when you break up with someone, does finally this person has to disappear completely from your life for you to feel better ...? I sometimes find it pretty hard to completely make them disappear from my life ...for example, I still keep my ex, on my contact list on msn, but it doesn't mean that we still talk now and then ...
it's hard, to see that someone you have shared so much , and loved so much completely disappear from your life one day ..and you will probably never see this person again ...wow !!
does it have to be this way ?
2007-01-02 12:15:33 · 20 answers · asked by bobby s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
for me thats the way it has to be
2007-01-02 12:22:55 · answer #1 · answered by bigpumpdaddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it doesn't HAVE to be that way, but many people find it easier to get over someone if the cut contact completely (at least for a while) and others may not desire to ever hear from that person again, depending upon the reason for the breakup...
...other people have great friendships with their exes and just realized, when dating, that they didn't make a good romantic couple.
Do what works for you...as should everyone where that is concerned.
2007-01-02 12:18:27 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You speak of the very reason that dating should be exclusively between people who are exploring the idea of marrying one another. The dating relationship mimics the marriage one too closely (only the good parts of marriage, though, not the tough ones!) and when you give yourself fully to that person, it feels like a part of you is dieing on the inside when that person is gone.
Make friends with opposite sex people, and when you find one that you are relatively certain you may want to get married too- date that person with the idea of exploring marriage to see if you are compatible. Don't jump into relationships willy-nilly unless you want to spend a great deal of time hurt and trying to heal...
2007-01-02 12:21:51 · answer #3 · answered by pastrbuzz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No...... as long as you both can be friends. Most people need time away from each other for the healing process to take place (however as long as it may take everyone heals in there own ways ) meaning no contact no reminders etc....Otherwise the healing won't take place. After that process and as time passes it would be nice to be able to be Seville on a friendly level..
2007-01-02 12:28:38 · answer #4 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to keep in touch with my ex's. Like you said, its hard just to push them out completly after you have shared special moments in life together. But it is hard once you get married. Me and my ex husband are lucky to stay pretty good friends after 6yrs of marriage. It really much depends on how your relationships go.
2007-01-02 12:22:10 · answer #5 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think everyone ( unless there was something that made you break up that was alwful, like abuse) is curious about someone
they thought was 'the one'. I think people often check up on each other.. it's human nature. And i believe you can be friends and
perhaps? in the distant future? close as ever again.
2007-01-02 12:19:55 · answer #6 · answered by setaspell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't have to...but don't you think that is weird to keep in touch with someone you are no longer intimate with? It is natural that we alienate ourselves from our ex-gf/bf. It is just a fact of life. In order for you to move on to someone else (maybe the love of your life) you need to have a clean plate.
2007-01-02 12:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by bryce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No if you are good people you can break up and go back to just being friends. If one of you have to be mean then this does not work.
2007-01-02 12:18:03 · answer #8 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you might want to stay in touch but this might send the other person the wrong message,,,, he or she might think you still want more than a friendship
2007-01-02 12:20:34 · answer #9 · answered by marcella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If we broke up there was a reason so except for a Christmas card that would be the end of it for me.
You don't keep clothes that don't fit anymore.....why keep a man that didn't fit?
2007-01-02 12:19:17 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the relationship, and whether children were involved. I dont have any kids, and dont talk to any of my exes. they are my exes for a reason. I dont hate them, we just dont have anything to say to each other.
2007-01-02 12:18:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋