I'm a religious person and I feel quite guilty about my "sin" but I know that I will keep doing it (if I am being honest).
What can I do to keep better about it? Please do not say stop doing it as my boyfriend will not stop (and I am finding it hard to).
Have you been in this situation - what did you do?
2007-01-02 13:01:34 · 21 answers · asked by Kitty 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I have the exact same problem My boyfriend is a christain and i am not, he was brought up to have no sex before marrage i wasnt brought up like that, there are times where you are going to fail you are human but if you say sorry to the lord for your sin he will forgive you.
Remember that you are not going to sin on something you dont like doing its always something that you find appeling like sex! its only natural.
If you ever wnat to talk email me at
blondeonamission3825@hotmail.co.uk
2007-01-02 15:36:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to stop, then don't worry about it. There are worse things that you could be doing.
If you really want to stop, then you need to "practice the presence of God." The Church Fathers say that it is impossible to sin if you keep your mind in your heart before God. In daily life, keep your mind on God, know that he is present all around you, through you, and in everything. Know also that everything happening around you is governed by the providence of God. Put all of your awareness in your (physical) heart and try to keep it there constantly. If you do all of this, you will start to gain greater control over your actions.
In the mean time, stop feeling so guilty. It isn't your fault - sin is a disease. And I'm not just being flippant when I say that. Jesus died to cure you of sinning, not to forgive you of the sins that you have already comitted. God has always been willing to forgive - his concern is to help you to govern yourself, because that is the only way you will ever be free.
2007-01-02 21:08:46 · answer #2 · answered by NONAME 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say your boyfriend won't stop - so I assume he doesn't share your beliefs? You're finding it hard to stop - but the guilt will drive you crazy won't it, if you really do believe it's a sin. I think you have several choices.
1. stand up for your beliefs and stop - let your boyfriend decide if he can put up with your request or not.
2. leave your boyfriend and find one who shares your beliefs
3. go on as you are and accept the feeling of guilt as the price you pay
4. persuade your boyfriend to marry you!
I was in the same situation, but we got married later. Are there still young people around with consciences?
2007-01-03 06:27:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the guilt work in you and make you feel true sorrow for your sin, the kind of sorrow that makes you want to change. Then repent, which means that you change your heart in such a way that you no longer want to sin. Do it now! If you try to sin now and repent later, you'll have two sins to repent of: the sin with your boyfriend, and the sin of trying to procrastinate repentance.
Avoid the situations that are leading you into this sin. I can only assume that we are talking about something sexual. In this case, don't spend time alone with your boyfriend with no one else in the house, don't lay down horizontally with him, don't go into the bedroom... etc. These are simple suggestions, but they will keep you out of trouble. Also, pray and ask God for strength. Fasting can help, too. Invite the presence of the Holy Ghost into your life through scripture study.
To quote a talk I heard recently, you can't sin enough to make you happy. So don't even try! You'll be much happier if you repent!
I'm behind you!
2007-01-02 21:08:23 · answer #4 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Take a step back and listen very carefully to your heart and feelings. If you are not already married in the heart, then you have a problem. Your boyfriend must do the same. Actions speak louder than words or a certificate. True love is the gift of God and is precious.
2007-01-02 21:36:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religious people consult their ministers. In the meantime, however, do not allow guilt to create a self punishment. You are a good person doing something you feel bad about (which doesn't necessarily mean it IS bad). But if you want to feel good about it you can marry and then bad becomes good.
2007-01-02 21:08:30 · answer #6 · answered by TruBlevr 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself whether you are actually being sinful - if you're a christian read the bible and find what it says (there's a lot of crap talked about the bible by people who want you to do what they want you to do) and make up your own mind.
2007-01-03 03:08:57 · answer #7 · answered by lozatron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thanks For Your Question
Well I admire your honesty and I will be honest and direct as well look you will stop doing this sin when your feeling of guilt is more powerful than the feeling of pleasure from that sin.
you are in a test God is testing you to see will you continue and let the feeling of pleasure control you or will you stop and pass the test :) your choice
2007-01-02 21:09:12 · answer #8 · answered by abouterachess 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Unless you killed some1 2gether I wouldn't feel to bad about it, if the "sin" is sex then think about it who are you hurting, answer no1, God made sex, fact. then again there are many "sins" in the world I'm not to sure which one you are doing you never said.
2007-01-02 21:22:22 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
chill what is sin in your eyes is pleasure to another .....but if its between man and female and there is pleasure its not a sin.....honest......its natural .....chill out sure your partner has same concerns talk about it but if you have d**** it its OK ...its good to be natural ......just go with the flow ....enjoy when you don't ...so be it
2007-01-02 21:31:21 · answer #10 · answered by bobonumpty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋