well, we were in love for nearly three years,he promised me in about 900 letters he wrote me since then,promising he would never let me down. We were living far from each other,but he was the man of my dreams,I did every possible thing I could to love him,but he recently betrayed me ,he is working in China and his new gf is Chinese. I don't know what happened.He sold me so cheap and now he just insults me on the phone and says I should not bother him with my calls. We were going to marry,but now he says he does not love me,and never wants to marry.
What do you think?Should I stop thinking of him the way he did?
How can I prove how much I love him?
Should I go and never forgive him for that?
I am Iranian,muslim,and from a strict family,but I prefered him to my parents.He is Beligian and does not believe in God.
But I love him,we did not have significant cultural differences.
And more I always say we should be eager to accept differences.
What can I do now?I really need a man .
2007-01-02 15:50:33 · 12 answers · asked by mahtabyarmand 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Get over it and keep walking, if a person doesn't want to be you, stop trying. There most be something better for you ahead.
2007-01-02 15:54:22 · answer #1 · answered by Javy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately , 3 years is a lot a time to spend on someone and then discover they are a low life snake .
FIRST > realize you are too good for a low life snake.
3 yrs will be a challenge to flush from memory but it is better you learned this before getting married , as divorce would have been a real nightmare .
If he wrote 900 letters long distance he had major psychiatric problems but now he is someone else's problem . The culture and religion are NOT the issues,
HE WAS A LOSER . . . that was the real problem but you did not find out for 3 yrs.
You must move on to a good & better life as soon as possible - move in the opposite direction from him and DO NOT take any calls should he change his mind.
This painful path to your new life will be worth it because eventually he would have revealed his true self / low life snake side anyways .
There are good people out there , take your time but go out and meet them.
Note: You need the right man > NOT a man, that is settling for any piece of junk that floats.
Wait for the right one.
2007-01-02 16:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could wrap you in a warm wool blanket and hold you until the hurt goes away. I know how you feel. My pain has lasted for over four years now. When the anger overcomes the hurt, you will be able to move on. Do not do anything out of desperation or need. There is real love out there for you.
2007-01-02 16:14:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know CLEARLY that if he dares to emotional cheat or physically cheat on you, then it is really over, no 3rd try or however more chance. Say it in your most serious attitude (no laughs, no giggles, no soft voice). Sound confident and positive when you say it, make sure you sound like you mean it. Don't be defeated by his blackmailing, you're not his mother, tell him to stop acting like a baby with his threats and grow up and learn to be responsible for his actions. All guys will look at other girls, but good guys always end up being faithful and they only "look", not engage in intimate physical activities. I guess your bf is just bad at hiding it when he looks at other girls. It's sad, but true, guys do look. Cuz hey come on, us girls look at guys too. You'll get to nowhere if you keep staying with him just because of his blackmails. It's not your fault. He need to mature up. In overall, it sounds like both of you are still pretty young. There are plenty more to learn about.
2016-03-29 05:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on with your life. I'm sorry he did this to you, but better to find out this now, before you married him and had a couple of kids. Yes, you should forgive him, because we should forgive those who hurt us, but you shouldn't try to convince him that you love him, and to take you back (it doesn't sound like he would anyway.) It's sad that he has found it necessary to insult you over the phone, but, like I said, at least you discovered this flaw in his character before marrying him. Let his girl in China have him. There's a better guy out there for you. Best of luck to you!
2007-01-02 16:51:20 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well instead of doing nothing, go after him! Win his heart back! Take action! For example: Dress-up sexy and show off for all I care!
Make his girlfriend jealous. Another thing is get a potion and make him fall in love with you all over again.
2007-01-02 16:12:03 · answer #6 · answered by The Mermaid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love yourself everything happens for a reason , maybe this experience is meant to teach you something, and once you meet a man whom you going to spend the rest of your life with your going to be more appreciative of what you have .
2007-01-02 16:03:46 · answer #7 · answered by Tellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. evidently he doesn't care for you as much as he said. Maybe he doesn't believe in God, but, it is God that has helped you get away from him. There are more and probably better guys in the world then he. Move on and find one.
2007-01-02 16:02:17 · answer #8 · answered by ruth4526 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. If you have to convince someone to be with you, is it really worth it??? He obviously is done with the relationship, so move on. All you are doing is hurting yourself.
2007-01-02 16:01:32 · answer #9 · answered by jasam4ever08 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
babe believing in god is nothing and i honestly dont know why you put it in there, if you love him but he doesnt love you anymore it has nothing to do with god it has to do with feelings! you cant make him fall back inlove with you... my advice call him and wish him all the best with his now girlfriend and tell him that if it doesnt work out with her to give you a call,
he will respect you for having the guts to say all that likee a mature adult and when/if they break up he will call you as long as you have respect and give him the time he needs.
good luck beautiful angel
2007-01-02 15:58:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋