why doesn't my family care?

Question

I have depression and I feel as though my family don't care. I only live with my mum, and she never asks about me or considers how im feeling. I hate that she never listens to me and makes me feel terrible alot. Im sick of getting walked over. I see a phychiastrist and she never asks how the appointments go. Why wont she acknowledge me. She seems to think i am self-managable, but most of the time i just want to scream and give up trying.

Answer 1

I know exactly how you feel, but I am sure that your mom loves you very much, maybe she comes home tired, and maybe she just's doesn't want to talk, my mom is kind of the same, she never talks to me about school and stuff, I want my mom to be my friend, and I am sure that you want it too, so just tell her hoe you fell. or start talking to her more friendly way, tell her that you want to talk with someone, I know that it's hard, but I am sure that she is going to listen you. I know that she cares about you, it's just maybe she doesn't have much time to talk. good luck. I wish you to get along with your mom. good luck

Answer 2

Do you make any first attempts at telling her how things are going in your life? Does she get reports from the doctor your seeing so she already knows how the appointment went? Maybe sit down when you know she is home and ask her to sit with you and just come out and ask her how she feels about you? Or maybe write her a letter and give it to her in the letter tell her EVERYTHING that your feeling and tell her you really need her support to get through things and see if she could spend some time with you. Maybe have her go to one of the appointments with you and let the DR. see how the two of you interact w/ one another. Hope this helps!

Answer 3

I'm sorry you're depressed. You do need someone to confide in - but quite obviously your Mom has more than she can cope with in the rest of her life. Perhaps she doesn't have the wherewithall to comfort you. Parents are not perfect, just as children are not perfect, and we may have unrealistic expectations of our parents.

But she has arranged for you to see a Psychiatrist. That is expensive and is a concrete sign that she cares about you. Ask your Psychiatrist what you can do about finding someone to listen to your concerns - other than your Mom.

Are there web-sights that have chat rooms for depression? I don't know about that, but do know there are many chat rooms that are problem-specific.

Perhaps if you can find the energy to ask your Mom how she is doing and take an interest in her and her life, then she may be able to reciprocate.

You don't say how old you are. That is also a factor.

Good luck.

Answer 4

you're "settling" for a pal that loves your baby vs a baby care middle the position your baby will be left to cry and left out? What? In a baby care middle the ratio is 4 little ones to at least a million man or woman. meaning in case your baby is crying, damage, scared, hungry, regardless of, they ought to attend because there is basically a million woman and all 4 little ones may have needs mutually. i'd truly have a relative who adores my daughter watch her any day. i recognize after I leave my daughter with my mom that my mom provides my daughter one hundred% interest, holds her for all time, cuddles her, and treats her like the biggest man or woman interior the international. complete day daycare in my city is $204 for little ones over 18 months and $275 a week for little ones.

Answer 5

Well, for better or worse, what you're describing sound like the symptoms of depression, a feeling or helplessness, that people don't care about you - that nobody listens or cares. So though I don't doubt that your depression is a problem, but you should realize that it's going to color your perception of everything, so things are probably, objectively, not as bad as they seem to you because of the disease itself, and that should get better with treatment.

Answer 6

You know what? I don't know your mom, but I would have to say if she is paying for a shrink she loves you. When your depressed it seems like no one cares or loves you. You want every one to ask if your ok. My parents don't ask me anymore even when I'm severly depressed. I would suggest you go up to your mom give her a hug and tell her you love her. Ask her straight up. Mom do you still worry about me and care if I'm happy. I guarantee she cares. She wants nothing but the best for you.

Answer 7

Depression starts out with a put down by someone that gives one a feeling of unworthiness. It continues to build on that sad feeling by negative thinking which in turn resultd in a sadder feeling. It can be gotten rid of by stopping that cycle of negative thoughts (like your question was mostly) by replacing them with thoughts that make one feel good about oneself.

That said I want to say that all the 5-6 replys so far seem to the point to me. You need to initiate an effort to have more friendly communication with your mother; an exchange of expressions stating how you feel about one another, without arguing. I'm assuming you are old enough to talk as an equal with her. If she puts you down or reufuses to acknowledge her role, forgive her and try this:

By strength of will remember a time when you were happy and build on this by thinking about happy events and conversations with your mother or someone else. Dwell on this. It is difficult because the negative thinking (like you were doing in your question above) are a strong habit. They will try to take over. But if you persist and force yourself to think only about positive events and things the sad feeling will start to abate.

This is like a meditation but one where you are controlling your mood of thinking. Its goal is to replace the sad feelings with happy ones by replacing the negative thoughts with positive thoughts. Once "the sads" start to wane it becomes easier to recall nice times and happier events. Finally you are happy again. Try it and don't give in to negative thinking.

Once you have gotten control of your negativity and feel better you can approach your mother again (or anybody) with a smile and a cheery word. They will be pleasantly surprised.

Answer 8

Have you told how you feel?Maybe she wants you to make the first step.Maybe the psychiatrist could talk to your mum and you together. Family therapy may benefit both of you.

Answer 9

Well, what is your depression problem in the first place? Also, is your mother too preoccupied with her own problems? Do you think she is the correct person to ask to solve your problems?

Answer 10

Perhaps she thinks you don't want to address it. Or perhaps it is painful for her for some reason. Talk to her about it. If you can get an idea of what she's thinking, maybe you won't be so frustrated.