I was thinking of just going to their house to speak to them.I plan to ask my girlfriend to marry me.
2007-01-02 12:32:49 · 13 answers · asked by in love 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I would NOT go to their home. If you've made an attempt to talk to/ask them and they know, then that's their problem when the two of you get married without them. You can only do what you can do. You can not make everyone happy. You've done your part, now it's in their hands if they want to meet the man that their daughter is going to marry. Their lose, not yours.
2007-01-02 12:38:20 · answer #1 · answered by Lara Croft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be disrespectful and therefore they're likely to have a lower opinion of you than they already have (not being exactly like them).
If you're serious about wanting to marry the girl I'd write them a letter... not an email but an actual letter... stating that you respect her and would like to meet them.
Good luck though, interfaith relationships CAN be difficult depending on the tolerance levels of the 'weakest link' in the chain.
Blessings,
Zimmi
2007-01-02 12:38:38 · answer #2 · answered by Zimmia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no longer something i've got ever completed. i do no longer take the financial section as telling somebody to no longer boost their earnings so as to stay. existence is costly. people who've continually been pals and family individuals to me nevertheless are. specific we've distinctive faiths yet how else are they going to work out what a Witness is like if I stay far flung from them? i do no longer choose them. i've got been of their shoes, so as to desire to talk.
2016-10-06 08:47:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This depends on the parents' wishes, and one's own capacity for calmness and peaceableness. The questioner should be reminded that the bible strongly discourages anyone from marrying outside his faith. Jehovah's Witnesses take that bible principle seriously.
(Exodus 23:32) You are not to conclude a [marriage or other] covenant with them or their gods.
(Deuteronomy 7:3) And you must form no marriage alliance with [unbelievers]. Your daughter you must not give to his son, and his daughter you must not take for your son.
(1 Corinthians 7:39) She is free to be married to whom she wants, only in the Lord.
(Nehemiah 13:25) You should not give your daughters to [the unbeliever's] sons, and you should not accept any of their daughters for your sons or yourselves.
(2 Corinthians 6:14) Do not become unevenly yoked with unbelievers.
The family of a Jehovah's Witness will never encourage or even tacitly approve of their relative's engagement or marriage to a non-Witness. Depending on the age of the "betrothed", his or her parents may take actions that seem unfriendly or drastic to outsiders, but these actions are intended to address the long-term best interests of the Witness and will never violate God's law or man's.
Every Jehovah's Witness acknowledges the clear bible teaching that fornication (pre- or extra-marital sex) is a sin far greater than marrying outside the faith.
A Witness who marries outside the faith does disqualify himself from privileges in the congregation. Incidentally, once the wedding is over bible principles literally REQUIRE true Christians to demonstrate family love to the new family member. It may take time for imperfect humans to fully apply bible counsel, however, and at no time will a Witness choose "bad association" regardless of family attachment.
Learn more:
http://watchtower.org/e/20020208/diagram_01.htm
http://watchtower.org/e/19990215/article_01.htm
http://watchtower.org/e/20020208/article_01.htm
http://watchtower.org/e/20050601/article_01.htm
2007-01-03 07:18:57 · answer #4 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What in God's name are you doing?
Why would you want to marry a woman who's entire value system is different from your own? If you carry through with this, be sure to plan your divorce the same time you're planning the wedding. It'll make things go more smoothly.
2007-01-02 12:36:55 · answer #5 · answered by Privratnik 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is no more common in the JWs than in any other religion, or lack thereof. It is very common where the parents are in the military, but you oppose it. I find it interesting that they will not talk to you as this would be a good opportunity to witness to you.
2007-01-02 17:03:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is their house. You MIGHT try to call and ask if you could come and talk to them. But that is as far as you should go.
What does your girlfriend think? It is her parents and her relationship with them so she gets a pretty big say.
2007-01-02 12:40:34 · answer #7 · answered by Alex 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would leave her parents alone and seriously discuss marriage with her if you intend to ask her. If she wants to marry you, it will be a long hard road with her parents. I've been in this situation.
2007-01-02 12:37:47 · answer #8 · answered by niccichick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many factors that you haven't mentioned here. The ages of both of you is one thing. If they have refused to meet you, then what is the point of going?
2007-01-04 00:37:40 · answer #9 · answered by Buzz s 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How can you fool yourself into believing you can make this work somehow?
If her parents won't even meet you, how can you think you can make a marriage work with her?
She is their daughter. She always will be.
2007-01-02 12:37:51 · answer #10 · answered by guitar teacher 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋