I am a young man from New York who never had a girl friend.What should I do?

Question

I see other people with in relationships,and I am always asked why don't I have a girlfriend?I never have an answer and I end up either walking away,or ignoring people.I am very attractive young man to a lot of women,it's just that I don't have the guts to talk to them or look those women in the eye.I want to have the guts,
so any advise would be good, from either man or woman.

Answer 1

Looks don't matter as much as having a great personality and a sense of humor. If you are around available women, you need to strike up a conversation. Be sincere. A woman only wants to hear the truth. If you think she has beautiful eyes, tell her. If you think she has a great smile, tell her. It's a great way to start a conversation. How could any woman not respond to a sincere compliment? Once you have her attention, keep the conversation going. If you make her laugh in the first few minutes, you are almost home free if she is available. Women like men who are confident, fun, love to talk, love to dance, or some activity a couple can do together. Try to find a common ground so you can keep her talking. The more you learn about her the easier it will be to keep her attention. My husband has such a great personality that I fell in love with him before I realized that he was bald and 6 inches shorter than me but oh that smile and fun conversation that had me giggling non stop. His great personality melted my heart in a hurry. Looks fade but personality is forever.

Answer 2

I'm another good looking young man in New York who used to have the same problem. Then I realized a few things that might apply to your situation:
1. The New York City metro area is FILLED with gorgeous women of all ethnicities (kind of a United Nations of hotness) and surely you can find some who likes you. Or two. Or three.
2. Women like confidence but they can't tell if you're just FAKING confidence long enough to start a conversation with them. I was scared poop-less the first few times that I started approaching and asking women out again. After that, it got easier and I began to fell actual confidence growing and I got better at dealing with women. I use this idea to help me: "If you don't ask, the answer is always no."
3. Thinking about getting a "girlfriend" is a mistake. I look for women to share a cup of coffee with. If that goes well then I offer dinner. If coffee doesn't go well, I don't. After these first two dates, who knows? I just go with what happens. If you focus on getting a committed relationship ONLY then you won't ever get one. Think short term and just be OPEN for long term. A LOT of people who think "relationship only" settle for sub-par mates or get involved in emotionally toxic relationships.
4. Don't focus in on one woman. If one emerges as a girlfriend candidate (after some dates), then commit. Until then, your focus should be on dating many women. Realize this: Most will not agree to the first date, most who do won't be worth, or agree to, a second date. See what I mean? Even if you ask 4 women out every week, I think that something like 2 a month will get past the second date. I'm not telling you to be a player but if you're not committed to anyone, why restrict yourself?
5. Don't worry about other people's relationships. I see people in relationships all of the time. Be happy for them and don't let it bother you.
6. Look women in the eye, even if it scares you at first. They have pretty eyes, why would you want to miss that? If you avoid eye contact they'll think that you aren't attracted to them, are shady or weird or that you lack confidence (which you can fake at first, remember). All are turn-offs for them.
Good luck and happy dating!

Answer 3

Don't change a thing. I was 17 before i even had a girlfriend. Just be patient and the right person will come along. The only thing i would suggest is to become friends with some girls(that you like). Trust me, if they like you enough they will ask you out. The man doesnt always have to be the one making the moves

Answer 4

What makes a man attractive to a woman? Follow these tips to make yourself more appealing.

Instructions
•STEP 1: Take pride in your appearance. Realize you only have one chance to make a good first impression.
•STEP 2: Appeal to all her senses through your sensuous voice, fragrance, clothing and appearance.
•STEP 3: Give her a reason to think about you. Wear a masculine fragrance that haunts her memory, tasteful clothes that she yearns to touch, a smile that she can't get out of her mind.
•STEP 4: Flirt with her by sending silent signals of your interest through subtle body language.
•STEP 5: Treat her like she's the center of your world. Focus your full attention on her and block out distractions.
•STEP 6: Listen intently to what she has to say, and respond with respect for her opinions.
•STEP 7: Ask about her interests, her work and her hobbies. Pay attention to the details.
•STEP 8: Be honest and sincere. Keep your promises. Call if you say you're going to call. Show up at the time you say you're going to arrive. Don't make idle promises that you have no intention of keeping.
•STEP 9: Let her know you're different from other men. Emphasize your originality through your personality, intelligence and behavior. Don't pretend you're anyone other than yourself.
•STEP 10: Refrain from boasting, particularly about your past triumphs with other women.
•STEP 11: Leave a little something to the imagination. Don't bare all or tell all immediately. An air of mystery can be provocative and appealing to a woman.

Tips & Warnings
•Your appearance and body language may catch her attention, but it takes personality and charm to sustain a woman's interest.

Answer 5

Relationships usually never develop when you are actively hunting a relationship. Get yourself involved in a singles support group. Maybe at a local church. Go to places where singles meet to just have fun with each other. Don't go to meat markets like bars, etc. Get to know people. Say hi to them. Compliment people. Be outgoing and adventurous. Find common interests and likes when you are talking to people. As you become more comfortable with a woman, then ask her if she would like to do something together like go to an art museum, or have dinner.
Remember, all they can say is no. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Answer 6

I completely know what you are talking about... Even though I am a girl I have been in the same situation as you. I get scared looking guys in the eyes... it makes me very uncomfortable. I found that when I did not look people in the eyes or not talk to them, they thought that I was not interested in them (which was completely not the case at all). I made a VERY concious effort to at least ask people (who I was interested in) some questions about themselves... what they liked doing in their spare time, what music they listened to, their favorite movies... not only do you learn some handy information about them... it also makes them think that you are INTERESTED IN THEM.

It is really difficult to get enough courage to talk to a girl... but once you become determined enough to talk to her, there will be some pretty good consequences (especially if you are good looking)

I forced myself to get enough courage to talk to some guys and now I have a boyfriend (who I never would have had if I did not talk to him)

trust me.... good luck!!!

Answer 7

I was just like you once, instead of going around trying to get to know ppl, i found that I was attracted to one of my friends! He's my boyfriend of 5 years now, and we're still going strong! Think of the girls you meet as friends and it'll be alot easier, you may become attracted to her, and she may become attracted to you too!

Answer 8

Do something to build up your confidence. What are you good at? Perhaps, work out. You'll not only build muscles, but it can also help you out in attracting the ladies.

Answer 9

You have to learn to talk to women. Visit this web-site: http://www.doubleyourdating.com

And follow the advice. If you want to date. Whether you get a girfriend or not is up to you.

Answer 10

Umm have some guts to talk to them?