My parents have always been so abusive, and i am in my twenty years old now, and i have no children yet but I have 2 little sister, 5 and 9 yrs old. they didnt feel well so they didnt finish their HW and my mother came home and hit them many times and screamed. i told her to stop, and she said that they were her kids and i have no right in telling her what to do. my sisters and thin and fragile, and they are very sensitive. . . i dont understand why my parents want to hurt them. my mom told me that i have to shuttup and not get involved and that i wasnt her daughter anymore just because i told her to stop. when i was young, they used to beat me so badly(sticks, rollers, rulers, belt...you name it), mostly cuz i was a average student and they wanted me to be a genius. i dont understand and i feel so hurt.
2007-01-02 11:32:11 · 18 answers · asked by Hopekins 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
that's probably what they learned when they were kids.
2007-01-02 12:05:42 · answer #1 · answered by mstrywmn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your old enough to be out on your own. What I would do is the next time this happens, dont say anything just walk out of the room and call the police. Let them handle that. Then I would find a job, if you dont have one already, get your own place and take your sisters with you. Your parents dont deserve any of you and you all would be better off without them. I grew up in a home very much like yours. I am now 25 married and have 3 kids of my own. I dont hit my children. I want to raise them better than what my mother was able to do. I refuse to be like her. My kids will never feel the sting of a plastic hanger going across their back or anything else for that matter. Just get you and your sisters out of there while you can. Good Luck.
2007-01-02 11:40:38 · answer #2 · answered by Danelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there. When parents get frustrated and run out of ideas, some quicker than others, they take that frustration out in violence. There is a huge difference between spanking a child as a form of discipline and physically abusing a child. In essence your parents are attacking your siblings with weapons. The question is, what do you want to do about it? You can call the police and report them, your siblings may get taken away and put in foster homes which may or may not be better. Perhaps, if there is any communications open between you and your parents, when the are not in an abusive mode, try to talk with them. Let them know how you feel. Let them know that you are willing to take action if they don't change their ways.
2007-01-02 11:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by sparkletina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly, we only mimic what we are taught. Perhaps your mother was abused as a child and she see's no wrong in doing so. There is something called generational curses. I must be honest with you. I am the mother with a daughter and it wasn't until she told the school nurse that I didn't realize how bad I really was. The courts in fact had gotten involved. It pretty much came to an end. I had to go to parenting classes. I have to say it's not up to you to be their protectors. It's your mothers job and if she's not doing such a thing, believe me what's done in the dark will come to light. Just pray for them.
2007-01-02 12:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by Jerry S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
relies upon on the age of the youngster. putting age aside for a 2nd, if the parent hits first then the parent could be arrested for attack. mendacity would not resolve something and individuals who intentionally misinform the police can get into trouble besides. it truly is noted as uttering forgery. Now back to the subject. If the youngster is a minor and hits the parent back in easy terms the parent gets into trouble. If pronounced minor possibilities up an merchandise to apply as a weapon against the parent then the minor could be in greater trouble than the parent. All this relies upon on the regulations on the city and state. struggling with by no ability solves issues in a family individuals unit. speaking out the subject concerns is greater efficient.
2016-10-19 09:25:32 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get your sisters out of there!!!! it doesn't matter WHY they are abusing you, or your sisters, the fact is that they are and it is wrong! My sister knew my mother was abusing me ( in more ways than one), but she was too afraid of my mother to do anything to help me. As a result, i was trapped with my mother and her various boyfriends for 10 years. Since then i have been adopted, and haven't been allowed to have contact with my sister, or her 3 children ( who my mother was also beating) in over 7 years.
If you don't do something to try and help them, the situation could get more out of control. They could end up with bitter feelings toward you. Or worse, you could be forced to lose all contact with you until they are legally adults.
2007-01-02 11:48:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some parents are mean but most just want you to behave yourself.I'm 11 so i know what its like to be hit but i have a friend Lori and her sister Amanda is like 21 and i went to their house Amanda held Lorie's hands and hit her because she threw a twig at her some parents like to be mean and hit kids i really don't know why they hit kids but all i know it thats wrong and mean you should yell at kids not hit hitting is violent and the child will just grow up to be just as mean at the parent if you hit
2007-01-02 11:39:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents hit their childen to "discipline" them... they have this theory that when they hit their kids they will do good or better because if they dont they will be hit again which is really painful... by psychologists now think that parents hitting their kids is a little too much because it can deflate the kids ego and stuffs. they say that there are other ways to discipline kids.
try to talk to your mom about it... adult to adult. tell her how you felt when they were hitting you and that that's how your sisters feel too.
i was also hit by my parents when i was younger and it really did the trick on me. im more disciplined compared to my sibs who havent experienced any "violence" from our parents...
2007-01-02 11:42:21 · answer #8 · answered by DruNkStripPeR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents don't want to 'hurt' there kids when they hit them...they simply want control. Force and violence is the simplest and easiest way of getting control of someone. Your typical parent that hits would say 'it's the kids fault for making me do that...if they would just do their work...they would not get hit.'
2007-01-02 11:35:49 · answer #9 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the previous statement. Call a social worker and get them out of there.
2007-01-02 11:39:44 · answer #10 · answered by Gary W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you need to tell the police and get a restraining order on your mom and take the girls and make it as if their your kids cuz they should have a better life
best wishes,hopes, and dreams
2007-01-02 12:35:14 · answer #11 · answered by BrOkEn_LuLLabY...♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋