:15:59 · answer #6 · answered by kakolikapiha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me she's pretty well got her mind set on not dating co-workers since you said you've been working with her for three years and she still hasn't dated one so I'd say it's a slim chance she will. Sorry but that's how it looks.
2007-01-03 00:17:33 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well at least you can also say she has a good head on her shoulders too. You have to respect her wishes and find someone else to date.
I have that same philosophy too and there are very good reasons why people should not not date co-workers and she knows it.
Good Luck
2007-01-03 00:17:49 · answer #8 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she's just protecting herself... maybe something bad happened in the past... let it as it is... wait.... things come to those who wait....she'll go out with you when she feels she's ready just don't stop sending the signals... like flowers out of nowhere, gift checks, a word of appreciation, a cup of coffee, all those little things... it'll come sometime if it's meant to be. a friend once told me: "You know why some guys and gals are friends for so long but never date each other?? coz they are content with being that way... they may love each other coz they don't go out but they insist on being friends because that is all that they need... have each other by ..."
2007-01-03 00:21:26 · answer #9 · answered by AtsirkEiram 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume you are both single - she is 1. very smart 2. not interested 3. very smart. Let it go or change jobs or positions so you don't work closely so she wouldn't feel uncomfortable. Maybe you should find out her feelings for you before you change jobs.
2007-01-03 00:18:53 · answer #10 · answered by sweetpicker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there. Chances are you can't change her mind. But if you're determined, play your cards right. Let her know that the situation you two are facing is a temporary one and when the time comes that you are no longer colleagues, you're still interested.
2007-01-03 00:16:29 · answer #11 · answered by no name brand canned beans 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋