I ruined my 10 year old son's Christmas shirt today. He had one gift card for the holiday, and he chose a very nice, button down shirt from Abercrombe that was on clearance. I was very proud of him because he picked it out instead of some ragged t-shirt or something. Anyway, I ruined it in the wash, then ran out and bought the last one in his size from the clearance rack. Why am I feeling bad? I was planning on washing it and hanging it in his closet like nothing ever happened. Do you think my husband would be mad that I bought the same shirt again? What would you have done???
2007-01-02 13:22:17 · 39 answers · asked by Lanna b 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Thank you all so much. I feel better. :-)
2007-01-02 13:27:55 · update #1
please search around on the ground for your spine please. oh, and remember that you are the parent.
Sorry to all who gave me the thumbs down on this one. You are all wrong. My answer is the right answer. You are all supporting the wrong behavior.
2007-01-02 13:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by Hushyanoize 5 · 0⤊ 6⤋
I would just explain to your son that it accidentally got ruined in the wash, but because it was your fault that the shirt got ACCIDENTALLY ruined that you went out and bought him another one to replace it, there is nothing wrong with what you did, accidents happen and by telling your son you are teaching him to take responsibility..you did the right thing, now just tell your son, and your husband so you can have a guilt free night!!
2007-01-02 13:27:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that what you've done was in no way a bad decision. you fixed the mistake that you made and no real harm was done except for maybe a few extra dollars were spent. the important thing is that your child's independence has been preserved, and your pride in him remains unchanged. as a plus, your child still has the same shirt that he wanted in the first place. that bad feeling you've gotten is the same one that wells up in parents all over the world that are forced to tell their children that the pet hamster ran away, when in reality he had fried in the Arizona sun (true story). has any harm been done? no, i believed he ran away and some nice feeling of hope for poor skippy who was being cared for by some nice family in some far off city kept me content. think of it this way; a small "lie" and your child's happiness, or the truth and some possible trauma? the answer should be simple. hope i could be of help.
2007-01-02 13:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by Manga M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Accidents happen... why are you beating yourself up? I would be honest... say son, I ruined the shirt you bought, but I replaced it.
Or... are you worried that your husband will get mad at "wasted" money on buying the same thing twice? If that's the case, remind him that mistakes and accidents are not limited to wives, in a nice way of course.
Bottom line, there is no reason in the world for you to feel bad. Good luck and happy new year!
2007-01-02 13:27:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't see how you did anything wrong. I mean how could what you did hurt anyone. Not mentioning it if you are suppose to tell your husband about all your purchases is not right. But, what you did was the right thing to do. You break something you fix it. You ruined his shirt so you bought him a new one, what could be wrong with that?
2007-01-02 15:09:17 · answer #5 · answered by Autumn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I would be proud that to have a partner that would do that. I think if you ruin something on purpose or not, it's only right to try and replace it.
If he were to have crashed your car, hypothetically, you would have him work to pay for the damages. Right? Most parents would answer yes. Even though he/she didn't do it on purpose.
Likewise, you didn't mean to ruin his shirt but you did, and it's a nice guessture that you bought him a new one. How much was it?
2007-01-02 13:26:19 · answer #6 · answered by joy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you did the right thing. Your boy didnt ruin his shirt you did so you replaced it as you would if you ruined something that belonged to a friend. Thats just being polite and thats important especially with your child to teach him how to behave. Who really cares what your husband thinks if you beleive you did the right thing.
2007-01-02 16:08:01 · answer #7 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,you did the right thing,I would've done the same. This can be one of those funny stories you can tell at family gatherings a few years from now! But for now,if you're the only person that knows,keep it that way! lol
2007-01-02 13:28:09 · answer #8 · answered by Terri R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. He picked it, you ruined it.......so you did the right thing and replaced it. Your hubby should not be mad. I am sure if your son ruined something that someone else picked, you woudl want him to make it good. besides, he picked the shirt out himself. I would have done the exact same thing! Kudos for making good on a mistake.
2007-01-02 13:25:26 · answer #9 · answered by ShellyLynn 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you did the right thing. You should also tell your son what happened. Don't worry that it was on clearance. You were lucky to get an exact replacement.
2007-01-02 13:25:05 · answer #10 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would of done the exact same thing. Hopefully your hubby will understand and not be mad i know mine would take it as just taht. You dont wanna upset your son and the only way to do that is to replace it before he knows..
2007-01-02 13:27:06 · answer #11 · answered by pandabr74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋