so after 8 months....we broke up then became friends with benefits...i think he started talking to another girl and told me we can't be friends because he doesn't want to hurt me because i'm going to continue to feel a certain way about him and he's not going to feel the same way...its been 20 days now since that happened but christmas and new years passed by and i'm wondering why he didn't even call to say merry christmas or wish me a happy new year? ;(
2007-01-02 14:43:30 · 13 answers · asked by broken heart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is trying not to hurt u by hurting u. he understands that if you continue to talk that you will only continue to harbor feelings for him and keep your hopes up. he is being more considerate than it may seem. some guys like to string girls along. but you can find some one new and that sounds to me like the best thing to do. i hope you had a good christmas and new year even with out him.
2007-01-02 14:54:24 · answer #1 · answered by summer girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't think enough of you to call to wish you a Merry Christmas, that says it all. Let him go and move on with your life, because that's exactly what he's doing. Breaking up is not allowing him to stay in your life as a "friend with benefits." That's giving him free reign to sleep with whoever he wants to, whenever he wants to. Have a little pride! What do you think that's going to do for your self-esteem???
2007-01-02 22:53:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has moved on and left you in the dust. Get over the guy and find someone who can be a normal loyal devoted boyfriend. Do not sell yourself short and sex is never an answer to keep a guy around. You are not a massage parlour or an escort, if you give it for free then you will be worth less then a whore (They charge by the hour). Make sure you respect yourself as a whole person worth dating and not a usable organ that is between your legs. Move on immediately and make sure the next man you meet knows you are a goddess.
2007-01-02 22:50:52 · answer #3 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has just cut you off.. I have had to do this recently too, but told the guy to call me on 1.1.07 to see how he felt from being apart.. I love him to pieces, but I love him too much and he doesnt reciprocate.. I was really hurt cos he made me believe that he did. He said that I am gonna keep being hurt cos I am still gonna love him, although he is not mine...and so I guess the same situation, he has made the break....perhaps for my sake cos he was a lovely guy, but also perhaps cos he doesnt want tohave to deal with me anymore...my nagging, my hurt, or just seeing me so upset with him.... I guess ur BF is doing the same? Or else, he has got so many other girls that he just forgot you...that is also a possibility in my case as well.. You will never know....just move on,,, i know it is damn hard, but find someone else for yourself.
2007-01-02 22:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry if it sounds harsh but maybe he nver cared about you. I have an ex who always calls me for Christmas and New years so I know he cares about me even if its just as a friend. Thats just that guys way of letting you know he has moved on .
2007-01-02 22:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by cHiKiBaBe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. The both of you should not have established the "benefit" in the first place. Move on, that is what he did.
why hasn't he called?? Because he moved on to another girl to get his mind off of you!
what should I do?? Do the same with other dudes.
2007-01-02 22:47:39 · answer #6 · answered by sk20007623 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to say but Im pretty sure he has moved on. He only told you what he told you to make it easier on you. Trust me, been there done that. Its hurtfull but sometimes things are better the way they are. Keep you head up and if it really bothers you that much you can try calling him but just be prepared. Who knows maybe you lucky and he has just been really busy but hey sometimes are not that lucky
2007-01-02 22:46:54 · answer #7 · answered by Miss L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, it is time to move on. And never, ever again do the "friends with benefits" crap. That was so jerky on his behalf. He already knew it was over between you two, he just kept you hanging on for sex while he found someone else. Do you really want to be with someone like that?
2007-01-02 22:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by Rita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He made the decission not to have any contact with you anymore because he may thinkyou are harboring "real" feelings for him. It may have been a good thingthat he did. At least now you can move on with your life.
Friends with benifits doen't work anyway. go out and find you a new boyfriend.
2007-01-02 22:49:01 · answer #9 · answered by LadyofLuxury 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl...i think he has made the right decision..if this goes on, u can never forget about him while he has already moved on in his life. heed his advice, forget abt him, find things to do..or find urself another bf...
i broke up b4 xmas and i know how u feel.
2007-01-02 22:47:10 · answer #10 · answered by sulaji84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋