I was seeing this guy, he was weird in the sense that he wasn´t constant, he called when he wanted to, he asked me out when he wanted to and everything was on his terms, when we did go out he was a perfect gentleman , he also talked to his friends about me but suddenly he stopped calling me for a month and a half he didn´t call and suddenly two days ago he called me I didn´t answer the phone, but now I´m confused, should I call him or should I just ignore the call?
2007-01-02 12:02:08 · 12 answers · asked by crisy m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop and ask yourself "Do I need to be on an emotional roller coaster?"
Put that way, I'd think you'd say "No!" So why get onto this emotional roller coaster when you don't need to be? You've seen what he's like, things have to be on his terms, he's the one that stopped calling you. What, was he in a coma for 6 weeks or what?
Think of it this way: what if he'd just told you "I'm not interested, don't call me or contact me again." Would you be willing to call him back now if he'd called or emailed you a message saying that he wanted you to leave him alone? I wouldn't!!!
By ignoring you for 6 weeks, he was "telegraphing" the message that you weren't important to him and that he didn't care about your feelings. So why get close enough for him to hurt you again? Isn't it enough that he's hurt you in the past?
I'd ignore the calls. With friends like that, you don't need enemies.
2007-01-03 14:13:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 5⤋
Don't give in to playing everything on his terms. If you like him set some ground rules. I wouldn't play games, but it is okay to play a little hard to get. Give it some time before you call him back. That will not only send him the signal that you are not available every single time he wants you to be, but will give you some time to think about whether or not you want to pursue the relationship.
2007-01-02 20:06:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on what you have put into this "friendship" there are 2 ways to look at it. Either he is just using you for when he feels like it OR You can ask yourself, have you made any efforts? Maybe he stopped because you weren't initiating anything (if you weren't) and maybe he really likes you and called you again to give it another shot... You can always just ask him... just come out with it - what do you have to lose?
2007-01-02 20:09:55 · answer #3 · answered by Think Therapy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy considers you a casual date. He is not ready to commit to a relationship. If that's okay with you, go ahead and see him, but don't call him back. Let him call you. It's perfectly fine for you to answer his call, but don't let him sucker you into thinking he wants more than female companionship for the night. Don't limit yourself to dating only him, don't wait by the phone for him to call, and don't break prior engagements to spend time with him. In other words, give him only what he gives you.
2007-01-02 20:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by roknrolr63 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Answer the call see what he wants ..it is going to drive u nuts wondering but he is who he is and might not change his ways if u are OK with that then give it a chance if not let it go
2007-01-02 20:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You said it when you said it was all on his terms. Make him call you again before you answer, then decide then if he's worth going out with again. Don't call him.
2007-01-02 20:05:36 · answer #6 · answered by justwondering! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the guy. He is playing you and only wants you around when it's convienent for him. I know it sucks, but I've been there. It eventually feels better that you aren't giving in to him. Be true to yourself.
2007-01-02 20:10:00 · answer #7 · answered by Julie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on your opinion. If you still have feelings for him, go on and call him back. if you don't, don't even think about it! after all, he didn't call you for a month and a half, so it would have been a pretty big surprise
2007-01-02 20:06:48 · answer #8 · answered by hottie h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the call. He just wants to play you. There is no stability there and it's all about control.
2007-01-02 20:05:38 · answer #9 · answered by ksueditz 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He's confused...now he got you confused. Leave him alone. You need to be with someone who doesn't have you confused.
REMEMBER: IT'S 2007 (Time for change)
2007-01-02 20:07:10 · answer #10 · answered by niecytonio 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋