We haven't talked since we broke up, well.. we talked a few days after that and found out he already had a new girlfriend. It wasn't very serious between us, but I kind of miss him and want to talk to him again. Don't worry I don't want to try and get back with him! I'm not sure if he'd want to talk to me though. Should I try and add him back on my messenger?
Thanks in advance.
2007-01-02 15:46:53 · 16 answers · asked by Staticx 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave well enough alone! Once you go back your Hearts on attack!
'-)
2007-01-02 15:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The standard answer is," If you have to ask, don't do it".
Lonliness can make people take actions that are not in their best interest.
Go through you feelings alone or with a counselor or any friend that you can trust or who has a history of good relationships with good people. Do not pour out your pain or lonliness to friends who may gossip.
Here are some things you wrote, "We haven't talked since we broke up", "Already had a new girlfriend","wasn't very serious".
If you had a little sister and she told you this, what would you say to her?
Do not look for him, call etc. If you had a new boyfriend would you like it if his ex called him, especially if your new boyfriend had not called the ex but the ex keeps calling? Would you like that.? Your "ex" is clearly telling you that there should be no contact because he is not making contact with you. That is the clearest message he can send you. This is healthy. Some people are jerks who send 2 massages to ex's. For example they may not like you anymore but call just enough to use you for something or keep you from having a new boyfrind. Your ex is not doing that. He has let you go and clearly wants no contact. Were you an official couple? Did people know you were together or was it a private kind of get together? Was it serious for you but not for him? It is okay if you were serious. It means your heart works and you have the ability to love.
Either get back in the game of loving yourself and a new boyfriend or concentrate on school, learning some new sport or musical instrument or langauge.
No contact. Feel your feelings so you know you can live through this.
Plan and save for a vacation so you can meet people from another part of the world and realize that your small world/ school/community is not the only thing going on and the people you see everyday are not the only people in the world. You may eventually fall in love when you are a successful adult with someone from another part of the world. Until then, learn new things and only give your heart if the other person seems to be serious about it. Does not seem that the "not very serious between us" kind of hook up works for you. You seem to be a relationship person so do not settle for less. P.S. You were not rejected. People have the right to end relationships that turn out to be not exactly right for them. You can go out with someone for many months and then they say or do something you don't like or you realize that you want something different. This is totally okay while people learn what they want. People have the freedom to change their minds. It is better to leave rather than stay with someone and cheat or lie. Let people go who decide they want something else. Just as some people will have to let you go because you decide you want something else. Give people freedom so you can be free.
2007-01-03 00:18:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!! Don't do anything with him, you'll only make things worse. Spend your time by reading a book, go for a walk, write a friend, cook, keeping busy will allow yourself to forget about him and you'll feel better. Do you have kids with him?
2007-01-02 23:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by rspheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on the reason for your break up. If you feel he will be receptive (not setting yourself up for more heartache) than why not drop him a line? Ask him straight out if he minds your adding him back on your messenger.
2007-01-02 23:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by soozemusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, don't give him the unecessary high! Move on - nothing like a new love to get over an old love
2007-01-02 23:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by JD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINKTHAT IF YOU AND HE HAD A FRIENDLY BREAKUP
THEN IT WOULD BE OK TO KEEP HIM IN YOUR MESSENGER AFTER SOME TIME. BUT DONT GO TO SOON
HE WITH SOMEONE ELSE. SO THAT SHOULD BE FIRST
TO RESPECT THE OTHER PERSON IN HIS LIFE. BUT
DOWN THE ROAD MAYBE YOU CAN TALK TO HIM.
2007-01-02 23:51:00 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to, call him to say Hi. But just be prepared to hear about his new girlfriend. Blah!
2007-01-02 23:49:11 · answer #7 · answered by San Diego 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! He dumped you and you should go on with your life. There are many more "fish in the pond" and you don't have to settle for this loser.
2007-01-02 23:49:53 · answer #8 · answered by Tenn Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure~ its just a "wanna-be-friends" type of thing so it should be ok to contact him~dat would be smart~ and if he takes it badly or w/e it won't matter~ cuz u noe u didn't do anythin rong~
2007-01-02 23:49:19 · answer #9 · answered by SmilE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naw. Move on girlie. Move on. There are other fish in the sea.
2007-01-02 23:49:17 · answer #10 · answered by Misty B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋