for the past 4 or so months i have been babysitting for free a good friends child (2 years old). Her husband left her and she had to go back to work or loose everything, and isn't coping all to well with the changes, looks drained etc. But i can't babysit anymore, (i have 3 year old tiwns and am pregnant with a 3rd child) its getting too difficult and the child is having a big boost of the terrible two's. I feel so bad, (coz whats one more child right?), but its too much at this point of time. Whats the best way to go about this, is it rude too look for another babysitter for her and tell her i've found a replacement, i don't just want to leaver her without anyone.
-feeling so bad for her and guilty that i can no longer help out in this way.
2007-01-02 13:50:00 · 9 answers · asked by Baylee_J 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Give her a warning, say two weeks. Just let her know that it's becoming more difficult for you to babysit. Tell her you'll help her find a new sitter that she can trust. Offer to still baby sit occasionally for her and tell her you're still going to be there for her as a friend. Hopefully she will be understanding and thankful for the help you've offered her so far, and don't feel guilty, you've been a good friend and can continue to be.
2007-01-02 13:56:10 · answer #1 · answered by nimo22 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, don't say it's because her child is going through the terrible two's. Tell her how hard it is for you to be pregnante and run 3 younsters all day. SHe'll understand. Ask around but don't advertise that you need a babysitter maybe you have a common friend that could watch the baby at a discount.
Expect some hard feelings, she's about at her breaking point but know that you ahve to take care of your family first.
2007-01-02 14:02:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess it's natural to feel guilty because you can't help your friend the way she needs. you are doing nothing wrong. but you can't help it because you have a handful yourself- 3 year old twins and another one the way! Tell your friend that you can help her find a good babysitter because you are pregnant and it will be too much for your to handle and that you need help too. Maybe the babysitter can babysit the 2 year old at your house so the 2 year old can have some good socialization skills with the 3 year olds?
2007-01-02 14:24:09 · answer #3 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest to give her notice a few weeks at least, and it wouldn't hurt if you also recommended someone.Might help you end sooner. It is tough but you have to do what you have to do. This happened to me once and even after I gave her my notice she wouldn't look for anyone else so the kids kept coming (that's why I suggested that you could recommend someone too).
Or you can get a temporary part time job. That's what I did to get out of babysitting when nothing else worked. I served lunch in a school cafeteria for a month. I know you can't with the babies at home, but think out of the bax if all else fails.
2007-01-02 14:10:40 · answer #4 · answered by w2kaad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a very good friend and even though this woman has gotten a really bad break you can't sacrifice your family.
Be there for her when she needs to talk......and maybe down the road when her life and your life gets more settled you can exchange baby-sitting duties and give each other a night off every once in a while.
2007-01-02 14:04:16 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you can't. Something along the lines of, Sorry Suzie, I just don't feel like I can do this anymore. If that don't work then try the old, Sorry Suzie, Today I don't feel like it. And do that for the next 2 weeks in a row. She will get the point.
2007-01-02 14:08:24 · answer #6 · answered by Karen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ran an in-home daycare all the way up to my 6th month. I also have a 19 month old daughter. I had to quit, the stress is not good on you or your unborn child. Your friend should understand. Make sure you give her notice though.
2007-01-02 13:56:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 14:17:50 · answer #8 · answered by donenfeld 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey you have tried just make sure there is someone and she can come an chat to you when she needs to
2007-01-02 14:04:12 · answer #9 · answered by kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋