I've been dating this guy for about three months and he seems to have a problem comunicating his feelings. He recently told me that he had deep feeling for me, but he felt like I was waiting for him, and that he wanted to take things slow. On new year's he decided to spend it alone at home and called at twelve wishing me a happy new year, I just don't understand, he's confusing me....
2007-01-02 11:23:51 · 11 answers · asked by curlysue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well he calls almost everyday, I rarelly call him, but he does know I'm interested....Thanks for all the answers guys ;-D
2007-01-02 11:35:06 · update #1
Oh man! I have had problem exactly like this in the past. There is a few things you could do. First ask yourself if he is worth it? If you really are into him then there are a few things you could do.
The first year of relationships is more a chase game.
If he knows he has you, he'll just take you for granted. But if you show him just the bare minimum of interest then he'll hold on to you. Just call him occasionally let him him do the work, don't spend hours talking to him, tease let him coming back for more.
guys are confusing. he could be going through a lot and just doesn't have time. or family problems. If this is the case, sit with him and ask him and tell him where you stand.
Ask him if you are wasting your time. If so, for him to tell you now. Or classify your relationship as an open relationship. I don't usually recommend this but if your ready for something serious and he's not let him know where you stand and if he wants to take it slow then your able to see other people as well.
I hope this helps. Good luck.
2007-01-02 11:33:23 · answer #1 · answered by Naky247 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been dating for three months and he hasn't asked you out, WHAT IN THE HECK HAVE YOU BEEN DOING?
Are you doing all of the asking?? That is called chasing and it doesn't sound like he is really interested.
2007-01-02 19:27:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly it sounds like your being a little bit clingy here, you want a deep seeded relationship and he maynot be it. you need to look at the relationship for all it is and what you really want and consider his feelings to, possibly he may not want to commit just yet. Also you need to take a look at your life and see if a commitment is what you really want also.
sincerly
AshP
2007-01-02 19:27:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously, he's been hurt before and doesn't want to go through that again...if he wants to take it slow, then let him. he must have a good reason to and it's not probably you. enjoy the dating scene and don't worry too much about it.
2007-01-02 19:26:15 · answer #4 · answered by anonymous001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should keep an eye on him, he might be cheating on you, so you should try to tell him that you want him to step it up. if he acts like he's guilty, or thinking, and frowning a lot then he's probably cheating on you.
2007-01-02 19:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by ningenius+.+ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is like me, he is way too scared to tell someone that he likes her and wants to ask her out because hes affraid that he might be rejected and get his feelings hurt....or maybe he wants to break up...either one works
2007-01-02 19:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by Sheeeep! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just walk right up to him and talk
but do NOT make yourself to available
2007-01-02 19:30:16 · answer #7 · answered by Iloveyou<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be straight up and talk to him about it....guys dont work with signals...they need direct communication...
2007-01-02 19:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by Louisa C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is probably gay, are you hot? you can go out with me! i am old enough for you to get something out of it to lol
2007-01-02 19:25:50 · answer #9 · answered by Brian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Deep feelings....hmmmm...wonder if that is a clue.........move on!
2007-01-02 19:26:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋