Fatherhood.?

Question

I have a friend who became a father. Him and his ex-girlfriend aren't on speaking terms. He does want to be in his child's life despite having difficulty getting along with his ex.

They know that they will not get married. What can he do to be in his child's life despite the problems with his ex?

Answer 1

The first problem would be whether or not the mother wants to keep the child from him. If she does, and he really wants to be there, I'd go legal with it and petition for custody. If she wants him in the childs life, though, then they should be able to agree that their differences should be put aside for the sake of the child, and that's just something they have to work out between themselves. I hope everything works out for your friend :)

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Answer 2

It's a no brainer really. Either you're a father or not. Has your friend made any attempt to be a father to his child? Makes me ashamed to be a guy today when so many are trying to avoid the responsibility and all it takes, then blame it on the ex. Or they think fatherhood is just child support, if they even pay that. Either they don't or they're forced to it seems, then complain and try to do everything to get out of it.
Sorry to be so judgmental of your friend, but I had a father just like your friend. Made every excuse in the world, blaming my mother for him not being there, only remembered he had kids on their birthday and Christmas. All because he was a loser and couldn't own up to the fact that nothing prevents anyone from being a father - you just do it!
You didn't say when your friend became a father but if he hasn't been there from day one, like he should have been, the kid is probably better off without him if he blames everything on the ex!