I want to post this again because something new happened...
I have been seeing this guy off and on for about two years, he's everything I have ever wanted in a man, except for one problem, and it's not just a small problem... he's always making jokes and references to having sex with babies. What's weird about it is he's not the type who even makes sexual jokes, he's a very polite and pretty shy. So I don't understand, even in front of my friends he'll just out of nowhere say disgusting things about babies. The other night he was very drunk and I got mad at him about these jokes because he was embarassing me, and he flipped out and started saying, "you really think I'm like that, you probably tell everyone I'm serious, etc." Now he's embarrassed around me and awkward. What do I do?
...The last thing he said really bothered me: Somehow we were talking about marriage and he said, laughing, that he would probably be talking about sex with babies AT OUR WEDDING. What can I do??
2007-01-02 15:59:30 · 24 answers · asked by xNancyxSpungenxJr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just want to make it clear: I can't really go into detail about it on yahoo, but the kinds of things he says are really really gross, and he does it for long periods of time. He even has many times mentioned specific babies that friends of mine have and things he wants to do to them. It's driving me crazy.
2007-01-02 16:09:31 · update #1
WOW THATS STRANGE, ARE U SURE THAT HES MR.RIGHT?
2007-01-02 16:02:27 · answer #1 · answered by AD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if he is really joking, or if this is maybe some weird perversion he's got. Sounds like your not sure either.
It might be possible that this is some kind of fixation he has, whether or not he'd actually act on it is another matter entirely. The fact that he's even bringing it up even if its just in joke IS upsetting. I would be concerned too. Best thing to do is ask him...
"If your not serious about this, why do you talk/joke about it?"
"Do you realize how often you bring this up?"
This is a potentially very serious matter. No matter how perfect or sweet he is with you. If molestation is a turn-on for him or he's even thinking about it. He is NOT perfect. He may need professional help.
If it is just a "joke" you should stress to him how uncomfortable it makes you and other around you. He should in respect to you and others, stop his behavior. If he doesnt, thats another indicator.
2007-01-02 16:08:16 · answer #2 · answered by Kurius_Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run like helll the other way..... life is way to short as it is to waste on figureing out this sick fruit cake, if i was you, i would chalk up the off and on two years as been there dont that - never again, i will leave it at that, think you can fix this guy - you are dead wrong, kind of like unringing a bell, dont keep heading for the train wreck that is coming if you stay, much less marry this - mr right to the jail house guy, not funny i know but you can avoid the wreck only if you leave now or you will pay in the sickest way, leapords never change their stripes, no matter how many times they change their coat, good luck and remember theyre are pleanty of fish in the sea for you.....that will treat you with respect and love you, and helll maybe your friends will like there humor, this guy doesnt make the cut, which is usually a sign, never seen or paid attention to, avoid the wreck.......
HAND have a nice day!!!
2007-01-02 16:20:22 · answer #3 · answered by texasbar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing right with talking about having sex with babies or children period. I cant see what he could possibly think is funny about it. If I were you I'd do a background check on this guy. Most pedophiles are polite and shy. He needs serious psychological help to deal with these thoughts he's having. You have to be thinking about it in order to talk about it. I hope you don't have any children and DO NOT have any children with him until you find out what his deal is. I'm a male who was sexually molested at the age of 3 and this makes me sick.
2007-01-02 16:11:28 · answer #4 · answered by jacksonvillegarycollins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, ur bf. has issue.But then again, all boys have issues. lolzz. Try talkin' to him about it again or tell him to stop. Tell him that u know he was just kidding around, but pls stop it- cause it's embarassing. If he loves you, he'll do it. Also, mayb ask him question of y he always makes jokes about babies n' sex. Hope this help. Good luck.
2007-01-02 16:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jkt_Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i surely desire which you're kidding, yet while no longer, and in case you extremely care approximately him, you're able to desire to get him some help, and promptly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I surely have been around some strange ******* human beings, yet I surely have on no account been around absolutely everyone who joked approximately the variety of factor. And, so far as i'm in contact that's no longer even seen joking it is ill and twisted and he heavily needs some expert help. Christ, i won't be in a position to even type anymore, the belief is making me sick. you bought mad at him?????????? i think of i could have beat the crap out of him. For actual. i do no longer care how dazzling he's.............it extremely is merely something you do no longer shaggy dog tale approximately. in case you had a toddler and he grew to become into making the jokes approximately your toddler, i think of you would be slightly disgusted. And, i do no longer care how below the impression of alcohol he grew to become into....you understand what they say....alcohol is a fact serum.
2016-10-06 08:59:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And this guy's "Mr. Right"?! No f-ing way. You need to stay away from this guy and notify the authorities... this guy is sick and from the way it sounds, he's not going to be around to be your husband... nobody jokes that much about having sex with babies unless they're thinking about doing it (or have already)... get rid of this guy and try to keep some kids safe...
2007-01-02 16:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy has a serious problem. No guy in their normal state of mind would talk about having sex with babies. Everybody has something unusual about them or a secret fantasy, but this one is just sick. He should seriously get psychological help and you should show him the door. He doesn't sound like good news. 99.9% of guys wouldn't talk about having sex with babies because that's just plain disturbing and twisted.
2007-01-02 16:02:33 · answer #8 · answered by Green-Eyed Gal 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He definitely sounds creepy. Run like hell. He obviously has no common sense and a very disturbing sense of humor. I am pretty open minded but if I heard him saying something like that, i would probably avoid ever talking to him again. What do his/your friends think of his jokes?
2007-01-02 16:04:45 · answer #9 · answered by crct2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Red flagg, if he flipped out & can't respect you enough not to talk about sick things like that , then get out while u can , he may be having fantasy's about it or trying to piss u off either way 2 years is not long enough to know someone fully. or he wants to make sure u don't wants kids with him . It sounds twisted & he really needs to realize that is serious & that could casue your freinds with kids to avoid u while ur with him. he needs to grow up. I am amrried with kids & that hits a nerve for aomeone to eve njoke like that with all that is going on with this world these days.
2007-01-02 16:05:50 · answer #10 · answered by pammybear1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe when he was a kid he was sexually molested and just somehow deleted the memory into his subconscious that't why he doesn't remember it anymore...
anyway... that was a theory but it does happen... memories from the subconscious are now accepted in court so long as they can be proven...
your guy's behavior can't be overlooked... talk and talk and talk! ask him to change threaten him thet you'll leave him for good if he won't...
2007-01-02 16:06:06 · answer #11 · answered by AtsirkEiram 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋