Guys what are some reasons as to why you stay friends or "hang-out" with an ex? My ex dumped me a year ago yet last week he called me and asked me to go see a movie with him. Then he took me homw, and when I asked him why he wanted to see me, he said that he wants to see me every once in awhile. By the way, we never had sex cuz he knew that I wanna save myself for marriage. So what does he REALLY want?
2007-01-02 15:33:33 · 19 answers · asked by Hottie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good for you, a girl with respect for herself, saving yourself for marriage. Bless you. I think the ex just wants to be a little nosey, sort of a ego thing, he probably would have rather you boo hoo over the break up. It is okay to be friends, but your a very smart lady and probably already know to keep it less than even casual friendship. He dumped you, probably best thing that ever happen to you. Girl, I am so impressed with you, you are going to make some man a wonderful wife.
2007-01-02 15:39:29 · answer #1 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kudos to you for wanting to save yourself until marriage! Most people continue contact with their exes for many reasons, one of them being a way of holding on. I don't doubt that there will be guys who leave a girl who doesn't put out. I don't know the entire situation (like did he dump you for someone else?) but my personal take on this without passing any judgment is that it may be that he could be holding on to the possibility that he may eventually get you to give him what he wants and this could be his way of manipulating himself back into your life. Stick to your original plan about waiting until marriage. If you give him what he wants, he probably won't be around because if he truly cares about YOU, he wouldn't have left you in the first place.
2007-01-02 15:43:02 · answer #2 · answered by kakolikapiha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...it's hard to say but I know after a year away from my ex that I disliked very much, we finally started to talk again. I guess you just shared a special contection with that person that's so hard to overcome. Sometimes it's good to see your ex, rekindle what you had lost and sometimes it boost's your self-esteem to know you're doing so much better without them, see how much you've grown. It's not a bad thing and if this is a mature adult relationship then he may not be after sex.
2007-01-02 15:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by *Ms Manners* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... tough one... I guess it's because he still has some feelings for you that he wants to see you every now and then. He probably misses you, especially if you were together for a long while. Even if he still has some feelings for you, you don't have to think he still wants to be your boyfriend, he might just want to be your friend... That's not such a hard concept to grasp now, is it? So... as long as he doesn't harras you or stress you out, I don't think there's any problem in you guys hanging out (if you enjoy that, ofcourse)...
Take care!
2007-01-02 15:40:04 · answer #4 · answered by Andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just really wants to be your friend....can you be that without sex ??? Hanging out with an old friend is better than being in a bad relationship....at least you have things in common, you don't have to worry about sex and you can go home and feel good about yourself...
I like men as friends...whats not to like..???
2007-01-02 15:37:08 · answer #5 · answered by Chrys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he likes hanging out with you as a friend, have you ever considered that? I have an ex-girlfriend that I've remained good friends with. It's been a positive thing.
2007-01-02 15:36:20 · answer #6 · answered by somewherein72 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some are honest and only want friendship, while other are seeking for more. You just gotta see and know the guys way of being. I Know you said guys, but you gotta take everyones advice, guys aren't always honest on this kind of stuff.
2007-01-02 15:38:10 · answer #7 · answered by Kat's Lil LAdy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry im a girl but the reason my ex and i stay in contact is for the sex for you id like to know the reason as well maybe he has some regrets and doesnt know how to tell you??
2007-01-02 15:35:55 · answer #8 · answered by bilinda_82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, guys usually kinda sometimes regret things, or they are just being a player. When you stay friends with a girl, let say for instance he breaks up w/ his present gf, he comes back to u, knowing ur there.
2007-01-02 15:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by blah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you're a better friend with an ex then you ever were a partner. he sees that and wants to maintain that freindship. What's wrong with that?
2007-01-02 15:35:24 · answer #10 · answered by the_grot_shoppe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋