so my mom and step-dad have been haveing fights alot, and he got a job offer in las vegas...but we live on the other side of the country...so he left thins mourning and i dont know if i should forgive him or not....my mom and him have been married since i was 5 and he just left! he didnt leave us with any money so we might loose our house....I am only 15 and i have to help raise my 10 year old brother and my 13 year old sister, because my big sister is leaveing for collage soon....I also have to get a job and take care of my pets and the house and keep up on skool work!
we have to cut back on things like movies and shopping......so you tell me should i forgive him if he comes back or not?
2007-01-02 12:08:46 · 10 answers · asked by blair 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well its only if you willing to forgive him for what hes done but most of the time people are hard at forgiving when it comes to that
since your 15 and you have to support your family for the first time it can be hard but helping is the best thing you can do right now
if he ever comes back then you need to talk to him about your feelings and if you have no one to talk to try talking to your mom, or one of your friends
im sure they can help you through a time like this
best wishes,hopes, and dreams
2007-01-02 12:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by BrOkEn_LuLLabY...♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, this is between your mom and dad. If things get so bad that they cant live together, then they need to live apart.
Sometimes, it is the children that pay, but understand, he isnt leaving you, he is leaving your mother. he has no legal right to take you, so he cant.
The fact that the job is so far away, is unfortunate,but sometimes we have to take the offers where ever they might be. Just hang in there, and instead of worrying about how you should feel about someone you have loved all your life, work at making what you have better.
If you love this man as your father, then he is a good man, and loves you too. This will be hurting him also. Remember that.
2007-01-02 16:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by joy q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this isn't your battle to fight. If you want to get a job to pay for movies, clothes and other expenses, fine. But you are 15, and that's way to young to fight the battle of adults. You don't need to worry about paying for your home. Too much stress. Enjoy being a kid. If you are able to buy your pets and younger siblings treats and things, great. If not, then don't let it stress you. Sometimes people and relationships change. It's just the way it goes. So, love your dad for all that he's done for you. Let your parents work out their own problems
2007-01-02 12:13:24 · answer #3 · answered by So lyrical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down and take a deep breath. Don't view the whole picture just each tiny frame and it won't look so overwhelming. If he just left this morning your mother is still sorting things out in her head and if she muttered despair, it doesn't really mean you guys are headed to the poor house. She is just venting! Sometimes as adults we talk things out this way. Don't let it scare you though.....give her a few days to regain her composure and she can speak more clearly and have a game plan set up for you guys, okay? Let your mom and step-dad sort this out and then you can decide on what your relationship with him is going to be. Hang in there kiddo and know their are people out there thinking about you and wishing you well!
2007-01-02 12:40:54 · answer #4 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that this has happened to you and your family. You are too young to have this much responsibility. If he does come back sit him down and tell him everything you told us. I am a forgiving person so I would say yes.He shouldn't have left the way he did. I can't say much since I am not there. But it is up to you. Good luck to you and your family. I hope everything will work out for all of you. Have you tried to call and talk to him?
2007-01-02 12:18:00 · answer #5 · answered by *♥♫Hedy♫♥* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a dick. Don't ever expect better from him, you'll just be disappointed. Don't engage with his nonsense, and ignore all his nasty comments, he's trying to get you to feel bad about yourself, don't let him win. Whatever issue (s) he has, they are his and his alone. You didn't ask to be his kid and you shouldn't feel bad or ashamed of yourself and he shouldn't be trying to make you feel this way. Know that when you leave home you won't have to suffer him anymore. Also, is there anyone you can talk to?
2016-03-29 05:11:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk things through with him as soon as possible. The reason he left prob wasnt to do with you but if you talk to him and tell him how it has made you feel then his reaction to this may be a better way of deciding whether or not he deserves your forgiveness.
However, you should also remember that holding a grudge against someone is as likely to make you feel bad as it is them.
Let us know how things work out :-)
2007-01-02 12:24:58 · answer #7 · answered by vix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by "forgive"? No point in making yourself feel horrible until he comes back. Just do what you have to do. He sounds like a jerk, but I don't know the situation.
2007-01-02 12:23:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, always forgive, never forget. If he left all of you in that shape, then he's a loser. That man has no honor. Best of luck to you........
2007-01-02 12:14:35 · answer #9 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through the same thing....putting all that preassure on yourself with the other issues you have asked about, i would say is bad......
2007-01-02 12:24:45 · answer #10 · answered by Tia B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋