My 16 yr old son wants to date out of his race?

Question

My son told me that her is starting to like this girl. He then told me that she is of a different race. Should I meet her first or just tell him not to do this.

Answer 1

you still have the say since he is only 16. If you know it will be a mistake, tell him he needs to rethink it. He is young you need to direct him

Answer 2

I think that you should meet her. Just like in your own race, there are people of other races who are good and who are bad, and if you just assume that she is of the bad, you son will be less likely to seek your advice in the future.

Now, if my fiance were answering this, he would immediately say that your son should never date this girl, becuase you should only date inside your own race. There are many people that still feel that way, even in today's interracial world.

We grew up in a small town that was entirely one race except for one adopted boy whom we all knew because he was different, and one Chinese family that opened a Chinese restaraunt.

If you live in a town like that, make sure that your son is prepared for the possible backlash, but if you live in a large city, or at least a mixed race town, then I think that this would be seen as fairly commonplace by most people.

Besides that, at 16 odds are that no matter who this girl is, they won't date for more than a few months. But meet her anyway, becuase he is offering and there is always the chance that she is his One.

Answer 3

Skin color is just that, its a color. My gf's brother seems to only date "Exotic" girls, he is 16 and her family has no prob with it, because the girls he dates are very nice. If you are worried about how people are going to look at him with him being with someone other then his race, dont. Alot of people date out side of their own race, and there is nothing wrong with it. It it would put your mind at ease some, meet the girl, picture her the same race as you, and if you like her personality, then yes let your son date her.

Answer 4

Race should not be a factor, however it depends on what your culture is. Some cultures dictate that dating outside of their own ethnicity is reason for "shame". However if you live in the United States and are not of a religion with restrictions, I say allow your child to date whomever he chooses, no matter what race they are.

Personally though, I feel that race should not make a difference, and yes, you should always beet who your son wants to date, so you can have a good rapport with that female. Nothing worse than not knowing who your child is seeing, especially since sometimes relationships that start this young (16) can turn into long term relationships. You should always know who your son is dating and who he is hanging around with, and be on speaking terms with them, so you can be "in the loop".

Answer 5

His choice not yours, race is unimportant as far as who he chooses as a mate.