I met a guy online and it was just a friendship, but I am really getting interested in him... I freaked a couple weeks ago, cuz I found myself thinking about him alot. He's wonderful, but is alot better than me. I know he shares alot of my same feelings, but I just don't know what to do. He's the first person that I've even considered having any kind of relationship with in over 4 years... I was gonna meet him, but I just got too scared, backed out, and told him I didn't want to talk to him anymore. I haven't talked to him now in a couple weeks, but I still can't stop thinking about him! I even dream about him... It's crazy! What to do, what to do.
2007-01-02 14:17:47 · 25 answers · asked by Indecisive 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am married and looking at divorce. I've been married for 4 yrs. b/c of a child.
2007-01-02 14:33:37 · update #1
You are smart enough to know that everything he told you while talking on the internet could be a story created just to get you interrested enough to meet him. If you first instinct at the prospect of meeting in person was to end the relationship, then you are probably right to end everything. You need to stay busy and if you are ready to start dating find someone in your church or community who is known to others you know. It is really too dangerous to be meeting people you meet on line most of the time.
2007-01-02 14:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by Country girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible because it happened to me.
I'm in my late 20s. He's in his mid 30s. We met online. Knew within a few days of talking to each other. Met in person about two weeks later. We've been together for over three years, and we are discussing marriage. I've never been more sure about anything in my life, and he feels the same.
It's important to take extra precautions if you DO meet in person though. Be careful. There are some scary folks out there.
2007-01-02 22:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer is very simple. you will only know if the guy is right for you once you have met him in person and go out on few dates and understand him. Its up to an individual to take time to understand the other party. My advise, don't ever commit yourself to a person you have met online. It maybe fun and exciting coz you haven't met in person but it will be totally different once you have met. It goes the same for men or women. Thinkin and dreaming about him is just the virtual world, it might not be the same in reality once you have met him. I'm not trying to be negative but these are possibilities. Think very carefully before you make decisions. Good luck!
2007-01-02 22:29:43 · answer #3 · answered by naseer2483 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What do you mean, a lot better then you? can he stop a bullet or leap tall building in a single bound? you have low self esteem issues. fix that first. then go on a date. a lot of people who seem good from far away are far from good close up. He is just a guy. Get your crap in shape and go on a date. Be calm, and mostly have fun. do not sleep with him, do not decide ANYTHING till you date for at least two or three months. then you can make sure he is not attached and is what you think he is. for all you know, he is madly IN-LOVE WITH YOU already!
Go out there and live your life. Can't do it when we are 80.(If we ever live that long).
2007-01-02 22:24:02 · answer #4 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh wow girl i can so relate to you on this sitaution because i myself met my fiancee online and at first we were also friends and i found myself liking him. as well so as scared as i was after being friends with him for an entire year i just came right out with it and spilled my guts to him and he felt the same exact way. we knew we were right for eachother too . what you need to do is be brave and try to get in touch with him again and if your still scared about meeting him bring somebody with you to meet him like a friend or a sister or brother or a parent that way you meeting him wont be as scary for you. if your dreaming about him and thinking about him then you do have feelings for this guy and its probally not just a crush it seems like alot more to me. so again get in touch with him again and tell him the reason you backed out on meeting up and told him you didnt wanna talk to him anymore was because you were scared about meeting someone offline and you been out of a relationship for 4 years and you have to start new again and get your trust back up again .
2007-01-02 22:22:35 · answer #5 · answered by babygirll04 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well its hard to really get to know someone online. but at the same time its easier to say stuff you really mean. i would go and meet him in public place and everything should be alright. just make sure you stay in public places untill you know hes not out to hurt you or anything. cuz if you are thinking about him alot then you will regret it later if you dont meet him.
2007-01-02 22:23:24 · answer #6 · answered by andrew 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess everyone's different but I don't see how anyone could actually know someone is right for them without meeting them. Anyone can be charming and sophisticated when typing, there's no need for charisma, enthusiasim or timing in general because they aren't thinking on the fly so it's hard to see how the person is in their true personality.
2007-01-02 22:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by Packin it up 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
angie here
I'd like to say that its possible to know if a guy is right for you or not that youve never met bc thats how i met my husband now i had the exact feelings you did for this guy expect I didnt cal it offwith him and we started talking online in august 2006 started dating in september 2006 and got married in december of 2006 so as they say anything possible if youl allow your heart to listen to it i had my doubts on alot of things with the man i married now but belive me now that i look back 4 months later its the best risk i ever took inmy life :)
2007-01-02 22:28:09 · answer #8 · answered by Angie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if u want my opnion then no it's not possible coz as u know people play a very different personalities over the net,u can find guys who is sayin they r girls,and u can find old ppl who says they r 18 and u can find a really bad ppl who will really make u think they r an angels,i think u should meet him,know him more
2007-01-02 22:25:56 · answer #9 · answered by Tara 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's just a passing fancy. If you really want to know if he's right for you, arrange a casual meeting in a public place, and have a pepper spray ready....
2007-01-02 22:21:02 · answer #10 · answered by Think Richly™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋