I walk past her at school everyday, but I never even say hi because I'm afraid of rejection. I've got advice from my cousins, but that didn't help. What should I do?
2007-01-02 12:24:13 · 20 answers · asked by J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've struggled with this for a while myself and i've come to some realizations. Simply talking to a girl can do nothing but improve your chances with her. If she finds you attractive, you could say just about anything as long as you don't insult her and she'll be just as giddy that you talked to her as you are when a hot girl talks to you. If she isn't sure, the fact that you talked to her shows her you have some confidence which girls find attractive. I know it's really hard to push yourself to do something that is so nerve racking, but, and this may take you a while to truly understand this, the things in life that are worth possesing and experiencing aren't easy to obtain, and that they take a little bit of risk taking that usually doesn't make you as comfortable as you can possibly be. Just remember, she's JUST as nervous as you are if you're talking to her for the first time, and you don't have to be perfect, I've told girls stories about people dying, stuttered to no end, and said stupid stuff like "sound goods" and still gotten the girl's number. And if you have talked to her just ask her if she's going to some school event or some concert in town and if she is that maybe you'll see her there and just take it from there.
2007-01-02 12:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by Packin it up 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be afraid to risk everything in hopes that you will fall in love, just so you won't be rejected. It happens to everyone and it will probably happen to you one day. (sad news I know) You just have to find the courage to say hi, ask her on a date, or just tell her how you feel. If you don't try, you will never know. Besides, isn't it better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all? :-)
2007-01-02 20:32:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't use the internet as a means of communication. (sorry no offense to the person that suggested it) It makes things weird and if you want something real, asking her to her face will get you just that. You can't be afraid of rejection (I am too, but i'm working on it).
2007-01-02 20:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by bryce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there when i was in HS. Bro just go up to her and say Hi, and talk about stuff about school or friends. Rejection happens everyday to everyone, just do this if she doesn't talk to forget about it. Don't worry about girls, there are a lot of them in the field.
2007-01-02 20:40:55 · answer #4 · answered by Sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me,talking to her is not going to cause a catastrophic event.If she rejects you guess what,you will survive besides she may have the same feelings for you.So strap on a pair ,suck it up and do it cause one thing you cant stop is time so dont waste any more.
2007-01-02 20:33:32 · answer #5 · answered by axel1667 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rejection is part of growing up. everyone gets rejected once or twice (even though not all admit to it). but don't worry, you might be freaking out for no reason. how do you know that she will reject you? one day as she passes you or you pass her, just be like hey, thatll get her to notice you and then everyday from then on out, begin to say more and more to her. like hey, how are you doing, things of that nature.
2007-01-02 20:31:50 · answer #6 · answered by First L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first response would be just tell her. But, as a 15 y/o girl myself, I also think that meeting her someplace romantic would be nice. If a guy liked me, I would want to meet him at the beach and for him to tell me he likes me and if I liked him too, I would say so and maybe kiss him. Good luck with that!
2007-01-02 22:46:32 · answer #7 · answered by nerdandproudofit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your instincts, hell I'm a shuper shy guy but that doesnt stop me from talking to the girl i like, sometimes the only way to find out is to talk to her
2007-01-02 20:27:11 · answer #8 · answered by Undefinable 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say hi, just smile at her as you pass by.
If she smiles back or shows the least bit of interest, say hi the next time she passes.
Let thinks bulid up, a little.
Then when you say hi and she says hi back.
Ask her name tell her yours.
Don't tell her how pretty you think she is, right away.
2007-01-02 20:30:55 · answer #9 · answered by lilith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um just be honest. Compliment her and tell her why u like her. Girls want reasons why u like them so give her examples. but remember dont come on too strong or agressive. You will be fine
2007-01-02 20:36:00 · answer #10 · answered by superstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋