He won't compromise !!!?

Question

My boyfriend doesn't seem to want to compromise about us living together and makeing our 2 families one. He gets his kids every other week-end and 2 week- day eveings for a couple hours. I have agreed not to smoke in our new home. His one child has a daughter that has a small dog, that at her mothers home is in and outside, he smells and has fleas. I don't want this dog in our new house. I don't care for animals and I almost have an anxiety attack over animal hair on furniture. I am willing to compromise things, and plus his children will be getting a lot better life then what they r used to once we move in together. I don't want the dog in our new house. Am I wrong?? he says he can't say no to the dog because of a woman in his life.....I say it doesn't have to be about me....we can say the dog can't be in the new house. Help !!

Sorry, it should be his daughter has a small dog....not his one childs daughter.

Answer 1

I'm confused. Are you two living together or not? I don't know if you know what you're getting yourself into as far as getting involved with a man with children. In the long run it's going to affect your future. The other woman is always going to be in his life because they have soul tides. I don't know how involved you are and if you really want to go through this drama or not. Be prepared and hold on it's only beginning. Can the two of you purchase a doghouse so it can stay outside? Perhaps give the dog a bath and bomb the fleas. Personally, I wouldn't want a dog that sheaded hairs on my furniture either. But what's the real probem here? Is this his way of not wanting to commit? Good luck

Answer 2

It would be cruel to the child, and the dog to be kicked out of the house. The dog is used to being in and out, if it stinks, bathe it.
The child is used to having the dog with it, so having the dog taken away would be mean.
And he is right, he cannot change his whole life for a woman. The children come first, and should.
He does not have the children all the time, so what time he has with them he does not want it to be a fight over who controls the home.
I didnt want an Iguana, but I now have one, and have gotten used to caring for it.
I dont like spiders, but there is a tarantula down the hall. And as long as it doesnt get out, I will not kill it.
The children know if they want these things, they have responsibilities to care for them also. If the dog has fleas, treat it and get rid of them. Teach the child to brush the dog. Less hair and no fleas, you might realize you like the dog.
It's also not good to be the evil step-mother.

Answer 3

Here's the compromise: Tell him you'll figure this all out AFTER HE MARRIES YOU. Lady, you arent even married to this man and you're putting up with things even some wives dont put up with. You're his fool, and I doubt that any advise we give will help, because women like you seem to live off this type of foolish drama. You're giving him free sex, paying half his bills, helping him raise his kids, and putting up with his flea-bitten dog--and you're not even married. Wake up. Kick him, that dog and his kids out of your house until he puts a ring on your finger. If not--you'll be waiting for 16 years for a ring--so help me God.

Answer 4

Here's a compromise: You allow the dog to visit with his daughter, but he vacuums the rug and furniture afterwards. Good luck.

Answer 5

Dear Lady,

I truly am not attempting to be rude, but hey! Get a clue! If you're hang-ups are over something this stupid, imagine your relationship over really important stuff.

See him for good times, a roll in the hay if you want, but when it comes to setting up a household, lady, you need to keep looking!

Answer 6

i think your bf is thinking very good...he foresees alot of problems should he live with you in regard to his children....these are his children and i dont think any woman has the right to make any demands that is going to be disruptive to his reltionship with his child/children.....