About american dating culture ??

Question

Is true that american women willingly to have sex on their first date? Well back where I came from you have to be a couple to have sex.

Answer 1

Men often receive the blame because we bear a particular responsibility for the wounds inflicted on women. Like it or not, there is no way around this. The world has a double standard. A guy is considered a "player" when he is sexually active, but a woman who lives the same lifestyle is called a "slut."

Nevertheless, the pressure goes both ways. There is no doubt that there are many young women who are more sexually aggressive than their dates. But take a look at the reasons why. When a guy is sexually aggressive, it is usually because he is giving in to his body's strong desires. With young women, there seems to be a different motive. Look into the heart of a young girl who is forward and physical. Odds are, she has been used before, and now she shuts off her emotions from her physical actions. Many men have no qualms about having a one-night stand because they are more able to perform the sexual act as if it were merely a physical event.

Women's hearts and bodies tend to be more integrated. One girl said, "Most of all, at the gut level, there was a desire for intimacy, a desire for marriage, a desire for commitment, a desire for fulfillment and a desire to hear the words 'I accept you.' . . . As an attempt to find fulfillment and acceptance, 'rolling in and out of bed' became a common pattern for me, a balm to cover my fears. Fulfillment took the scope of a few hours instead of what I had imagined--a lifetime. The fears produced the truth: I had become bored and boring; I didn't find any lasting acceptance of me; I didn't find my ideal mate from bedroom gymnastics."(1)

When you find a woman who is having one-night stands, you will notice that it is often a kind of protection for her heart. She has been hurt before. She may have no boundaries when it comes to her body but there is a mile-high wall around her heart. She stoops to the level of a temporary physical relationship to prove that she can be as carefree about sex as some men are. It keeps her from having to be vulnerable, and it gives her a false sense of being in control of her life. She is losing the ability to bond, but it is all an effort to numb the interior wounds and find something that feels like love in order to smother the emptiness.

This is known in some circles as "liberation." One man noted, "Most young women strike me as sad, lonely, and confused; hoping for something more, they are not enjoying their hard-won sexual liberation as much as liberation theory says they should."(2) When a young woman encounters the inevitable hurt that accompanies the misuse of sex, she may shut men out of her life or immerse herself in physical relationships in order to forget the wounds of her heart. Imagine that a woman spilled ink on a white carpet. The stain runs deep, so instead of taking the time and effort to scrub it out, she dyes the whole carpet the same color as the ink. This makes the original stain much less noticeable.

That is what is going on in so many hearts. A woman who has been broken from sexual encounters tends to minimize the hurt. One way to do this is to jump into numerous affairs as if it were no big deal. By doing this, she hopes to convince herself that there is no need for healing. One high school girl told me why she had done all sorts of things with guys: "I was only doing it because I had this total and complete lack of love in my life."

Some young women may lower their standards in order to meet a guy, so that they will feel desirable and worth something. In the words of Complete Woman magazine, one of the positive aspects of first date sex is that it "makes you briefly forget your huge self-esteem problems."(3) Women know that guys like sex. So sex becomes bait to win the attention of a man. Other young women may once have been reserved about sexual matters, but because of a mistake or a wound from the past, they figure they no longer deserve a good guy. A girl like this may even assume that a man does not like her unless he makes sexual advances toward her. As you see in all these cases, the physical tends to be an avenue for the fulfillment, burial, or protection of the emotional.

Answer 2

If he paid, he considers it a date. Inviting you home is serious. It's slightly less serious here because he probably thinks that you might not have anywhere to go for the holiday, but it's still fairly serious. On the next date, you should offer to split the bill. He will say no, but the gesture is important. People have slightly different ideas. Some say that when you're dating, the guy should always pay. Some say that when you're dating, he should pay for the first few dates, and they should split it (or alternate) after that. Some say that he should pay, but she should do things such as pretending that someone gave her some extra tickets to a performance so that they can go on a date. One other thing. For many people, the third date is when people start to get physical. It's OK to not get physical. Just be aware that if you go back to his dorm room (or your room) after the third date, he's probably planning to get physical.

Answer 3

the answer is NO!

not all american women willingly have the sex on their first date.

it is only a small percentage. and when you have sex with these girls you may or may not be the first guy of the day or tenth guy of the week.

I have heard with these girls that every twenty-fifth guy gets a free meal with his sex.

Answer 4

doesn't matter when you have sex as long as you love the person. but don't go thinking you have to have sex on the first date do what your heart says not what the American culture says do what you think is right.

Answer 5

i travel alot and in most cultures, to have sex on the first date is unheard of, unacceptable. in america, because of the tv shows, it shows women as very promiscuous. not all women are like that, but a good amount are.

Answer 6

AS MUCH AS I HATE to admit this, a good number of American girls are loose. I have traveled a lot and realized that some American girls give us the rest a bad name. We are known as the loosest girls on earth(excluding me). when i go to other countries(especially Europe,Africa and Asia) women are are chased after by guys and girls do not give it up as easily as our girls here. What is considered normal here, is considered slutty elsewhere.

Answer 7

It's not true of all american women. There are those out there that will but most women will not.

Answer 8

id never have sex on the first date

Answer 9

Depends on the date. Well, yes you have to be a couple here unless you like to have sex by yourself. It's always better with two or more don't you think?

Answer 10

Where do you come from?

American women are not sexually oppressed like they are in many other countries. Let me add that American women have a mix of many cultures in their sexual ideologies. Women with more of a French backround will certainly be more "free" with their bodies, where as a woman from an English or Indian (from India) backround will be much more reserved with their sexual activities.