Guys, what if she is really terribly bad and inexperienced in bed?

Question

Well i am a virgin and wanna save sex for the marriage. But i still need to know if u r an experienced person, who got used to have a good sex, would it be ok for u that u need to teach ur wife things? And if it takes really long for her to become good would it spoil the marriage or is it ok? Because i know its really hard for me to relax my body, so i know it would take time. Just really need to know. Because i think personally that its more abt mutual understanding than abt experience and stuff like that, but i am a virgin girl, so i may be wrong. I really need to know what guys think of inexperience and teaching the wife all the stuff? Do u think that if the girl is a virgin then its ur business to make from her that kinda wife in bed u need? thx for all kinds of opinions.

Answer 1

Heck, I take it the gist of that, was to see if a fella would actually like to marry a virgin. I'm going to stick my neck on the line - whilst most of them would say it doesn't matter, I think each one would actually be flattered to be the first! It should be special with someone you love - if they love you, he'll have the time and patience to make sure you're ok with the way things move and develop.

Answer 2

Not knowing how old you are, it's tough to answer this question. If you're still a teenager, I'd say go ahead and wait. You have plenty of time to worry about sex and marriage down the line.

If you are over 25, then it's a different situation. Honestly, in this day and age, you'd be better off looking for a man who is also somewhat inexperienced or a virgin himself. You need someone who will be patient and understanding about your situation.

Unfortunately, most men DO expect a woman to be good in bed. That's just the way it is. Virgins over a certain age are few and far between.

Answer 3

I know when I dated my last boyfriend, told him I was a virgin, he thought differently of me, and respected me. Its hard to find a girl that has that type of will power. I'm not waiting for marriage, just the right guy. I knew I found him, and he had slept with his ex, so he knew what to do. It was fun. I know my guy loved that I wasn't that experienced, and that he could make me feel the way I did for the first time gave him a really good ego boost, cause I didn't know any better. Its all good hun. It'll be worth it, and the guy you are with, it'll be great either way. If he's a virgin, you'll learn together and figure out what eachother like and dont. If he is experienced, then he'll know exactly how to please you.

Answer 4

Teaching eachother things is all part of the awesome sharing experience. It is wonderful to be completely uninhibited and show one another what turns you on and even what doesn't. Don't worry about being unexperienced. If you were with the right guy your body would relax very quickly. I do not agree with the idea that a man needs to make his wife the kind of person he needs in bed. It's a mutual sharing experience. You both learn eachother's bodies and become exactly what the other needs in bed.

Answer 5

My question is why aren't you dating a virgin who shares your ideals?? Then you learn together. Real love isn't based solely upon the sexual relationship and real love will be patient and kind and gentle which would solve any challenges to be met throughout the lifetime of the marriage. Realistically, love is what makes it all good whether one becomes sexually unable to function either for a period of time or indefinitely. Love is a choice and a self-less dedication to making the other person happy.
Any man who doesn't appreciate a woman accepting him with a past of having been around the block a few times isn't worth much character wise and such a shallow person who marries for sex only, will not likely be faithful or a mature husband or father. He doesn't "make from her that kinda wife in bed" he thinks he needs. Either they love and please each other without disrespect and learn how to do so or they don't with disasterous results. What a self-indulgent jerk is what I would say and "No thanks" then "Goodbye".

Answer 6

Just relax, don't worry. Just be yourself. Your husband-to-be, even if he is more experienced than you, if he really, truly cares and loves you, will help you and lead you into a loving relationship. If he truly loves you he will definitely not make of fun of your lack of experience.. in fact I think he will so proud of you for waiting to give yourself to your husband.. which husband would not be so proud to be his wife's first lover.. When there is love it all comes out right.. your body will respond loving to his loving touch.. like a match that ignites a flame.

Answer 7

Nothing matters one bit.
As long as you are hot enough, us men can do the rest.
if not, go on a balanced diet, hit the weights, hit the running lane (in that order) put on a lil makeup and you are 100% fine.
we love teaching girls new things, especially sex.
just smile and let us be worried about what to do
as a little extra you might hint to us your preferred positioning.

Answer 8

it would not be a problem as you married the lady for who she not because she is experienced or inexperienced in bed --- for both its always a learning experience to find what each other likes and dislikes that should go on for the entire marriage

Answer 9

I don't think it matters, how experienced a girl is, when you love her, and if she's your wife.
Most men will in love, will take the time to teach her all she needs to know about sex, and pleasing each other.
So don't worry about it, just relax, and if you love him, as he does you, it will all work out.
Most men, prefer women, that they love, don't have all that much experience.

Answer 10

Sex is best in good relationships, you're not going to be used and thrown away like a piece of garbage for instance.