abnormally small member when I undress. How can I overcome these feelings of humiliation and inadequacy?
I am 20, turning 21, btw.
2007-01-02 12:38:21 · 17 answers · asked by Mike 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
james, I am a little over 4 inches erect.
2007-01-02 12:43:43 · update #1
Mike . . . relax . . . and don't worry about it.
It doesn't matter if they laugh at you or not . . . and in a dark enough room . . . who can tell. You know many girls perfer to have sex in the dark . . . because they feel ashamed or inadequate with their bodies. They don't like to be seen in the nude, because they are afraid . . . that someone will laugh at them. That is why, they perfer it dark or dimly lit.
Turn off the lights and light some candles . . . they will think that you are romantic. Plus the average size is about 5 inches according to many websites and according to various ethnic groups the average can be as small as 4 inches to as large as 6 inches (depending on your ethic group).
Not many people are as big as porn stars . . . so don't try to compare yourself to them. Also, don't compare yourself to other ethnic groups because their average may be slightly larger than yours.
Your best bet right now . . . to overcome these feelings of yours, is to go out with someone a little older . . . in her 30's (maybe mid. 30's) Start flirting with them, and in most cases they will flirt back. Tell them that you are inexperience, they love teaching young guys . . . plus they will think they still have it . . . attracting a young man. Use them as experience, to get better at sex. And when you feel confident in your experience . . . then go after someone your own age. And with that experience, it doesn't matter what size you are . . . if you get her to orgasm . . . that is all she needs.
2007-01-05 06:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by Tag Your It 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 23 and my husband was a virgin when we met, He had some issues but it really didn't matter, because i was totally in love with him not his member. And i was not a virgin, so i had to teach him a few things to get the ball rollin' but that didn't bother me at all. if you are worried about pleasing a woman with your member, try reading some sex books, there are many ways to pleasure each other, for a man and a woman. while i am sure your not that small, some girls prefer it. don't rush it, someday a girl is going to come along and rock your world!
2007-01-02 20:48:09 · answer #2 · answered by Kitterkat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet it's probably not all that abnormally small but even if it is, most girls are not as concerned with size as what you do with it and how you make HER feel.
2007-01-02 20:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People say if you do it with a girl that really loves you for you then she want mind. Love or not the girls still gonna wanna get hers to and if your things to small then shes gonna mind.
i would say be confident and maybe it woant matter
2007-01-02 20:46:07 · answer #4 · answered by buffeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well get a girl that likes you
and when you guys are really into it and all like in the middle of the relationship and when you want to do it
mention it to her and if she dont mind
hey you can lose your virginity to her right?
so everybody wins
2007-01-02 20:58:57 · answer #5 · answered by MightyHyphy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey man dont worry about it. if girls have a problem with you being small send them my way im 8 inches
2007-01-02 20:45:50 · answer #6 · answered by cterp123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it dude. most girls wont care, some girls will, and most of them will never say it to your face. once youre in that will be the last thing on your mind.
2007-01-02 20:42:08 · answer #7 · answered by speedy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that it's with a chick who you know loves you for you, and if she does, then your size won't matter to her. But, if you're just with her to get laid, and she knows that, then size will matter to her.
2007-01-02 20:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a woman is really in to u size dosent matter its how u pleases her that matters.
2007-01-02 20:40:40 · answer #9 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to get with a virgin who won't know the difference.Anyway I'm sure your not that small.
2007-01-02 20:41:04 · answer #10 · answered by lady2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋