ok so i have this girl that i like. She is really sweet and i think we would make a good couple. Unfortunately, she plays games and makes me feel horrible but i know deep down she is just insecure or unwilling to open up.
the thing that complicates this is that there is another girl who i have no romantic feelings for but i have better chances on being with her sexually.
Is it better to pursue the girl that is playing games, or settle for the other girl that is more willing to open up? (no pun intended)
2007-01-02 13:09:55 · 20 answers · asked by john12hamilton 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
note!
this is a high school relationship and both girls are older than me and are going into college. they know each other but arent friends and dont know what is going on with the other
The sweet girl is also somewhat immature and although i like a challenge it is easy to get fed up with the "run around" she puts me through.
The other girl is also sweet and smart. I dont not have emotional attachment but she does regarding me. She isnt a dirty whore either just more open to physical expression.
2007-01-02 13:19:27 · update #1
Metaphor:
Do you want the fresh, ripe apple that everyone else has not taken a bite out of-at the top of the tree, or the apple that has been bitten by insects, birds and other people, then tossed on the ground - but is easy to pick up?
What kind of games is she playing, she may just not know the mating dance. Is she young, then be patient-get to be her friend first -if you find that after being friends that you like her - hang around, If you don't - you know what to do. How does she make you feel horrible, if its cause she just doesn't respond how you want her to, well chalk that up to inexperience and having your ego dented. If she's mean to you on purpose, then that's another story. Maybe she's just shy...
2007-01-02 13:20:22 · answer #1 · answered by IncDivaInk 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being a woman it sounds to me that either way all you're looking for is sex.And if that's the truth then you know the one who gives you more of a chase usually has more to offer than the one who just opens up.
I mean its like being on a game show and you can already see behind curtain #1.There's no surprise and no fun in seeing what's there.But curtain #2 you have to win the game to see what's behind it.
Are you the lazy type who just settles?Or are you the adventurous type and willing to scale that mountain?Thats what it comes down to....
Good Luck In Your Choice,
M.Gard
2007-01-02 21:16:38 · answer #2 · answered by Malia G 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if sex is all you want then go ahead. but in a relationship sex can go from hot n heavy to cold and colder. Ever heard the expression everything good in this life you have to work for. go for the other one give her some time if nothing comes about from it confront her make her make a decision while shes doing that screw the other girl and look for a serious relationship were you get exactly what you want. so in 20 years down the road your not upset because you settle'd for a piece of ***.
2007-01-02 21:14:21 · answer #3 · answered by sugrdady03 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dude. Going out isn't all about sex. And this is coming from a guy. Who's straight. Go masturbate or something. Why would you even go out with the girl if sex is all you want? Pick what you want more. Sex or love? You can have both but only with one person. I doubt it is with the easy girl. The mind games one sounds better. Then again if she makes you feel bad.... maybe you should find other girls.
2007-01-02 21:15:24 · answer #4 · answered by Dido 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not go with the girl that you have no romantic feeling for, but just sexual attraction. No good relationship is based upon sexual attraction alone.
The girl that you say is really sweet. Not sure how she is making you fell horrible, but if you want to stay with her, it sounds like you two need to talk about how she makes you feel. As if you don't get things worked out, you won't be happy in this relationship either.
Good Luck!
2007-01-02 21:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by star22 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok you really shouldn't be with a girl if you only want sex with her because I can guarantee you that's not the only thing she wants. As for the girl who hurts you...honey if she's so sweet then why does she play games and hurt you. Honestly she's not worth it. Either ask her to stop playing games and keep pursuing her or find a new girl (but not just for sex). Good Luck,
~*V*~
2007-01-02 21:13:40 · answer #6 · answered by Veronica K 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
DItch 'em both. YOu don't need the game player. If you wanted to play games, you'd graba bat and round up some friends. You want a relationship. You can't have one with someone who thinks their the only thing on earth.
As to the easy girl, you don't want that 'cause you don't want to be the type of guy who goes for that. You also don't want typhus of the man handle or any other fun diseases condoms just don't help against.
(Seriously, Typhus of the Man Handle - TMH - eats right through latex. )
2007-01-02 21:15:27 · answer #7 · answered by jim w 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, it depends what you prefer. The one who plays games is doing just that, playing with you to get a look at the "real" you. The other girl will just put out, but youll eventually get tired of it or she might tire of you and move on to the next best thing. Stick with the mental "stimulation" first, then see how it goes from there.
2007-01-02 21:15:18 · answer #8 · answered by Hexx 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its hard to trust a girl just playing games,she might just hurt you a lot and give troubles.you have chances to the other girl that is more willing and open for everything,you might go on in a good relationship.
2007-01-02 21:18:51 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
settle with the girl that plays games at least she's not a whore like the other one plus you have romantic feelings for her.Good Luck.Peace and Blessings
2007-01-02 21:14:03 · answer #10 · answered by outspoken_princess 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋