Here is my situation, my younger brother is getting married and his fiance asked me to be the maid of honor.
I am very flattered by this and I am very excited I have never been the maid of honor before.
But I am really not sure what I do? I know I hold the flowers for the ceremony, but I have heard that I throw the bridal shower and bacholette party. How do I do this on a really tight budget?
They live out of state so it's already costs a lot for the hotel and transportation there.
Please help with any suggestions.
Thank you in advance.
2007-01-02 12:39:15 · 8 answers · asked by Farmgirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The Maid of Honor is, after the bride, the primary female member of the wedding party in a wedding. Specifically, she is the primary attendant with the most honors and duties of the bridal party.
Pre wedding
-Traveling with the bride to help choose a wedding venue.
-Helping to choose and address wedding invitations.
-Going with the bride to help with the shopping for her wedding dress as well as the bridesmaid dresses.
-Going with the bride to register for her wedding gifts.
-Helping the bride with the seating arrangements.
-Hosting and planning the bridal shower as well as the bachelorette party.
-Maintaining communication and organization with the other bridesmaids.
-Attending and assisting during the rehearsal dinner.
Wedding day
-Assisting the bride with her dress and makeup.
-Being the messenger if the bride wants to communicate sight unseen with the family or groom.
-Visiting the reception room to check on the details.
-Helping to make sure the bride has privacy before the ceremony if desired.
-Signing of the marriage license after the ceremony.
-Helping the bride with her veil and train before, during and after the ceremony.
-Holding the bride’s bouquet during the ceremony as required.
-Holding the groom's wedding ring to hand to the bride during the ceremony
-Making a toast and/or speech during the reception.
-Securing any money as might be given to the wedding couple during the reception.
-Providing emotional support as needed.
2007-01-02 22:45:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your responsibilities as the maid of honor involve:
Signing the marriage certificate
Hosting a bridal shower (NOT a bachelorette party)
Buying your clothes for the wedding, and your travel expenses for the wedding
Gift for the bride and groom, plus gift for the bride at the shower.
If you're strapped financially, and are concerned that you won't be able to fulfill all these obligations, by all means you need to communicate that with the bride, asap. She may decide that she doesn't mind, and keep you as the maid of honor, then she may decide that she'd rather have someone who can do all this. Also, where you live out of state from the bride, it's going to be hard on her to lean on you (which alot of brides do with their maid of honors). You and the bride just need to have a clear cut conversation about what she expects out of you for the event. That way there are no misunderstandings later.
2007-01-02 21:48:34 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Since you live far away and you have a tight budget one party is enough. Her family will most likely do a Bridal Shower with the proper before wedding gifts, i.e. lingerie and such. Get a hold of her mom or close female relative or best friend and find out if they're planning something for her. When you get there, hopefully one or two days in advance, you can do a naughty party or even a tasteful lingerie party. She should have a chance to party with her friends before she's married. Have fun, that is most important no matter what you do.
2007-01-02 21:12:38 · answer #3 · answered by Jnine 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, the whole bridal party should help with the cost of the bachelorette party. You should be responsible with making sure that everything is coordinated properly. You are the shoulder of reason. You help her plan everything with the wedding, pick out her hairstyle, dress, flowers, etc.... You fix her train at the wedding and will probably offer a toast at the reception
2007-01-02 20:46:05 · answer #4 · answered by So lyrical 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well when I got married my maid of honor was responsible for the bachlerette party you could ask for all the brides maids to assist and help with the cost. you give a toast at the reception as well as the best man. you help the bride the day of the wedding helping with make up and etc. making sure she has everything she needs.
2007-01-02 21:08:26 · answer #5 · answered by little D 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go to http://www.theknot.com
They've got several articles that can show you about your duties and giving a toast. Technically, the bride should inform you of exactly what she wants you to do. If she doesn't let you know soon, ask!
2007-01-04 11:53:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't forget to buy a crib.
2007-01-02 21:43:28 · answer #7 · answered by Benvenuto 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
showing up and doing what you are told
2007-01-02 20:47:49 · answer #8 · answered by LadyVampire 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋