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I'm really shy, but I love this girl and I really want to ask her out. How do I do it?

2007-01-02 12:19:13 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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I asked a question similar to this an hour ago. Basically, girls will think your a dolt if you don't ask, and a dolt if you don't ask the right way.

The right way is, force yourself to be confident and un-shy at that moment of asking her out. Be direct, easy going, and real, but not pushy. If she shows no interest, move on. If she does show interest, don't screw it up.

2007-01-02 12:21:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Are you and this girl already friends? If you are, or if you already talk regularly, then you really shouldn't have a problem. However, if you aren't very close with her, then you need to work on things. I know you're position, because a few weeks ago I was in it. There was this girl in my English class that I really liked, but we had never had an actual convorsation face to face before. Now we've been going out for 3 weeks, and it's going great. All I did was try to get noticed by her. I'm not really a shy person, but around her I was, because I was nervous. Basically, try to get noticed and to find some way to start talking to her in any way possible. If you're shy, and she's a nice girl, then she won't make a fool out of you, and even if she says no, she'll be respectful to you. The main thing is to be yourself. The right girl will LOVE that. Don't try to act differently or anything, just be confident in yourself, because the only one who can make you look good is you. You affect what happens, so try not to be shy. Get into your head that you can do it, because anyone can. It's all about what you choose to do.

2007-01-02 12:28:36 · answer #2 · answered by Bensius 2 · 0 0

I am having the same trouble. It depends on how old you are. I am 14. I am a hypocrit too. I always say to people that "If you really love them, then you shouldn't be afraid." But I get afraid and still am afraid. The day is coming when I am going to try. It'll be the first time that I've tried for a long time. Just remember that quote in the back of the head. Pretend I am saying that you don't love her while remembering the quote. Hopefully, you'll get mad at me (lol) and try to prove me wrong. I hope everything works out for you and is the best. GOOD LUCK! or should I say, Good Love. haha. later man - Drew

2007-01-05 14:31:24 · answer #3 · answered by drwb2 2 · 0 0

Definitely DON'T get a friend to do it because she could easily think that your friend likes her. I understand it's hard to just talk to her if you're shy....I've been shy my whole life. But the best way is just to start a conversation with her...or flirt. You can start out by passing her a note...nothing too desperate or "I love you," because that will scare her away. Just something light and funny. Maybe a suggestion to go somewhere together. If you both have AIM, then it's easier to talk with her through messenger. Once you established a connection, it'll be easier to talk to her. Just keep in mind that she's probably just as shy about talking to you too!

2007-01-02 12:25:08 · answer #4 · answered by julka323 3 · 0 0

hehe awwww
i do realise its a really hard thing to do, but im sure it will get easier over time. First plan where your going to ask her out and where your going to go, i surgest a pub because its a public place and if u dont get on for some reason its not like youve got a meal or a film to finish u know?
But just try to not be too shy, take a deep breath and do it. But pick your moment as well, thats important.

And.. good luck!! :) xx

2007-01-02 12:22:25 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah W 2 · 0 0

You know you're shy, but you also know that unless you win your shyness a little, at least, there is no way you can ask her. You can get many different ideas on "how" to ask, what to say, where, when, etc..., but unless you step out of it and keep you shy side out for a while, you will never do anything.

2007-01-02 12:23:48 · answer #6 · answered by sandwich 3 · 0 0

Just take a deep breath and go for it! I know that being shy is really hard. I used to be shy too. Now I just think to myself that they are no different or better than I am and just go for it. If they like me fine, if not, that is also fine. Remember that she could say "yes" and you would be extremely happy. If she does say "no", then at least you will know that she is not the one that you want and you will be free to move on to someone who deserves your attention and is worth your time. "No" is not the worst thing in the world.

"Nothing ventured, nothing gained"!

2007-01-02 12:29:46 · answer #7 · answered by baby_doll 3 · 0 0

I don't like the "pass a note" thing... anyone can pick it up and then there's something else you have to deal with!
When I was in high school a shy guy wanted to ask me out...he was a little bit of a character, though, so he just sat on my lap and said something like "busy tonight?". Totally threw me off, so I said yes! We dated for a year and a half..

2007-01-02 12:24:10 · answer #8 · answered by Silhouette 2 · 0 0

Write a letter expressing your true feelings and thoughts, things you otherwise wouldn't have the courage to say in her face. Give it to her and just let her know you didn't want to mess it up but wanted to take the opportunity to let her know some things. Just let it all out - hold nothing back. When she responds, you'll find it a little easier to talk because you'll have already put your feelings out there - there wouldn't be much more "explaining" to do. Just roll with the punches and respond to her comments. Hopefully it goes well. Not to be negative, but if the response isn't favorable just stay strong and don't let it get you down. Men have to learn to deal with plenty of rejection. :-) I hope it goes well.

2007-01-02 12:23:17 · answer #9 · answered by gabound75 5 · 0 0

I know it is not as easy as it seems, but just ask her out. Ditch the pick up lines and go talk to her while being yourself. You want her to like you for who you really are, right? Of course you do. Now be a man and go get her tiger!

2007-01-02 12:21:34 · answer #10 · answered by Rhianna 3 · 0 0

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