ok so i have a boyfriend, we are 2 yrs apart (16 and 18) and im a virgin and hes not and it has been startin to bother me. we have been together for one year and i cant stop thinking "i am not the first girl u have to i love you too i am not the first girl u kissed" he is my first boyfriend and everything is my first while im his 3rd gf and nothing is his first.i have not told him this i dont want to because i feel its stupid and then we have been thinking of marriage once we are older(dont comment on this plz) and i think that the only first thing i will be for him would be his first wife and his first babys mamma thats it. i dont know what to do, should i tell him or should i try not to think about it. he kisses me and i think that, and it sucks. what do u think i should do? is this a stupid feeling? another thing is that one of the girls that he has slept with was my friend at the time, we arent friends anymore but if i see her we say hi and talk a lil bit but yea what do i do?
2007-01-02 15:40:45 · 7 answers · asked by happybunny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont hold his past against him
2007-01-02 15:50:50 · update #1
Naw girl this aint no stupid feelin youz got its legit to feel like that cause he obviously means alot to you but those feelings aside everything your talkin bout is stuff from his past and thats not what you should be concentrating on you need to focus on the two of youz future so squash all that live in the moment be happy hes with you.
2007-01-02 15:51:28 · answer #1 · answered by Styliztik 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to never hold anyone's past against them. He has slept with other people, but he wasnt dating you at the time, and you cant expect that he should have waited for you to come along, because he didnt know you were coming along.
If he loves you and you love him, there is no problem and just because you're not his first doesnt mean you wont be the best or the most meaningful. Dont let the past ruin the future and just enjoy being with each other.
Good Luck
2007-01-02 23:47:34 · answer #2 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so young....at 16 all of these feelings are normal and seem so important. I remember being 16 and in love. Actually married my high school sweetheart 40 years ago. I think it's great that you are still a virgin...I was engaged to my husband before I lost mine. People are too quick to jump into bed these days. Relationships should be based on friendship first, love and then sex. If you do get married, how nice that you will be his first for all of the really important things that you mentioned. Hang in there...it really is worth it.
2007-01-02 23:46:44 · answer #3 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my virginity VERY young to my first love, who was about a year older than me...if I remember correctly. He had already lost his virginity to someone that I would consider his first love. But, it didn't bother me because I knew how I felt and I knew how he felt.
I am quite a bit older than you and find myself in that situation now. I am in love with someone who has been married before and who has children. I sometimes let these things bother me because I want everything between us to be a "first".......marriage, children, etc. But, at our ages it is just something that I have to deal with, and I talk to him about it. But neither one of us can change the past. If it bothers you that much I would talk to him about it. Relationships are nothing without communication and if you keep it inside it will continue to bother you and eat away at you.
2007-01-02 23:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by Mystery Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
should never b with someone that slept with ur friend and there arent gonna b too many men out there that r virgins so good luck findin someone thats a virgin like u otherwise get ready to be someones 2nd,3rd, 10th,etc. they will always b ur first til u do it
2007-01-02 23:46:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over it. I dont mean to be rude, but it is stupid to worry about it so much. What matters isnt who he kissed or had sex with in the past, what matters is that he is with you now...be the first girlfriend he had who loved him unconditionally
2007-01-02 23:46:14 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Ladylike ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him there is no doubt in your mind about it. It is not a stupid feeling it just means that you are waiting for someone else or that you want to give you virginity to him.
2007-01-02 23:45:41 · answer #7 · answered by xo_Gabby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋