Husband and wife are both virgins, they finish from the wedding, and go to their new home or hotel. But how do we go about it? Do you just start kissing and it goes from there or what?
2007-01-02 15:47:54 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You start talking and make each other comfortable. Then maybe you take a shower together as an ice breaker. Then you make your way into the room and go at it. Have fun! No hickies! You don't want all your business on Frontstreet! '-)
2007-01-02 15:50:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding day is stressful enough. Don't put any more stress on the wedding day by thinking you should have sex on your wedding night. Talk to your fiance about your concerns, chances are he will feel the same way. It will also clear your thoughts so that you can be more relaxed on your special day. Can you imagine going your whole wedding day knowing you have to address the situation later that evening? Just so you know, even some couples who are not virgins skip the sex on the wedding night. Best of wishes to you and your fiance. Good luck.
2016-05-22 21:51:18 · answer #2 · answered by Audrey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read some old advice that the husband should take three days to work up to it. More recent advice is to relax the first night and not make sex a big issue, because you'll probably be too tired to enjoy it. You'll have years to enjoy each other, and there's no law that says you have to do it on the first night. Nothing wrong with it either, if you're up to it. But if you're not sure to do after kissing, it's time to get some instructional books. Even kissing and petting, there's a lot of body to be kissed and petted. It's best if you can get comfortable enough with each other to tell what you like or want, or what you want to do. If neither of you know what to do, take the book to bed with you and have fun. It's how grownups play.
2007-01-02 16:01:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I am so proud of you both for saving yourselves for each other. You will not be sorry. Let me tell you something about sex. Its like playing a new sport. You don't start off being good at it. You have to learn the game and with experience, you will get better. Sex is the same way. Don't put so much emphasis on the sex part. Most people say that their first time sex experience was somewhat disappointing and not as exciting as they thought. I'm not trying to downplay sex, it is wonderful, and you may have a great time.Having said that, I would talk about it with your mate about how you feel about it, but mostly, just enjoy each other. Don't let there be allot of pressure to perform. Relax and enjoy each other. The honeymoon is more than just sex, its about bonding and enjoying the "entire" experience.
2007-01-02 15:57:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are really worried and want to know more "Intended for Pleasure" by Ed and Gaye Wheat is what our premarital counselor told us to read. But I really think you and your spouse will have fun figuring it out for yourselves. Don't feel pressured to go all the way that night if you are not comfortable. Sometimes that pressure makes it hard to enjoy yourselves. You have the next 40 years to get it right, and practice (with love) makes all things better.
2007-01-02 16:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by Bre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think about it too much you will drive yourself crazy or you will think it out too much that it will become a havoc. Let the mood come naturally. Enjoy being married, your first time can be the best thing ever or it could seem over rated, don't turn it into the goal of the night or anything. You should be happy and excited to spend the rest of your life with your spouse, have fun, and a little alcohol wouldn't hurt.
2007-01-02 15:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by aprilkadenkobe 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Kissing is a good start...taking a shower helps...(yes both of you in the shower or bath)...just caress each other and do what feels good. Ask what each of you likes...try not to get carried away and get hurt...It's always best if you're wet. (women, before intercourse) What you really need to do is relax and enjoy each other...
Have fun !!!
2007-01-02 15:53:39 · answer #7 · answered by Chrys 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, just start out kissing and touching, and then after a few minutes you'll be ripping off the wedding dress and tux and you'll figure the rest out... have fun!
2007-01-02 15:50:13 · answer #8 · answered by F.J. 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well do something to get both of you relaxed. Maybe its just snuggling together or taking a bath/or shower together. Get comfortable around each other, and yah...start with kissing.
Everything will just fall in place...so to speak...
Oh yah and don't psych yourself out thinking about it! Just don't think about it and FLOW!
2007-01-02 15:51:59 · answer #9 · answered by Kurius_Kitten 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wanna know too...because i am a virgin..i want my future husband to be one too..
and i am really scared about the wedding night...
i mean..how to u go from just holding hands and maybe kissing...to....the other stuff..?
2007-01-02 15:50:19 · answer #10 · answered by A Girl 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋