Okay, last week I asked a question about a really touchy/feely co-worker (http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AvGGwvNjaiXkR7jQwNJ7apnsy6IX?qid=20061228204941AA7jXyW). Most of the people said that she probably likes me. But since then, I've noticed that when this other person is around, she flirts with him like crazy (more than she does with me), and she doesn't really talk to me that much when he's around (it's not like she flat out ignores me, but she talks to me a lot less). Also, this guy is more her age then me. She's only 2 yrs. older than me, but she's in college and I'm in high school, so our lives are completely different. So, now I'm asking, since she acts like this, could it be that she doesn't really like me, and is just a touchy person? Ladies, do you ever touch somebody just to touch them?? Keep in mind, I know her well enough to know that she is NOT a flirt, and she would NOT be trying to play with my head.
2007-01-02 14:56:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds to me she might just think of you as a younger bro, she might not even think of you in the way of a possible boyfriend, sorry bro but that's just how i perceive it just saying it so you don't set yourself up for a fall. the best thing to do in this situation is to just stay good friends with her and always be there for her and eventually one day she will look around and need someone, and if you are there she will hopefully realize the guy she has been looking for has been at her side the whole time, and if things don't work out in a bf gf relation ship wouldn't you rather have a really good friendship than to try to start a relationship and things go wrong
2007-01-02 15:00:56 · answer #1 · answered by bestadvice101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a big flirt, which is normal with many girls. They like a lot of attention and maybe she just wants to keep you interested in case some other boys don't work out. Next time she treats you like that just walk away or atleast bring another girl into the mix so she can't flirt with you as much. If she gets jealous then she obviously is a little selfish. If she just plays along and it doesn't bother her then she just likes you as a friend. Either way she can't make up her mind and you should probably just cut loose and find someone else.
2007-01-02 15:03:16 · answer #2 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously you dont know her THAT well, cause you dont even know if she is naturally a touchy feely person. So maybe she is a flirt with guys she finds attractive. And maybe shes doesnt want this guy to know that she might be interested in you. I always touch and flirt with people just because. I doesnt mean that theyre EVER going to get anywhere with me. I would take it all with a grain of salt until you have some one on one time in something more like a date setting.
2007-01-02 15:01:21 · answer #3 · answered by lindsay g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a woman but I can give advice on this because I have had a similar experience... Don't get turned off too much to the "big brother" thing... It means she looks at you as a protector.. But just in case you don't. Like her she might uae that term.. Or she has yet to explore that area of "boyfriend" in her mind.. But she is probably not closed off.. It could be the best. Thing to happen to you.. So don't blow it.. Also if you are snuggling with her.. Just try getting real close and maybe make a move.. Nothing huge, just a SMALL kiss.. It worked for me.. My fiancee called me brother before she thought of me that way.. And now were getting married.
2016-03-29 05:26:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's an attention whore man.
She's going out to get the ****** that she wants to be with in the sack knowing that if she ever wants the nice guy, you'll be right there waiting for her. She's playing you for sure and you don't even know if you're ever going to be able to cash in on your karmic charisma. Don't take that lying down man, you should be pissed off at being manipulated like that. Plus, because of her touchy-feely nature, she can, with no trouble, get you fired by complaining to human relations.
You at least need to be insured against that responsibility. Put in a report to human relations. Tell them you're not comfortable with what she's doing, that you don't want to get her in trouble, but you want the report filed just in case.
Even if nothing happens, you can sit there secure knowing that if these mixed signals get mis-read, you'll still have job security.
2007-01-02 15:01:47 · answer #5 · answered by Takfam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is you do not know if she is messing with your head, she may not either. Women play this game a lot, and you should move in before someone else steals your thunder. The worst thing that could happen is that you may not go out, and well, you aren't now anyway. So get off your duff, and let her know how you feel! Otherwise you will always only be second guessing.
2007-01-02 15:01:18 · answer #6 · answered by Road 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, if she is touching you, she likes you. Without a DOUBT. Because girls don't touch people they don't like.
However, she may be "playing her field" or making you jealous with the other guy. Pay no attention - if you want her. If you don't want her, it doesn't matter what you do.
I know this because girls love competition - 2 or more guys fighting over them (not literally) and they will try to make other one jealous without being aware of it (it's naturally wired in their brain to do that). This is true if she's single. If she's married, then she's a natural flirt....
Don't fall for this 'mind game', dude!
2007-01-02 15:03:51 · answer #7 · answered by Think Richly™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is actually a problem i can understand because i am going through the same thing, except i am the girl that is flirting with multiple guys....so listen up!!
she probably likes both of you and is waiting for one of you to make a move 1st. that is how it is in my situation is anyway. there are two guys i am intrested in, so i flirt with both...waiting for one to move in....so do!!! good luck i hope this helped
2007-01-02 15:06:15 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could just be one of those touchy/feely types. Just observe how she treats other guys.
2007-01-02 14:59:46 · answer #9 · answered by purpleflowers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's messed up in her head then. You've probably acted like you didn't notice that she was giving you extra attention so she might be trying to make you jealous.
2007-01-02 15:00:53 · answer #10 · answered by hotchica90210 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋