I've dated jerks. Married one of the jerks. and now I am ready to trust God for the man he has in store for me. Question is: how do I know who God is sending me? I am not looking for him, Just if I was to stumble along and meet him, How would I know he is from God.
2007-01-02 11:55:34 · 26 answers · asked by just curious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're putting too much faith in God, you'll know when you find the right person :-)
2007-01-02 11:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by NautyRN 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you will have to do like your sister. Maybe you will pray and then hold out to make sure he is worth it. You also have to have something to bring to the table nothing worst than a worthless woman or man. I don't believe God sends men or women to people, but if you are receptive you will meet a man who is compatible with you. It all about give and take. People don't understand you can't make some one into something. But if he is the type of man that you want then try and see what else you guys have in common. Then you have to do your part, it takes work to make a relationship work it not all magic, bells and whistles. Hopefully you find what you want. I know i married a woman and we weren't really mature enough and even though I love her; more than likely we will go our seperate ways. I wish her the best and hope she finds what she is looking for.
2007-01-04 10:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to go into any relationship cautiously and with your eyes open.
Here are a few pieces of advise which will hopefully be of help to you.
1) When you are dating somebody, bring him around your friends and family. See how he interacts with them and then ask for their honest impressions and feelings. Your friends and family do not want to see you getting hurt. They will give you the best advice -even if it means dumping the person you are dating.
2) Make a couple of lists. Think of it like you are buying a car, What options would you like in your car and what kinds of cars would you not settle for. The first list is the qualities you want in a man. It is okay to list serious and superficial qualities. The second list is what qualities you will not accept in a man (Does he lie to you? Is he abusive...). As you date them, see how they stack up against your lists. If they are falling short, end the relationship before you get hurt too bad.
3) Evaluate the positive and negative qualities of your past boyfriends (and any men you are dating as well) and make two additional lists. A positive quality list and a negative quality list.
As an example:
Positive Qualities: Humorous, Handsome, Great in bed, Very ticklish, Supportive...
Negative Qualities: Lies to me, Unfaithful, Lacks Affection, Abusive, Poor Hygeine.
Now use each of your positive and negative qualities in the following sentence: MY IDEAL MATE IS A MAN WHO...
Positive Qualities...
MY IDEAL MATE IS A MAN WHO is very humorous.
MY IDEAL MATE IS A MAN WHO is very handsome.
MY IDEAL MATE IS A MAN WHO great in bed.
MY IDEAL MATE IS A MAN WHO is very ticklish!
MY IDEAL MATE IS A MAN WHO is very supportive.
Those might seem like great qualities for you.But now let's look at the Negative Qualities...
MY IDEAL MATE IS A MAN WHO lies to me
MY IDEAL MATE IS A MAN WHO is Unfaithful
MY IDEAL MATE IS A MAN WHO lacks affection
MY IDEAL MATE IS A MAN WHO is abusive
MY IDEAL MATE IS A MAN WHO has Poor Hygeine.
If your negative quality list does not make sense, God did not put this "Mr. Right" into your life.
4) And finally, you need to make yourself atractive to Mr. Right as well. If he were to make the MY IDEAL MATE list about you, how would you fare? What changes would you need to make?
Always treat others with the same respect you want to be treated with. Try to avoid stupid arguments and talk things out openly and honestly. Always be kind, positive, supportive, tactful and true to your man and always expect the same from him. You will find the Mr. Right God intended for you.
All the best to you and your future Mr. Right!
2007-01-02 20:14:31 · answer #3 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When u meet a nice guy, pray to God and ask Him. Lord, if it is your will that he and i be together, please provide ways so that we will get to know each other better and lead/guide us. If it's not, Lord tell me very straightforward that he is not from God and give me courage to trust you that by God's grace, i'll be able to overcome it...
U have to pray specifically and trust God. At times, things doesn't turn out as u expected but trust God that He knows wat's the best for your life..
2007-01-02 20:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by libby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God may not send you anyone at all. God may think you have more to learn about yourself or he may need you for a task that requires your solitude or celibacy. We have no idea what God has in store for us.
Wow, that's a bubble burster. I'm sorry--I'm sure you'll end up with a good guy. Good luck and God be with you!
2007-01-02 20:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by hearts_on_fire 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God knows the person that he has in store for you..just pray that God will send him your way and that you will be able to do his will everything will fall in place just dont jump the gun....You will know when the time is right
2007-01-02 20:00:48 · answer #6 · answered by tarahabear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Easy pie! I mean nearly easy! Well some people don't believe in "coup de foudre". U know, when this suddenly struck your heart! Just date men, u'll see. U'll be attracted to a particular one. Same interests, feel good to be with him, etc. Sweet is the fruit of patient. So give it time dear
2007-01-02 23:16:48 · answer #7 · answered by r33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will be a MAN of God.
He will be a SERVANT of God.
He will be OBEDIENT to God.
He will LOVE God more than you and himself.
He will be someone you can TRUST.
GOD WILL LET YOU KNOW WHO HE IS, LOOK FOR THE FRUITS: Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness and Self-Control.
My Prayer are with you. GOD BLESS!!!
2007-01-02 20:12:38 · answer #8 · answered by GOD IS LOVE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because God give everyone a free will, you probably will not really know. However, if God is first in both of your lives, this will be evident. You will not only be each other's desire, but your lives will be inseparable.
2007-01-02 20:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by curiousJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st, of all your an idiot there's no such thing is GOD sending you a man and if you really like to see God sending you a man then i suggest you try out some hallucination drugs ....you'll see it.
2007-01-02 21:47:13 · answer #10 · answered by DlCK Chenney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does god have to do with this? If someone makes you happy, there's a chance that things might work out with them. Whats so hard about that?
2007-01-02 19:57:45 · answer #11 · answered by toso13 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋