I am seeing this fantastic girl, very strong connection between us. She is going away for up to 4 months in February, I am totally devestated but something she planned for a year. Do we end as friends and see what happens when she returns or do I move on? I have strong feelings for her and I am convinced she is the right girl for me.
2007-01-02 14:10:18 · 16 answers · asked by Chris 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for the emails. I know that this she is the one. There will be no contact while she is away but I can write letters to her. She admited to me that she likes me a lot too and its already getting tearful. She told me that if anyone comes my way then I should go for it but at the same time she wants us to carry on if I am single.
2007-01-02 14:33:56 · update #1
Well, since you have strong feelings for this girl as you say, then you should wait because once she comes back you can go on seeing each other. But when she's gone, keep a strong friendship with her so when she comes back, that feeling of red hot passion will still be there.
2007-01-02 14:15:25 · answer #1 · answered by D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do both.... Dont promise yourself or her anything, but let her know that you will be there for her while you date other women. If you date other women, then you wont be so caught up on her. If you wait for her, she might not like that since it will make you look desperate and needy. Just be friends but show a little bit to let her know that you will miss her.
But once she is gone, go and try to date other women to get away from your feelings for her. Your feelings for her are not really that important to the big picture to shape your identity as a man.
Dont make a big deal out of it. You got more oppurtunity out there, and you need to take it to handle your emotions and how you handle women.
2007-01-02 14:20:51 · answer #2 · answered by sk20007623 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are meant to be together you'll be together. You don't have to wait for her but you don't necessarily have to go looking for you're next girl either. Once she leave tell her to leave things open and explore any opportunities that may come along. The important thing is to be honest- if you can keep in touch, try to... but at the same time 4 months is a long time. If you're still "single" when she comes back then maybe it was meant to be... Good Luck!
2007-01-02 14:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by Actually it's Ashley! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she's going to be a missionary, i'm going to guess that sex is out of the question for you. Move on- 3 weeks together and you have to wait 4 months not to have sex? Move on.
2007-01-02 14:12:30 · answer #4 · answered by pinwheelbandit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well why wouldn't you wait if it is only 4 months. Would you expect her to wait for you?
I think people are afraid of committment. There are also afraid to be alone. So here you are afraid to be alone and seemingly unwilling to wait 4 months. 4 Months is nothing in the bigger scheme of happily ever after.
Grow up!
2007-01-02 14:17:00 · answer #5 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While she's being a missionary, you practice the missionary position with someone 'til she gets back.
2007-01-02 14:13:54 · answer #6 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to her and put her in the missionary. High-five! Yekshemach!
2007-01-02 14:13:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's probably better to part as friends. It will be hard to keep that going while she is doing that. If it is meant to be, you can pick up again when she comes home.
2007-01-02 14:12:56 · answer #8 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You assume the *ahem* missionary position while waiting.
Sorry ...
Sounds like you should wait for her.
2007-01-02 14:13:15 · answer #9 · answered by Minmi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then wait dude, if she the one for you, then you've just answered your own question, and you can write and call? It'll be fine, dont let it be a problem.
2007-01-02 14:12:26 · answer #10 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋